Hey man thanks!

I really need to step up, I mean all i'm doing is just opening right now but you're right it generally is uglier girls but I think that's just because I'm not attracted to them and I'm being overly nervous for someone asking for directions.

Also I'm starting to incorporate this into my life as in trying to get dates and meets with girls around my social circle. I always hear of people getting so much further and quicker with their game than me so I need to step up!


3 field reports

I'll put MONDAY, WEDNESDAY, THURSDAY and SATURDAY into one field report.

I didn't type these up. So I'll just put what I've learnt.

Basically I managed to carry on doing a few compliments after the opener EVEN though every sarge had to be ended 'early' like only 4hours instead of until I did what i felt was good because of commitments to meeting friends.

Anyway, on saturday (today) I had a date which I'll type up in a sec where i thought i was being stood up.

This hit me so hard that I just went looking for someone to open with a compliment.

A quiet stretch with a hot asian walking passed. My face tense with nerves. I stop and say "Hey I know this is a bit random but I wanted to say you look really good". She didn't speak a word of english and just looked at me as she walked passed in confusion LOL

Anyway that took me ages to find the right 'conditions' to open like that.

Anway it turned out i didn't get stood up but as i didnt have a phone i couldnt ring her and realise i was at the wrong place.

The Date

Lying in bed annoyed at how i couldn't close even though i have flirted with a few girls i got fed up and switch the light on.

Loaded the computer up

Went on facebook and spoke to a girl I thought I had a chance with but weren't sure. At first i thought i was annoying her or something but she was actually friendly to speak to and we got chatting, i flirted, not one ounce of 'game'.

Just being real, genuine (about getting to know her and that i was attracted to her) and she LOVED it. I said "This is fun we should do this is person" she agreed and literally said a place and time and asked if i wanted her number.

About the date: I will sort out a phone as i happened to have lost it and couldn't contact her about not being able to find her.

I've realised this a lot, its always when i'm just being genuine and real whilst showing im attracted and MOVING THINGS ALONG that i've ever had any success. I always act like an idiot, use pua tactics/lines or do stupid shit when I HAVE NO IDEA what to do or don't feel like im enough. Which then always goes bad and weird.

We've rescheduled for another time.

How I Met Her

We were doing a short documentary in uni and we were interviewing people, i asked these 2 girls to interview them - one being her and i said i'll add them on facebook if i need their help again but I never really thought anything of it.

Then we spoke on facebook and it went great! the meet was about 6 months ago but we recently had a 'facebook status' convo and i used that to speak to her in chat.


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Goals: was to open direct by March 31st. technically I did with the foreign Asian girl and i had an entire week of people wanting to do things with me during the day so i couldn't just stay out until I've gotten as far as i want.


THIS WEEK:

Speak to 35 girls with A) open with a compliment about something on them or B) open with a compliment on their looks.

Also start closing with girls in my social circle like i did with this girl.

Im also going to start going out at night too. Yay.


I feel like this is taking to long too, as in I'm learning this wrong OR I don't man up enough or something. It'd be great for someone to tell me why or if i'm doing this all wrong


Cheers guys!! Also I have the next 3 weeks to myself pretty much so its going to be like 8hours of sarging each day until i DO it all.

Finding My Bearings

Today was good, after speaking with ManchesterGuy over SPAM and the fact I have 3weeks with no one around - so pure sarging - I felt confident.


Issues Addressed


- Small goals each day
- Compliment opener
- Indirect Dilemma
- Complimenting and going direct
- Social Circle


Small Goals

Each day of sarging i realise how important small goals are. Today was good because recently I've been opening indirectly then complimenting AFTER. Which I know wouldn't lead anywhere but would DESENSITISE me to direct approaching. But after today - I did a compliment opener - I feel I can drop this and now begin my true progression journey of approaching

Let me explain. . .

Each day I have one specific goal that is MARGINLY further than the day before:

Example:

Open indirectly
Open indirectly + statement
Open indirectly + 2 statements
Open indirectly + 2 statements & name introduction.

Also I only have to do 1 but spend a day or 2 after doing a few more to get under my belt.

OR

Compliment
Compliment and say I wanted to meet them
Compliment say I wanted to meet them & Name Intro


It may take a week to implement each level as in 5-7 days and the first 1 I do it once in an easy situation and the rest are to properly fix it into my behaviour.


Compliment Opener

Today I manage to do a compliment opener, i did a few indirects and 1 compliment after the opener but seeming as its been 2 days since I have been properly out in the field i wasn't feeling it.

I saw a okay looking girl on a bench, so i sat down, got out my pad and wrote out a few motivational lines for randoms-sake. then got up and said she looked good and walked off. She looked confused and I was soooo nervous. YAY I DID IT!!

Indirect Dilemma

With Indirect, now i've done the compliment after. I'm going to go back to the statements I used to do for a bit and build it from there to get interactions going this way. This is ONLY because opening indirect doesn't build my state if i'm just opening so i may as well see if i can get interactions and closing going.

Only opening if i can't do the compliment/direct on them, right now, I can only do compliments in the right conditions.

It'll only ever be a secondary goal when I'm out. Put all focus into tiny single goals each day.

Complimenting and going Direct

This is what I want to do to! Hopefully by the end of the week I'll be direct "hey i thought you looked really cute and wanted to meet you. My name's Cornishman"

Social Circle

Once term time starts again, I'm going to build up my social circle. Well i actually have lots of people i know BUT I don't hang out with them which has always been the case. I will make lots of plans for most days to hang out with people and BE THE PLANNER, the guy with stuff to do.

23rd APRIL GOALS

23rd is when my term begins again.

Here are my goals:

- To cut out starch from my diet apart from potatoes and oats. Although after this bag of potatoes is gone I'll move onto sweet potatoes. I'll lose some weight this way and get a better body.

- Go gym 5 times a week each week. Increasing reps/weight on deadlift and squat

- To have close the 3 girls I know I must at least TRY with. No matter what!

- To have had date and meet and possible lay with the girl I met.

- To be able to open directly the way i am opening Indirectly right now - with relative ease

- To be pushing forward with Indirect, able to do 5 follow up statements/observations etc

- to have my script ready for filming

- to have all uni work done




END OF WEEK: 8TH APRIL GOALS

To be able to follow up after the compliment or open indirectly then go direct.

To have close one girl i think i can close.

To stack 3 observations after the opener off indirect.

Such great goals, and great planning... and Sticking to it.

I'm so inspired. This is really good stuff man.

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Hey thanks for the props! I love reading yours too, where are you based at?

Number closing - a great lesson learnt

Tuesday 3rd April

Today my goal was to open with a compliment again. This time 3 times.

Issues Addressed

- Opening with a compliment
- The night is darkest before the dawn/hanging in there
- Being more sexual
- Not being in the mood is something to accept

Opening with a compliment

Today I went out, even though I really didn't feel like it. i got out super late as i just lay about unsure of whether to go out and making lots of excuses of why i shouldn't.

Anyway I got out and as my goal was to open with a compliment I found i was barely even opening direct at all. The few I did i was hella nervous as i was thinking about opening direct.

Indirect is so fucking lame, i always feel like a right weirdo doing it and asking for directions - the conversation is weird when you know all the places anyway as in you actually act weird.

Anyway just as i was thinking about how "You have to struggle through the hard times" on a MACRO level and was going to give up, i saw a hot girl on the phone at a bench. 4 guys around her though.

I saw down, wrote down a few random thoughts "you miss 100% of every shot you don't take", different frames etc. She got off the phone. God she was hotter than i thought.

I turn to her and told her she looked really good, she said thanks and smiled.

I turn back to my pad and start writing how im proud of myself for doing it. She then said i made her day and asked what i was writing/doing. I thought she had seen i was writing about her HOLY SHIT! but she hadn't and we got into a conversation that took a while to kick start, just frequent looks and remarks until i realised she actually wanted a conversation with me!

We got on really well and it was a normal conversation, maybe too normal im not sure if she saw it as just friendly or not. Anyway, i asked questions as well a remarks and stuff. A few lulls that went for about 3-5 seconds but i quickly carried them on.

I got to know 5 or so things about her which i think is good for rapport: It's easy to realise you talked about so much but not know you know anything about them!!

She was from Belarus but spoke perfect english with an english accent. i hesitated to introduce myself for a while but did. And then I really hesitated on the close BUT KNEW I HAD TO, she was too cute to miss and she was asking questions about me too.

She knew i didn't have a phone ( I havent had one for weeeeeeks, should sort that out really) gave me her full name for facebook but i got her number as well.

closing line "We should do this another time, you're really cool to speak to". This is what my line is i guess, as its qualifying her and low pressure ALSO 'Should' makes the girl reply yes or no and COMMIT to it. Not sure if its any good but i like it.

I didn't want to be sleazy and just leave - as we were having fun too - so i asked her about the photo shoot she was waiting for and talked a bit more then went off. I actually told her early on I was about to go, so it wasn't like "ta-daaaa! i have your number see yaaaaa"

I then walked off happy, over the moon and was in a good mood all day that i should probably be in more often as i have been really playful and fun with the 2 friends i've spoken to since then.

The night is darkest before the dawn

In my sarges its always been when i feel like giving up and going home that i've always progressed. Indirect sucks though. My first REAL compliment opener where i havent ran off and the girl reopens ME and we get speaking.

Also literally 5minutes before speaking to this girl i was genuinely thinking this, "What am i doing, what have i been doing with my life? Going to clubs having no fun. Watching weird videos and dvds, walking around a stupid city by myself going nowhere and progressing fuck all!! I literally have learnt nothing other than to ask hot girls for directions! Im fucking mad, ive wasted so much time"

But Napoleon Hill did say "Everybody who has gotten somewhere has always had a few major setbacks before they hit success.". I now can chat up girls, just open them in quieter areas whilst they are sat down and build up to walking in the street. I know its hard and uncomfortable BUT ITS FUN!!

Being More Sexual

i could have probably been a bit more sexual in the conversation with her and made sure she knew my intentions were clear but the conversation was going good and i always find things go bad when i start trying to "force the frame".

Although when she said she had a black dress to wear for the photo shoot i could have asked to see it and said "You'll look even sexier in it". But hey, it was my first interaction give me a break.

Not being in the mood

I was SO NOT in the mood to go out. I was literally listing all the excuses "do work" catch up on the books i should be reading or "Its really late as i woke up late too", "i feel really bad and tired and shitty"

But the same thing hit me every time "Just do it. If i can go out when I', NOT in the mood then when i am, it'll be even easier". Also because i knew i was going to be opening with a compliment i knew how much i was going to be pushing my comfort zone as it scares me SHITLESS.

THE MAIN THOUGHT that got me out was "If i go out now and accomplish this small goal, ill be one day ahead if i didn't". Everyday is a gift and take full advantage of it.



GOAL FOR TOMORROW

To do the same, open a girl with a compliment - make there day.

Also if i do indirect try and push it forward with a statement/compliment OR say "i actually asked you as i wanted to meet you"


peace and love guys

Another Learning Experience


Topics

- 3 Compliments
- A date


3 Compliments

I went into town and I opened a girl for directions then complimented her.

Complimented a girl standing, waiting. She was hot. I was so nervous, i walked off straight away.

Next was another girl WHO WAS HOT, she was sitting against a small wall. At first i walked passed. Deep breathe, turned around. complimented and got the fuck out of there!! This was straight after having the 'breaking Point', the low point where i want to go home.

Then I had another low point after this, mainly because I'm learning a new comfort zone pushing behaviour I can't open much and its kinda boring walking around by yourself.

I thought I'd never be able to open a girl walking and was saving that till the next day (today, as I'm writing in hindsight) anyway i randomly opened a girl walking, deep breathe and did it.

I believe the 3 second rule is A LOAD OF SHIT, I need to get my head together which takes a few seconds. i mean sure you can stale yourself out but if you open too quickly, at least for me, you basically go blank and don't open.

maybe when I'm better I'll be able to do the 3 second rule.

Also i saw a smooooooooking blonde in a shop, so so so hot, great ass but i didn't open. Chickened out.


The Date

The girl from saturday who, as it turns out, thought i stood her up when i thought it was vice versa, messaged me asking if i wanted to meet up for drinks.

But the message hinted there'd be others, it turned out it was one person about something to do professionally or something.

I'd literally just got back from sarging, an hour to get ready and out the house.

So i met her in a quiet fancy, nice place. We chatted for a bit, told a few funny stories that'd happened to me ( Such as elbowing a pigeon into an old grannies face. . . dont ask)

Anyway she said "I got stood up earlier", i thought "What! I thought i was really clear i was interested in her sexually" but she mentioned i wasn't a back up or anything and wanted to meet me. Probably was but idc - people have lives and its not like she didn't want to meet up with me before.

Anyway, when the friend came they just talked for ages whilst i listened, I didn't wanna get too 'friendly'. She was really open about how bad her day had been and all her problems (which is why she was meeting the friend), so i just shut up, i didn't want to get involved in that stuff

Anyway, when we left the place, the friend went home and earlier she said she had no way of getting home, i said she could stay at mine.

As soon as the friend had gone, i linked up arms with her and we got into nice playful conversation, back at mine we planned to go out. we played about.

i quickly did the close your eyes[/u] k-close but only a peck and then, her being drunk, didn't get why i asked her to close her eyes LOL anyway she gave me a kiss back and i went and took a shower.

She didnt want to go out as she was tired. Played about, a few short kisses.

Btw JESUS I WAS NERVOUS when she said "Oh can i crash at yours", i just thought "Shiiiiiiiit i havent had sex in exactly 3 years!!!" Heeeeeeeelp!

Also her and her friend got into sexual topics quiet easily and i felt like a kid being allowed to eat with grown ups who were talking about shit i was too immature to understand.

I mean i can make flirty jokes and be sexual but what can i say "Ohhh well my facebook relationship status is 'its complicated' with my right hand".

We got into my bed after i'd thrown loads of pillows at her but she just wanted to snuggle, randomly when i was just manhandling her playfully i kissed her neck and she said "I don't know you enough yet", i said "Cool"

Anyway, i tried to put her hand on my dick but she wasn't having any of it and we had a talk - she wanted a relationship, i said i'm looking for something light, nothing serious ( I like to be honest even if it does shoot me in the foot, maybe I shouldn't say this kinda stuff till we've had sex)

Anyway after she fell asleep, i was wide awake as i had a boner and don't go bed till a few hours later anyway, so dry-humped the shit out of her.

Next day she left as i walked to the shop with her to get foood


Lessons Learnt

I realised MAYBE i was being BF type material. I wasn't being aggressive and sexual enough or persistent.

Next time, dominate the frame about being sexual.

I definitely could have just been persisting and persisting - I'd rather go to the limit than live 'What if' land.

Maybe it is just time that's needed. I mean she was saying early on in the night with her friend how she's really liberal etc.

Next girl i get back, i will be way more sexual and dominant - escalate like fuck. I will be a machine!

Tomorrow's Goal

To do a direct approach, a real interaction with a girl after the opener.

Obviously it might take a few hours to get into it and opening with compliments.

Mindsets and pointers:

I'm a chode, I'm bad with women right now, so I don't really have any 'standard' to live upto when i speak to them.

I'll never see them again.

Its pretty validating to be approached genuinely in the street. The russian girl even said so.

You don't need to be 'perfect' or amazingly charismatic to get the girl or any girl, just genuine

Its the act of doing it that is important to me NOT the outcome, I'm just learning and have an entire life ahead of me.

Each day is important, crucial, so make the most of it.

Give myself a break when I'm out there, don't live to my own straw-man ideals of what i should be like.

I'm a cool guy with a lot to offer.

The Russian girl shows i can at least have a conversation with a girl after the opener. The date I had last night shows i can have a date and a fun, flirty time with a girl I've met before.

The only thing that's been stopping me is a lack of opportunities, well ive had loads but I used to not act on them thinking OH WHEN IM GOOD I'LL SPEAK TO HER. NUH -UH!!! You speak to her and get experience which will lead to you being good in the future. Act on all opportunities, each day should be ADVANCING in terms of pick-up:

Indirect left me stuck on the opener. NOT ANYMORE!!! Direct means I can get shit done.

No excuses.

Its fun, its a rush to speak to girls. I mean the worst that can happen is a girl just say she's not interested or the conversation doesn't go anywhere

AND best? Well we all know that

Peace guys, i dont care how long it takes me out there I'm coming home after I've done a real approach.

^^That was sooo funny mate.

But Jesus fucking Christ, you're making some serious progress here!! You're able to chill with her and not have an issue she's with a friend. You're able to get her back to yours. You're able to playfully kiss, and dry hump her?!

Seriously, good shit man. Stop for a second to take that in and give yourself a well deserved pat on the back!

I love how in your journal you divide taking steps into micro steps! And hit those targets every-time. For the record I'm officially going to try and copy your style.

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Haha the dry humping bit was whilst she was asleep

Tbh this is stuff i should have done a loooong time ago. But i guess all this failure just allowed me to realise where success is. Like for one thing when i had a wing, i could open at night reasonably easy but since i lost them I can barely say 'hi' in a club.

hence why I'm doing daygame.

Seriously appreciate your comments Tweeby! Where are you based? If you're not too far we could do a little day/night sarge, I'm happy to travel.


I got a lot of ideas of your journal in terms of laying it out a bit better, been trying to improve my layout recently.

My only advice is direct is actually easier than indirect, i mean that in terms of 'AA' too. But I'm a newbie, so I'm probably wrong.

Its just suprisingly hard to make conversation from Indirect during the day, like super-hard.

Break in Sarging and a 'sort of' close

Thursday and today have been interesting with a little setback; setback is good. I feel like I'm having this setback because my brain is TRYING to stop me expending energy and growing/changing as I expect to open DIRECTLY and go into real conversations.

Remember Sunday is my deadline for direct approaching

Topics

- Slump in sarges
- 2 part Fb conversation
- Sarging causing problems


Slump in sarging

Simply put; I didn't go out on Thursday albeit because of not sleeping much having a girl around and having to be up early to let her out.

But when i went out on friday (today) I still didn't open with a compliment. I managed to do one indirect approach that was terrible even for me. This was because i went out with the intention of just doing compliments and direct.

I had one opportunity which was when a foreign girl was sat on a bench, i sat down next to her, waited for her to get off the phone then when she finally did quiet a few people were around.

THEN these 2 random dickheads sat between me and her BUT the only thing that annoyed me was that instead of sitting on a bench where they could sit together, they sat either side of me!

Who does that? Fucking freaks and weirdos, i know they didnt think i was trying to chat her up but it was weird, like people who next to you on the bus when there are loads of free aisles.

Anyway, i went out today and i just knew i wasn't going to open. It was like something inside of me wasn't there.

2 Part conversation

Okay there's this girl i know around Uni and i chatted to her on facebook quiet a bit on FB after she asked me if i wanted to buy some tickets for a pub crawl off her - she was helping a friend.

Anyway, its always been light and playful.

Thursday's convo

Well this one i started the convo with the intention of straight up asking her to go out to a comedy show (I said we can go to an amateur night and laugh at how bad they are) Buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut when she said "oh sure, who's coming?" I straight up chickened out and said "ohh some friends, you bring some too!"

See i know this is through social circle and there's a rapport line in social circle game. Also i don't know if i'm LJBF'd etc etc. Playing to NOT GET REJECTED rather than to get the girl (important frame i'm trying to instill and act on0

Friday's conversation

Well here i just linked her a funny video i found on youtube to a few people including her (its pretty well known but it made me laugh and therefore everybody's gotta see it).

And she asked me what i was doing, i said "chilling naked"

I guess this is a chodey attempt to Sexually Frame a conversation. Anyway we got into a cool conversation where I do shit like self-depreciate;

"Ohh im not out because im a loner"
"oh yeah i'm a weirdo"
"Im a bad man, that's why"

*this is generally coming from her knowing me from nights out etc and knowing I'm, at least, a socially cool guy.

Anyway, until i mentioned my hometown (a popular tourist resort) then she said she'd love to go there for a holiday and even mentioned she was looking online for places to stay as we spoke.

soooooooooo i pulled this little line out the bag "oh definitely come down, ill buy you a drink". . . "So i can take advantage of you", she took it pretty well and flirted back

And yeah I know no one needs to hear any of this LOL, i was doing dumb shit like trying to get her to buy me easter eggs and drinks too.

Aaaanyway, I think I might actually have a chance but as of now, she's not in the area (people away for holidays) so i'll definitely get the conversation flowing like it did today then get a 1 on 1 meet together.

ALSO it's worth noting a few things;

I know words aren't really all that matters and these lines are just a small thing.

The reason i speak to her over FB is because she's not someone i see out too often unless its on a night out when she'll be super drunk and i don't relaly know how to handle clubs as i don't go to them too often anymore (may work on it).

So i'll set up a 1 on 1 date

Also I'm kinda clueless about how social circle game 'works' like is this just social circle fun or is this something 'serious' and i mean that in terms of sex rather than relationship if you get me.

Sarging ruining day

I find it hard to balance sarging with doing work, like i know i dont go out for ages
but the very fact I'm doing it first thing makes the rest of the day hard to work for some reason. I also find I don't get anything done in general, i know this is probably just me being lazy and unorganised too.

Fucking facebook and Youtube sucking the life out of me! Need to get rid of them hahahaha

Also just remembered

Hot Belarus Girl, the girl i properly complimented then she reopened me and i got her number (proof I can do it and just need to step out of my comfort zone and build on it).

I messaged her today over facebook still waiting on that phone!!) saying that I'm coming into the city to do some clothes shopping and for her to come along, and that we'll get ice cream after as i know a great place.

She said "sounds fun, never gone clothes shopping with a guy before", to paraphrase.

I know meeting a girl on the street, getting her number/Fb and a date sounds axiomatic (there goes my word of the day!) but is this really a date? I mean the conversation wasn't too flirty although in my follow-up Fb message i said "Hope the photoshoot went well, bet you looked hot" - bit lame but ya know.


Anyway, some true harsh criticism is well needed! I thrive off criticism and harsh truthful realities.
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P.s. Saturday is for getting uni work done, so i can get into a true workmode - no fb,youtube,music, not even allowed to leave my room until 2 main priorities are done and reading THEN might go into town and do a DIRECT APPROACH.

But SUNDAY - FINAL DAY - I will do a direct approach - remember that stationary girls are easiest, just sit/stand next to them and chill, focus then open and don't walk off. Peeeeeeeeeeeeerfec'

Dude,

Your progress is immense!

Thought, I gotta be honest the dry humping was a little weird!

I don't think it's about being forceful at all next time, try to make the move before your both in bed as otherwise you build this big thing up which I think is what happened to you.

Your definitely correct with stationary girls being easier!

Did you meet up with the girl you direct opened (yes, it was a date!)?

It seems once you started complimenting direct your progress has zoomed!

Also, I imagine (haven't done any direct day game openers only night game) that it's easier to ask a question then compliment on something particular before you go directly opening (saying straight away that you think they are really hot) see it as like a bridge between the two.

Good-luck,

Sticks

Hey,

Whats the latest?

Sticks