Just wanted to add my 2 cents.

This girl is in medicine. If you're gonna stick it out with her, you better get your shit together and realize this is only the beginning. if you think it's any less busy after school is out, you're just dreaming man.

She's always gonna be busy, flaking out on you for work, and shit like that. If you're man enough to take it, good for you. But just don't think it's gonna be a cake walk.

Personally, I'd do what you know is right. When she is busy, enjoy yourself. Do that and you can't lose. Either she figures it out and things go well, or things don't work out and you're prepared for that because you have other options, some of which might be better by the way. Just cause she's in medicine and makes good money doesn't make her the woman of your dreams. Especially when you consider the fact that the job is always going to be right at the top of the priority list.

Good luck!

Yeah I know what you are saying. And thanks for the advice.

I really dont care what she does. I make more money than her and will in the future so it's not some money thing for me. All I can say is I have gone out with a lot of chicks and some way more successful than her. I have relationships with struggling artists and successful private equity types and they were always a bit incomplete. At least from my standpoint. We all are, but there's something about this one that really does it for me. The right amount of beauty, sweetness, confide nce, intelligence etc. she seems like she is not neurotic or needy or in a hurry to get the complete life now. She focuses on her task and just does it well.

It's just timing that is fucked up. If I met her six months from now it would be easier. She is not in one of those crazy specialties with all night calls etc. but right now she's in the home stretch of a long journey and I would be focused on that also because you don't spend 7-10 years training to fuck it up in the last four months for a guy, even if you like him. She told me her next 3 months would be real busy and asked I not pressure her with arguments right now. Hence I chilled out, but she would be asking me out for the last few weeks. Do I have a right to be upset that she set the date and was late, or canceled because she got stuck at the hospital? Yes and no.

I kinda think I know what I am into, but it's more that I don't know if I am wasting my time. Dated a lawyer chick who would have marathon work sessions but would text me at night saying she misses me etc. this one doesn't do that but that girl was also super needy. Guess what I am saying is I don't know if this relationship is dying or dead because I can't figure the chick out. Yes I agree there is plenty of tail out there.

This girl is very cerebral but yet still wild and funny. Call it one-it is, but I think she's quite a special chick to me.

I just been a weak bitch for the last month and lost some attraction and now trying to see if I can repair my image by backing off. Always initiating is killing my cause.

Though, again, after canceling on fri it's a bit weird she hasn't sent one message since Saturday when we spoke (yes she initiated on Saturday and we kept it light and fun). Is she pretending to be real busy and meeting some guys, I don't know. Is she over this because I showed too much weakness. I don't know.

It's just no man's land and not sure where it's going. Talking about does nothing because she tells me she is into it. Maybe it's my own paranoia and I have to just chill out but the mind needs clarity.

Ok this is just one of the more cynical thoughts I am having:

Obviously still spending way too much time focused on this but after a week of no contact I really think by flaking basically she is saying to me that she wants me gone from her life. It does seem odd to invite me out but I think perhaps at some level she resents me continuing to contact her and then do a no show to really drum home the point I need to stop. Why do this instead of breakup? Not sure but she wants me to walk away without her having to tell me. Maybe she thinks it will hurt less if I leave in anger instead of her breaking it off. Because we talked about serious things she may fear that it will hurt too much so she's trying to be a dick so I choose to leave. Both sides save face that way.

This seems far fetched because she said on wednesday looking forward to seeing you and some other sweet stuff but again it's to lure me in and then do the ultimate dick move.

This other chick once did that to me on some dating site. I approached her by email and then stopped talking to her and then a few months later approached her for a date. She said yes and we agreed as to when and where. I got there waited 15 min and text her. She said oh sorry u didn't get my text. I have to help a sick friend. I said I didn't and went home. Just a dick move

I think if this one doesn't try to contact even next week, then the above could be true. If I try to contact at some point then eventually she will break up

This is a far fetched paranoid thought but somehow it makes her lack of effort for the last couple of weeks make sense. Maybe she met a guy recently and she is trying to make me go away peacefully.

Better to think positive and not think about it but somehow I think this may be the answer.

No contact from her a week after her flake. Looks like I need to end this and break up with her as there is no more respect. Suspect I need to figure out why I went from one extreme to the other. Went from a chick who chased and begged me for affection to the opposite extreme. Still very much into this current one, but the freeze out means shit to her. Think I need closure and she needs to understand that things have gone too far. If she wanted out anyways then she gets her wish. Am already looking to meet other chicks. Got one lined up and hopefully two others from online dating that approached me. Goal is just be casual and restore self respect, and I can't deny that getting attention from women, works better than anything.

Not gonna do it till next week but plan is to take a break from this one for an extended period of time. Even a guy i was sitting next to on the plane who started talking about his situation and how his girl was working him over. His solution - I'm out of this. In his case chick begged him to come back and he restored his power. Don't think mine will be so easy. All I know is I am on a bad path and it needs to stop before I drive off a cliff (figuratively speaking of course)