| This is a follow-up on a post I did a few days ago in the General Questions forum.
First Date -Confidence Close?
We met at a brewery/restaurant and since it was a nice day outside I found us a table on the patio. She actually gave me a false time restraint. Maybe that was a result of me making it clear that I hadn't sat around all day waiting for this date (I hadn't) and had actually been quite active around town doing "alpha shit". She said she could only stick around for about 30 minutes.
Five hours later and everything was going great. We'd both loosened up from the drinks (didn't get drunk, mind you) and I managed to keep a smile on her face. I watched my posture, smiled a lot (which surprisingly comes naturally when one is having a good time. Who knew?), found commonalities and used those commonalities in conversation to find even more. I asked her about her projects and goals, which gave me the opportunity to talk about my own.
I think she confused my kino anxiety for non-neediness and initiated it herself. Though I still think it was bitchy on my part to not initiate the kino, I mostly blame that on the way we were sitting. I had a chair next to hers, but there was a little bit of distance in between us with me leaning back and, AT THE TIME, felt it would be too awkward for me to lean in just for that touch. Physical contact is crucial, BearPaw!. Her kino consisted of leg touching, arm touching, hand touching, and whatever other contact she could get by with. If five hours of sitting with me on our second meeting wasn't enough of an IOI, she touched her hair, continued the conversations, laughed, made eye contact, etc...
I think the cherry on top, for her was, my non-reactiveness and non-neediness. She'd talk about her international romances, an ex-boyfriend, or her interactions with Sandra Bullock and Matthew McConaughey as I would carry on as if it were just as common for me to do the same things daily. I didn't mislead her. I was very charismatic.
How it ended may be considered a let down for most of you (I for one have pride in the communities somewhat high standards and constant discontentment). For all of you who suggested that I be sexual, it didn't happen. I had a fear that it would create an awkwardness about me that she would have noticed and, poof, there would go the charisma. I know without a doubt had I had the proper escalation game, I would have woke up at her house this morning, instead of... well, that's left for SedditIfICanDoItYouCanDoIt. So, my close was, she begged for a hug and was suggestive of wanting more, so she got half of what she wanted and the other half she settled for inviting me out tonight to meet with some of her inner circle and include me in a few plans they have for the evening... some kind of wine tasting and some other deal that she recommended me pass out business cards and talk about a few of my ideas and projects I have going on.
So, The Close: second date and the opportunity to be introduced to a somewhat exclusive "inner circle".
I imagine if I carry myself the same way I did yesterday, I'll maintain the friendship but be permanently placed in that friend-zone. So, I'll see what I can figure out about escalating this to the next level and use tonight to show that I am not intimidated by her circle of friends, whom I assume will be cocky fucking businessmen. I think that will possibly make it even easier to take this to the final destination of seduction... well, one of them.
tl;dr Met up with chick. She gave me a 30 minute time restraint. Five hours later, I successfully became someone she enjoyed being around, yet failed to escalate sexually. She decided to include me in some prearrange plans she had with her friends tonight. Confidence Close
Second Date - I'll now dedicate some time to conquering my feeling of sexual escalation being awkward. It almost felt more awkward not to escalate.
I'll try to keep from going into too much detail since this doesn't end in a majestic orgasm.
I had to see the lady friend again to look at another potential lease property and she asked if I'd be free later. I told her to text me with her plans later. She did.
I met up with her and her friends at a wine tasting during their dinner club meeting. (Which later resulted in me spending more money on a single plate of food than I ever have in my life.) I immediately turned much of my attention to her friends and actually looking back on it, most of the first hour or a little more was spent directed at them and learning who they are and what they do. I was able to talk to everyone. Everyone was intrigued by me which I can only assume was because of the relaxed, talkative and curious state the young guy was presenting in the midst of 4 cougars and a businessman.
Anyway, we drifted to another bar and back and eventually the cougars all hugged me goodbye and I was left with my target. When I returned to my seat by her some old jolly fuck was spitting game and drooling all over her, telling her how beautiful she was. I took my seat in between them, introduced myself and didn't give the situation much attention. I just carried on. Putting myself in between them, though I said nothing, eventually ended his intrusiveness. The target and I went escalated like crazy on the kino with me having my feet on either side of her stool with her in between.
She decided she wanted to head home and.... I decided I wanted to head stick around downtown for a little while longer.
She asked me to giver her a ride to her car. Her car was parked across the street from where she asked me this. lol. I took her but I fucked up and weaseled out of there with a hug.
The outcome of the second date was almost reason for me not to post it in the field report, but something curious happened afterwords. The seduction community is right when they say women can smell confidence and other women on you. Mind you, I am tall which makes some of my "hefty-ness" just seem more like a good build... but I am a hefty guy. So, when I am walking through bars and past them girls don't just throw themselves on me.
I was in a good mood from the fun I had with everyone prior NOT going home with the target and so I imagine I may have had a look of confidence about me. Rolling downtown, by myself, I had three HBs LITERALLY throw their arms around me.
So, yes, I have still yet to "bang out" but I am still receiving texts from the original target and I learned a lot about paying attention to cues and not overlooking the girls that throw themselves on you when on your way to the next target. No blinds.
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