Have a male coworker that I have been expressing interest in for quite some time now (yes I'm a woman). I am pretty sure he likes me too, but although he shows all other obvious signs of interest, refuses to escalate to kino. Made me think he's afraid of touching women.

Very recently he started escalating and touching... very casual stuff.... so he's getting more comfortable with that... so hopefully that continues...

The other day at the office we had a project we are working on and I made a small mistake on it (basically, we work as a team, I do the first step in the process and transfer the work to him). When he questioned me on why it wasn't done correctly I said "Wow, I really messed up. You should spank me." To which he looked me in the eye and said, very seriously, "I might have to."

WOWZA!

Yes, I do want to f-close him, but now looking back I realize it was a sh*t test. I completely thought when I said it, he would stand there speechless and not know what to say (he's your typical "nice guy", straight laced, very formal). Never in a million years did I think he'd actually agree to my proposition! Can you say A++!!!

Perhaps a little intense for office game, but I think it worked pretty well in this case.

Advice? Thoughts? Suggestions?

Guys dont shit test, they dont have the biological imperative for constructing such a seemingly illogical, yet logical screening technique.

As a woman be careful about trying to apply PUA terms (and techniques) to guys, very often you will be talking about apples and oranges. PUA is not symmetric gender wise, men and woman have different social and biological imperatives.

Likely he was either trying to DHV you assuming he has game, or perhaps he only finds you marginally attractive. Or maybe very attractive, but wants a more salacious invite before encroaching on a pernicious work date relationship. He may also just be gay.

Don't game guys, it doesn't work and you will just come off as nuts, unless your trying to turn a bisexual

Yeah, it's not gonna work both ways.

Best thing to do, come on to him, don't wait. I know it kinda seems like you want to give him a challenge, but unless you lay it out plain for a guy to see, and he's an AFC, he's not gonna take it.

Just tell him that you really like him, you sound like the dominant type anyway, I'm sure he'll agree, most guys won't say no to a willing sexual partner, especially if they came to them with the idea.

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that's pretty good advice, you can also just try grabbing his cock after getting him drunk. That's very effective with guys, afc or pua.

I completely agree. You should just invite him out for drinks, get him fucked up and then do what you want to him.

Your entire office relationship will be fucked, but at least you got some dick.

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lol!!

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People who say "dont look for love, let love find you..." dont have any f*ckin' game.

I agree about being more forward and direct with him!

I disagree that PU does not work on guys tho! Much of the mentality will work in everyday life just as well as it will in PU girls. Push Pull is a perfect example girls are just as capable of performing it, and guys will fall for it just like anyone else!

Peace...

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