the thing is she has been manipulated by some friend (or maybe shez assuming herself) that i want to have physical relatin with her and thats all i care about...whereas i do have genuine feelings for her and i dont even think about that..i would have moved on if that wouldn't have been the case.. this has all gotten very complicated

You made a lot of mistakes. You talked too much and listened to her too much when you should've been taking action. Then you screwed up some more... I don't know if you can salvage this situation.

Like Pumpington said, what you really need to do is make everything "your fault." SO STOP THINKING ABOUT WHAT SHE'S SAYING. She'll be resisting until the last moment, do your own thing.

What I would do is just tell her directly that I miss spending time together. "I like you, I really want to spend time with you, we'll grab some subway sandwiches, go for a walk and enjoy each other's company, just like old times."

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Well i read the post a few times and it was very obvious that things could have gone further between you and her. She's been in that relationship for 6 years, she obviously saw something in you that she doesn't see in her bf anyone and that's why she came into you. But for whatever reason, she was NEVER gona finish up with her bf for you, so in other words you were her little toy that she needed to respark her relationship with her bf. If she'd got angry because you told her roommate then you could have said to her that it doesn't matter because she told her/him as well. You pushed way too far by aplogising, you should have just left it in the first place and let things be/happen. Shoulda got got on with your life and be the same exact person that you were when she started speaking to you, then at that point she woulda realised the mistake that she'd made.

All you could do now is just act like you're no longer bothered about the whole thing, have some dignity and STOP aplogising to her. You have apollogised and she hadn't accepted it, so why go on like an AFC trying to apologise over and over again?! :S Move on, forget her, friends come and go and when she sees that you're not longer bothered then she will start talking to you again.

Ok i agree i am all going like an AFC but all the time i just wanted to show her that all those thing that happened were my fault just to show her as if all that happened was just for the moment so she stops bringing her ASD instinct and never talk to me because of her image and all..i told her roommate about things which she dint mention..so i apologised for that..

Now all this is going no where . I felt she had this connection with me. thought of texting her about all the stuff we did together. I am not apologising to her ever again thats for sure .. but its a bit of a dilemma whether i should give it a try to be her friend again or just forget it ..

one thing she sometimes tries to show me that she is very happy with her life all of a sudden after the fight (or maybe she really is..i dunno)..i choose to ignore her but whats she trying to show..

btw I am leaving the city shes in after few days and really want to make friens with her

FORGET IT because she made her mind that she doesn't want to be friends with you, the more you push the more she will hate you. Just leave it and in the future she might offer to be friends with you again!
Dude what part of leave it do you not understand?! Have some dignity you fool, move on and find someone else. Stop embarrassing yourself you idiot! She doesn't want to be friends with you now and if she misses you she will text you, if you try and sort things out that will push her away even more so the best thing to do is to shut your mouth move away and get on with your life.

Yea you are right maybe I am being too desperate regarding this situation..I had this thing with her before where she dint talk to me for over a month but she was the one to get back..

Thanks for the advice..was rude though..

Well the nice way didn't work and made you say that you still wanted to sort things out, and usually if the nice way doesn't work then you have to go the other way. But at the end of the day it was all for your own benefit! Just like in school how we got shouted at when we didn't understand a topic!

Good luck and remember everyone in this forum is always ready to help as long as you are ready to listen!

Hi what would you suggest i should or shouldn't text her?

I got ya but i was just hoping if theres a way out..
Thanks anyways

I already told you. Personally I have a policy of getting a "yes" or a "no" from girls so I would be direct. "I like you and I miss hanging out. I know this place with the most amazing sandwiches ever. Let's go there and stuff our faces. Then we can go on a walk and take dorky photos of each other." Something like this. I would usually add something about kissing or sex but the girl already knows what you want. So just get her out on the date.

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Ok the point is she being in a relationship would resist the fact that m being too direct and she would use her bf as a shield again..i have all anxious thought hitting my head . Moreover she never directly told me that she enjoys with me..but i am sure she used to..

None of what you just said is fact. It's just what you BELIEVE to be true because of your prior bad experiences (or for other reasons). You've convinced yourself you can't be direct - even though all I *REALLY* told you to do was ask her to hang out. NOT EVEN A DATE.

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Thanks whoever replied..Can some more ppl share their views on this..i would be thankful..

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Guys need help here..anyone?