Well, I'm balls deep into a 6 month relationship. Not sure if I should stay or go. We get along good for the most part. But we have differences I'm not sure i can live with and we have similarities I'm not sure I can live without.
First the good: of course her looks are what atracted me in the first place. She's what I was looking for. The sex is great! We have the same sex drive so it works out good. She's really thoughtful of me I can tell she cares a lot. And I trust her for the most part although she has a lot of guy friends and not many girl friends. Top it off with her age, she's 22 and I'm 31. Bonus!

The bad: she is a home body, I am far from it. We don't like ANY of the same Foods(not really a big deal), no job, disrespectful at times especially when she drinks, has a sense that she deserves somethin when she didn't work for it, and negative all the time.

So at this point she wants to get more serious, she wants me to be on her house loan with her, she wants to get married and have children. I'm not sure i want all that yet.... She's what I want as far as looks and sex but I dunno if our personalitys match up. I guess im not very confident I can get another hot young girlfriend. And may make a commitment that will bite me in the ass later in life.

You ever talk to her about getting a job? I know it's hard to find one these days, but if she's not at least TRYING...

Also, being disrespectful to you when she drinks is unacceptable.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Dude, don't make the same mistakes as so many people do which is getting married and hope the issues will solve themselves. She is still young, does she plan on getting a job or career? or does she want you to pay for everything. I would never get married sooner then 2-3 years no matter how I felt about the girl. In my opinion, it's a bit immature and foolish to get married early. If you love each other then why rush it?

Why don't you have a heart to heart with her? Tell her how YOU feel. Don't accuse her or anything, just be honest and say I'm not sure I'm ready to get married. I think we should both have a job that's the start of a career first etc..

Don't "settle" for a fiance. Your gut is telling you this is not the girl. It's only fair to let her know how you feel.

That being said, she is young and people do change. I know I changed tons between 22 and 31.

I've always thought you can change ones personality once you get them to love you, so trying changing how she is then leave if that doesn't work out as a last resort. I changed my girlfriend's personality a whole different direction and I felt like my job was done and I lost feelings for her, and left even though she was so perfect personality and appearance wise :/

Here's what I read:

The good, she's hot, fucks well, is 22.

The bad: She acts like she's 22.

I'd tell her she's only 22, not to hurry to grow up, and that you like things the way they are.

Big problem I see is that you're all about her looks and the sex, and if you're 31, you ought to know by now she ain't gonna be 22 forever. If the personality doesn't do it for ya, no need to dig yourself a deeper hole. Enjoy what ya got. You'll find someone else. You know how you got her in the first place. Nothing saying you can't do it again. Keep your confidence up.