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I'd take a more direct approach. The way you're going about it is too touchy feely - you're basically waiting for a sure sign of interest to avoid being rejected. Many women can intuitively sense when a man is 'feeling out' a situation before taking a risk on asking her out. Taking this approach wreaks of a general lack of confidence and ultimately can severely limit your chances of her agreeing to see you as women are generally turned off by insecurity (they may initially find it cute but if you're beating around the bush for too long they get fed up and lose any interest they might have had).
What I therefore suggest is that you take the direct approach and simply tell her you'd like to take her out. You can do this, for example, by saying you're doing a particular activity (preferrably something you know she already likes) and that she should come along. E.g., "Hey, remember last week how we spoke about that cool new Indonesian place? I'm actually going there this weekend you should totally come with me!"
The worst thing she can do is indicate that she's not interested (she wont be rude about it, most women don't want to see you fail and aren't eager to reject a guy unless he comes off as a complete prick).
Lastly, if she rejects you, big deal you're still breathing. You still live another day to ask another girl out. What demonstrates that you are a man is that you won't change a damn thing going to the gym. You'll simply act cordial and greet her like you normally would, and go on about your business. Changing your routine, going to the gym at different hours and any other micro-avoidance due to rejection tells you subconsciously that you aren't a very confidant person. Take the high road in such a situation.
Fully agree. Why would you even go to the gym at different hours? This is natural. You're a man, she's a woman. You find her attractive. What do you have to be ashamed of?
I would just say (call her - best option) - "Hey, I'm kind of nervous because I see you at the gym all the time... but I think you're really sweet. I don't know if you're seeing anyone, but I'd love to get to know you a bit. We can go for a walk, chat and eat at this new Indonesian place - I make funny faces when I eat spicy food, you'll definitely laugh. Then, if we're having a good time, I'll try to kiss you and you'll probably slap me."
That's just the way I do things (strongly influenced by Juggler), but you get the idea. Be direct. Make it clear that you're asking her out on a date, find out about her boyfriend situation and don't take yourself too seriously. Worst case scenario, she has a boyfriend. Women without boyfriend very rarely say "No" to offers like these in my experience.
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