So recently my gf got into some problems which were somewhat caused by me. Her "friend" started threatening her that is gonna come with some guys at her house and beat her up, all this for some alcohol that we did not return for a party. She tried to blame me and my friends for what happened, and in return i told her that this should not happen between friends, and she chose the wrong friends. From here on she started telling me that i don't back her up, which is the bf's dutie to back up his gf no matter what. Started telling me about her ex bf which if things like this would happen he would call the next second and go there and break their heads(no shit, he lives in another country, where things like this are normal, and i used to live there too and i know how it is). She told me that she doesn't feel safe with me and i don't back her up as my duttie. I don't know what to do, at the beginning i thought it was a joke or something, and also i am not a person that would solve the problems with big words and fights. She really pissed me off that now when she needs me i'm considered her bf, but normally never refers to us like that, and always likes to ask a lot but give very little, close to nothing in exchange.

She sounds kind of immature. Sit her down and explain that fighting is the worst option (explain the possibilities of weapons being brought into the picture and how you're concerned for her safety, etc), and it's much more effective to talk things through. If she doesn't listen, you need to leave her where she stands and let her know that you're done talking to her until she grows up and can be concerned for both your safety and hers.

Its been like 3 days already and she still doesn't want to talk with me. Today i sent her a message "Hi, how are you?" but no answer. If she keeps this bs game up with being mad and me coming back crying to her its not gonna happen, i am seriously considering to break up with her.

I know this is easier said than done, but I would really break up with her just for ignoring you the last 3 days on top of her wanting you to fight some guy for no reason. She's insanely immature. I don't care if she's 17 years old, she's just flat out immature.

With that said, you could probably straighten her out really fast by passively breaking up with her. By this, I mean that you shouldn't explode on her and yell at her or anything, but instead let her know that you want someone more mature and caring in your life and if she is unable to provide that for you, you don't want to be with her anymore.

Hi guys,
Sorry if this is a different topic but since I am a new member, I cannot create a new thread so this is why I typed it here.

So just yesterday at dance practice, a friend of ours said to us, "couples are supposed to share one cupcake" in a joking manner. Knowing that my girlfriend is the type of person that hates comment like that, I knew she was annoyed but I'd never expected her to say this: "we're not a couple....just kidding." We have been together for over 10 months now and everything is going well up until the time of this incidence. She did apologize to me afterwards and telling me that she didn't mean what she said. That it came out of anger and frustration because of the comment our friend said. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt; however, I can't be too sure because why would that be the first thing in her mind when she gets annoyed? It doesn't make sense.
Is this something to be "just kidding" about? What does it mean? Should I take heed?

Thanks so much for the help.

We all have those "fuck, I shouldn't have said that moments". If that's the first slip-up she's had related to this subject, just let it go. There's no point in pouting or being negative toward her anyway since that just shows you're insecure of the relationship.