well...for the past year or so ive developed somthing and ive also been trying to bury it but it just seems to keep getting worse.

in the simplist way i can put it: i am scared to go out

when i go out in general, i start breathing heavily, eyes darting everywhere

its really starting to make me depressed, will i be like this my whole life
i think about death alot, and i am scared

is this normal

this girl, real hot, keeps asking me out to pubs and clubs. i just keep turning them down because i just fear going out at night...why? is there any hope?

im 17 and i dont want this to continue throughout my entire life

with that initial fear
i fear boyfriends. thats what turns me away from almost all hot girls. that there may be a guy coming after me because i fucked her.

my life right now is in the shambles..help me please

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Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.

work on your inner game. Everything else will come along

You're out of practice socially is all.

Go out by youreslf for the next week. Just walk around, observe people, smile.
Go into a pub order a drink, BY YOURSELF. Go shopping, BY YOURSELF

U get the idea


Being more sociable and comfortable in social environments is all about becoming acclimated. If you are staying holed up at home naturally you'll feel anxious going out. But if you go out often, and on your own and see that nothing terrible had happen (quite the contrary usually), your social anxieties will become a thing of the past.

Like asesino said, it just boils down to practice. I used to be the same way. There isn't some magic trick you can do to make things better overnight. When that girl asks you to go out, just suck it up and go out. Get a few drinks; despite what some people say, using alcohol as a crutch is perfectly fine when you're first starting out. Eventually things will come naturally.

thanks for replying

ive been mugged once or twice..the sight of a hoodie, thats what really worries me. you see on the news terrible things now days..thats how i portray the night..the idea of having a good time at night..well its somthing ive never done. i assume its always full of trouble

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Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.