I have a sticking point and It's what to do after I get a girls number. I'm pretty good at getting the number, that's the easy part. It follows kissing (normally the first time we meet in a bar or club). But for some reason I'm finding it difficult to move on from here, an attraction between me and the girl just no longer exists I'll text her after a few days and I may as well be texting a stranger.

I'm not sure why this happens, but here are my theories.
1) I don't talk to them enough when we first meet.
2) I shouldn't make out with them on the first night (cat-string)
3) I'm a very physical person (how I say something is more important than what I say) and as a result texting is a poor medium.
4) We both sober up and think "what have I done!"

This problem is seriously effecting my relationships with women, I spend all this time gaming a girl only for it to end in 15-20 minutes of kissing. That's like catching a fish, taking one bite and throwing it back in the sea, terrible!

If anyone has any theories as to what I'm going wrong then please say, if you have any advice or If you've learned anything from real life experience then help me out! Thanks!

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Instead of making out for 20 mins why don't try and go for the pull?

Try texting them sooner, as in, the next morning, or even later that night. Just send them something along the lines of "hey, [name here] it's [your name], had a good time last night/tonight."

You could modify that one of two ways:

if it's the same night, add something like this: "drop me a [text/call] tomorrow"

if it's the next day, add something like this: "I'm going to [get lunch/dinner/go out tonight] at a new [cafe/restaurant/club] [today/tonight], you should come along."

these are, of course, bare bones, you can add any kind of subliminals or whatever into these if you like, but it should give you a base to work off.


Good luck

Vicious25 doesn't it look a bit desperate if you contact a girl the next day? I have a habit of trying to move too fast.

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Depends, if you were to call her, it might seem that way, but the idea is to try and give the impression that the text is more of a formality, but to use it to lead into a date or such. Perhaps you might want to wait a bit longer before asking her for a date, you could wait two days before asking her to do something with you rather than waiting two days to text her. Either way, it will prevent her from forgetting about you so easily, or labeling you as "that guy I made out with two nights ago."

As a general rule of thumb, things only look desperate if you make them seem that way.

If you engage them and give them a positive experience they'll look forward to your call with anticipation. If you're dry, boring, and feed them the same bullshit they've heard from 20 other guys that night, they'll have no reason to want to even bother with you beyond giving you their number.

Nope. In fact it'll ensure she'll remember you better as things are still 'fresh'.

How about just calling them? Seriously, forget texting, call them, like right away. Calling won't make you sound desperate at all, is how you carry the conversation what makes the difference. In my experience calling a girl as soon as you get her number always leaves a good impression on her, it has a strong surprise factor, and women like surprises. You don't have to set a date right there, and you can answer her text msgs too, but calling her will show that you have confidence. Again, what's to fear? Just call her to see how's she's doing, be smooth and relaxed about it.

I have read a thing somewhere, or could be a video. Don't remember, but the message went something like this:

If you met a girl during day game(library, grocery store, etc) call her within 3 days. If you met her in night game(club, bar), call her the next day. The reason being is, girls don't get approach in day time a lot compare to night game. So you have a bit more room. Night game, she may have been given her number to multiple guys! Some guys may have already contact her so she may lose interest. So call her next morning. Remember what she said about her job and such because good timing could mean the world when calling/texting.

Like always, good luck in your near future game and always, have fun and try new things if the old doesn't work.

-Jax