I've just started reading The Game, because my girlfriend broke up with me. I realized that I was probably too easy to get. She was my first gf and I was willing to do anything for her. The first month and a half we were together were incredible. We spent together all the time we could and we made out whenever we could. She told everyone about me and thought that I was perfect, she was already thinking about what we could do in the summer etc. (it was January or February). I had probably similar feelings and I couldn't picture myself with any other girl than her. Than she went to a ball or something and had fun there and realized that she didn't miss me at all and that she had never had this much fun with me and suddenly everything was gone. I asked her what was going on and she told me that she just want's to fall in love crazily and that she had never felt it in our relationship, that it started out weird, that there was no flirting etc....

A few days ago she broke up with me because she was just not feeling it and I realized that I was probably too nice to her. I really never did any seducing or flirting and I thought that I could maintain the relationship by being nice further on. I can relate to the guy Marko in The Game who decided to give this seduction game a try after the girl he loved fell for the two guys who "could play". I found out, that all girls probably want this, but while reading the book, I realized two things:

1. They were trying to get one night stands all the time - that's not what I want. I want a relationship - will all this really help me even if I'm looking for something more serious?

2. Even though that I'm quite happy now after I realized, that the last month was more like an agony and that break up was a good choice, I can't stop thinking about it if any of these techniques could make this girl want me again, like in the beginning. Do you think that I still have chance of getting her back and provide her the feelings that she longs for (I think that what she really want's isn't falling in love, but something like being totally submitted to someone. For me falling in love is something that doesn't depend on seduction skills)? We stayed "friends" and I think I could persuade her to meet with me. I really feel like I want THIS particular girl and no other.

Maybe I want just HER because she was my first gf and that just means something? I want to go on the newbie mission tomorrow and slowly start moving on, but I still feel like I'd much rather have her that the hottest playmate...

My last question is - what the heck was she feeling in the beginning if it wasn't what she calls being in love???

Sexual attraction. That attraction died though when she failed to get the dopamine effect with you. Here's the science behind this reasoning, http://helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/15npolve.pdf

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I'm glad you came honest about saying you are an AFC and you made a mistake. To begin, I know exactly the feeling you have at this time! It's your first girlfriend.. Trust me few years ago when i first had a gf, I cried for days after she broke up with me. I thought she was the perfect one, and I could never find someone like her. I took an advice from a mate and it was to meet as many other women as I can. That is exactly what I did... My whole idea of this girl changed! TRY IT!! If you want her back? Well, girls like adventurous and unpredictable.. Keep that in mind! I would make her jealous too in different ways. Once she feels that you are not her reach, she will come back!
Good luck

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move on man. So much effort wasted on this one girl. Nothing is better than new pussy. Just learn from the experience, keep up on your quest on being a man

You're right, she's probably not that special and I'll most likely realize that when I meet someone else.