So I posted about a waitress (carry out waitress) flirting with me recently - cute Asian. I've tipped her though, so I don't know if that has anything to do with it.

Anyway, we've been being friendly more and more and she said "here's your food Andypamby" (my name is Andy) to me today (and she remembers my name, even after she hasn't seen me in over a week).

How should I progress further with her? I don't want to be extremely aggressively direct, as I normally am, because this is a business I like frequenting, but she definitely is either using me as a mark, or giving me straight "I want you to hit on me" signs, so it is my duty to find out which.

Here is a silly high school routine that still works! I have used this on a waitress with GOOD results.

When she brings your check, write on it: We should go out! then draw to little boxes under it, one for YES and one for NO; when she brings your change the YES box will be checked, and sometimes even the phone number!

I had one girl draw her own box that said: Maybe and it was checked, I dated her one week later

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I like you and I'll remember to use this next time I want to hit on a waitress

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Ha, this is a bit corny for me (and she's a carry out waitress, so it wouldn't work well). I did consider it though.

Girls love corny, LOL you still have to pay her don't you?

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Dude, if you think she is flirting with you then chances are she is...so what happens if you dont ask about her on anything. think of it this way you ask and she says not then oh well you have a answer...but if you dont ask you will always wonder about what could have been...

You could order something really lame and like something that you wouldnt order as a meal. and when she gives it to you just be like na i dont really want it..i have to be honest i order this ____ so i have a excuse to talk to you again(so i could ask you out on a date) < those are interchangeable.

Just be direct and like not afraid of rejection. after all she can say no and thats not even that bad to hear. but she will probably say yes. just be like playful but be serious about asking her out.

Good Luck

Everyone here is far too indirect for me. I just usually signal intent IMMEDIATELY now, whereas I didn't with her (she's very cute, almost certainly the cutest girl who has hit on me, ever) because when I originally bought food from that restaurant I didn't really think "Oh, here's this hot waitress" - but she was EXTREMELY OVER THE TOP friendly, and it was noticed, and she has only become more friendly.

I'll just tell her she's fun and suggest (jokingly) that we hang out outside of the restaurant.

So giving her the yes/no boxes is too corny, the other ideas are "far too indirect," but telling her she's "fun" and suggesting (jokingly) that you should "hang out" is your idea of direct?

I feel you're trying to rationalize your fear and make excuses to stay in your comfort zone. Buck up and be direct. "Hanging out," "You're fun" and suggesting things "Jokingly" are all lame. Heywood's suggestion is the best in the thread so far.

Sorry if that's harsh but women are attracted to bold men. So be bold.

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this is corny and childish, just because it worked for one person, doesnt mean it will work for everyone. ask her what she does like an adult, and then invite her to someplace. Or, her is what you can do, if you are always with someone at that restaurant having a drink, tell her, that i always drink with my old friends, why not i drink with you (my new friend), get it? or jumble up the words, and make it up.

Yes! yes it is......

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This is a common mistake most men make. Do not assume any female in the hospitality industry is flirting with you. It's their job, especially if they obtain a majority of their income from tips. I have dated a lot of waitresses and bartenders, and they tell me this all the time. Men always hit on them and assume that they have flirted with them just because they were working and being overly friendly.
The simple truth, ask and you shall receive. This is what the OP must do. Find out!

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

Do you know her name? If so make a pet name for her. When she says Andypamby, say her pet name back, see how she reacts. ( make it something that shows you think she's hot. ( Sexy samantha, Hot holly...etc etc.) If you don't know her name, use this to show your interest. Just reply, Hi super hot take out waitress. I'd call you by your name but I don't know it. Then some quick chit chat, say something like, " you sure do work a lot, how do you have time for your boy friend" If she replies instantly, " I don't have a boy friend" or NO NO I am totally single...etc etc. Use that as a good indicator, to progress.

Get some proper reads rather then just assumed reads. Women in this industry often embellish, so don't be one of those dudes that assumes, friendly work/ tip induced banter with flirting. Find out first. You don't want to be that guy.

If you are getting sufficient IOI's from her, with heavy eye contact. If you are certain she is sending you the appropriate signals, then simply tell her to call or text ya when she is done work. Leave your digits with her. If she's interested she'll message you. If not, she will not.

For the digit drop you could say something like " Here's my number, text me after your done work. I find you very intriguing and I'd love to get to know you better".

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

You know what's really corny and childish? Talking down on other people's ideas like this.

You know what else is corny and childish? Acting like a girl you want to sleep with is your FRIEND. She isn't, nor do you want her to be. I don't understand why it's so hard to be honest... like an adult, and say "I like you."


I agree with what Sex Addict 911 is saying, minus the routines (which you might fail if you haven't used them in the past).

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