| Hey guys, it's been a while, but I could use some help on something.
I haven't encountered this scenario before so I wanted to get some advice on how to handle it. I met this girl about 2 months ago when she just moved into my city after graduating from college. She's a friend of my friend so we start hanging out a lot. Only thing is that she had a long-distance boyfriend. They were on and off for a few years but started dating for like 3 months. She and I hit it off really well and we did a lot of "date-like" activities like concerts, walking around the city, etc. for the past 2 months. Alot of heavy flirting, but no kissing or anything. I can tell she likes me because we get along so well and she is comfortable with my touch such as holding her by her lower back, etc.
Anyways, last week she breaks up with her bf and I feel that I definitely have a part in this. The night after the break up she asks me out for drinks. We make out and I confirm that she thought I was attractive for some time now. (In hindsight this was probably a bad move on my part since I don't want to appear too easy or be the "rebound" guy. However, we are also friends so it felt right). The next day we met up for lunch. It was nice and we had a few kisses, but as I was leaving I tried to kiss her one more time. She denied it and pushed back a bit saying that she just broke up, hasn't been single for a while, etc. So I had to go along and agree with her and say that we should move slowly.
Now, I'm just really confused as to what I should do. I think that I need to give her some space and time to be single. But i'm afraid that if I wait too long, some other dude is gonna come by (I'm used to trying to be more alpha and going after what I want). I don't know if I would be able to handle seeing her hook up with other guys if I was around. But on the other hand I don't want to rush into it and become her rebound guy. Should I just continue to hanging out with her like I usually do and continue to hit on other girls to make her jealous?
Sorry for the long rant, but I'm just confused bc I haven't felt like this in a long time. I've been single for 2 years now and I've done well, but she seems like an actually dateable girl.
Thanks for the help!
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