I do NOT want to have sex with her YET. She is my girlfriend, and has never had sex. She is really nervous about it, and she's crazy about me. So I want to escalate over time.

So how do I give her an orgasm?
I'm pretty sure I could still make her feel good, but I want to be as good as i could possibly be.
I can't really enter her because of her hymen. Any tips? Links?

Thanks!

There are a lot of options.

1) Get her really turned on (i.e. wet). If she's dry down there, then don't do anything because you could hurt her.
2) Use your finger or your tongue to rapidly flick/rub her clit
3) Win

Or

1) Get her clothes off
2) Make sure she's turned on
2) Place her on top of you so that your cock can grind against her clit
3) Grab her hips and grind her back and forth against your cock (this should feel pretty good for both of you)

OR, read up on the G-spot and learn how to give a good G-spot orgasm. The basics are pretty simple. If she is on her back and you insert your finger into her, then her G-spot will be on the upper surface, just above your knuckle (approximately). You'll want to rub that spot or make a "come-hither" motion with your finger.

Hopefully, that gives you some ideas. Don't get too caught up on whether she orgasms or not (for now)... just make sure she enjoys herself.

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This is key advice, don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself to perform and definitely do not tell her your 'intentions' since this will put pressure on her. A woman needs to feel completely relaxed to get into the state where she can be completely immersed in the moment which is needed to make her climax.

In all honesty the key to get her aroused is to enjoy yourself and let her now you are enjoying yourself because of her. Let her know that SHE is making you feel this good.
The best way to do this is to talk to her during sex / foreplay or even before you get to that stage. If she is new to dirty talk I suggest starting off lightly such as:

Before:

(what she does to you)
"Mmmm you are soooo hot!”
"You smell great!”
“Seeing your body turns me on like crazy!”

(What you are going to do to her because of it)
"I'm going to make you're knees tremble
and short of breath
and build the fire inside you
burning you up on the inside
and your heart pounding so fast
It feels like its going to burst
gonna make your whole body tense up from pleasure"

(Lead her tell her what she wants)
"Tell me how bad you want it"


During:

(what she does to you)
“This feels amazing”
“I’m feeling so turned on right now”
“You feel unbelievable”
“Feels so amazing”

(What you are doing to her)
"You're short of breath/so hot right nowshort of breath
Can you feel it burning up inside you
your heart is pounding so fast
Do you feel liek your going to burst?
gonna make your whole body tense up from pleasure
I love making you squirm with pleasure / legs tremble
I love it when you make noise"


(Lead her)
“Do that sexy _______ you do I love it when you do that”
“Be louder”

These are pretty mild in all fairness but once she and you get used to it you can go as dirty as you like.

Women experience the mental side to sex where as men are more visual. Just plant seeds in her head to allow her to envisage the experience in her head.

Go slow but have her masturbate in front of you. You will get a lesson on how she likes to be touched. Ok hears the cool part once they cum on there own in the same session you can touch her after a bit like 15 minuets and she will be worked up and ready to cum again even harder and quicker. The secret to keeping a girl liking you is making them orgasm. That's how I keep a harem of girls. They know when I am with them they can unleash there passion and always go to be happy. Oh an if she is uncomfortable touching herself in front of you then she will also be uncomfortable if you touched her and your chances of pleasing her are going way down. Oh also make sure her feet are warm. Girls with cold feet have a much harder time cumming. Just a little science fact for ya.

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Um, if she's a virgin it's really just a matter of going slow and then picking up the pace. Should be easy other than that, she's never experienced anything like it before. I think a more difficult question is how to not make her orgasm.

orgasm isn't the goal here..trust comfort and love is. No one doesn't have an orgasm the first time then never have sex again

I think the best way to do this is by continuing to love her and show affection. By being there and slowly increasing how far you go with her (slowly). Then when the right spontaneous moment is there you guys do it and shes hooked.

She'll be hooked in 2 ways
1) She will LOVE the feeling of sex (physically)
2) Since you gave her all that love and it spontaneously happened she will then love sex more because of sex being all played up in her head. Her thinking "this is perfect" "couldn't have done it with another guy" "he loves me"