| Alright, so i have a problem. and quite one at that. it seems as though, like many other men on this forum, i have problems with women. I dont know what to say, when to say it, or even feel confident enough not only to hold conversation with a woman, but neither with a man on a friendly level. let me give you some background story here...
Basically how this works is ever since i was a kid, i had father issues. could never say what was on my mind to him, but i idolized him. as i matured i felt i had big shoes to fill as being his son, we had traveled consistently so i never really got close to anyone, my mother was overtly emotional, and i had a little brother who, although is an awesome kid, i just didnt bond as well as i should have. as i grew i started finding relationships in which i would latch my self to the other person, fall helplessly in love as the typical guy who does everything for the girl, and never asks anything of her except the unconditional love one hopes to achieve in a relationship. i held 5 relationship, first witha long distance girl who was my first love...she cheated on me with 2 other men, i was 13 at the time. my second love, being an islamic girl, who although we both cared greatly for each other, i could never be brought home to her parents, and ended up leaving me for my best friend, and my most recent ex, who was actually an ex fiance who stayed with me during my military basic training with the army, she did try hard to get it to work, but in the end also ended up with one of my friends. though these were not my only relationships, these were my most meaningfull and impacting ones.
after these events i had read neil strauss' the game, and started slowly learning the theory of mystery method, nlp, etc...I am well versed in the idea of all of this but come up short when it comes to field experience. i actually had purchased the 30 day game challenge, which when i did do the challenge i felt great, but would always fall short after day3 typically. i had at one point made it further to day 6, but couldnt get anywhere because my wingmen that i was heavily realizing on for my own comfort couldnt consistently go out on scheduled missions with me.
nowdays, i have a gf that im not happy with, i still cant talk to my dad, i've tried going to therapy (which sucks btw) still cant work up the courage to initiate the game by myself, and feel so incedibly anxoius that even as we speak my stomach is turning in nots.
i guess my real question here is what am i doing wrong? what is anyonehere seeing that im not about trying to fix my life. ideally outside of my "love" life, im doing great witha full time security job, in the reserves for the army, fixin to go back to school, but i dont even have any friends i really talk to ...so please if anyone out there can help guide me in the right light to organzing my mess of a brain, message me on here. Thanks guys.
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