| It all boils down to how you feel. If you feel inadequate or like shit or you aren't in a mood you won't approach them, or if you do you're gonna look like shit. You have to feel good, even if you feel good and have positive thoughts but you are scared your opener, whatever it be, will bring out positive results, even if you get rejected.
How you feel it determines what conversation you are having with your psyche before, during and after the initial approach.
If you're driving a dirty car you won't feel comfortable driving a girl in it. Clean up your car, actually make it fucking spotless and make it shine like a motherfucker. Then you'll be eager to drive girls in it. Spend 3 hours on making it perfect. Get a good cd. Put some rihanna and alicia keys if you want a "romantic" ride.
I bet you aren't approaching two sets because you're feeling inadequate to do so, that's because you don't do prior things to make yourself believe.
A lot of things effect my psyche. When I don't work out for longer time (few days) I feel like shit. It effects everything about me and around me, including approaching and success with women. When I am not groomed it effects my life energy, i feel inadequate and therefore there is no or lesser will to approach women.
When I am in shape, I feel great. It's one of the things for me, because 5 years ago I was heavily overweight and my life was shit. When I am going out to meet women I have few rituals, and it's all about putting myself in good state.
Grooming is most important for me. I shave myself, brush my teeth, then take shower 3 times, put on some cologne, and dress great. Doing all that I listen to my favorite music. Then I go out. Alcohol is also a great tool, but it's double edged. Don't get dependent on it.
It's same like preparing yourself for a competition. When I used to fight, besides heavy training I'd watch Mike Tyson clips on youtube and most of the day I would think about the fight and visualize the fight the way I wanted it to be and I would visualize myself landing the knockout punch. Just before the fight I would think about the combinations I was gonna throw. All this would help me relieve stress and nervousness and make me more confident, aggressive and better, and most important of all, I believed I was gonna win.
If you don't believe that you are going to succeed in seducing that particular woman it all crashes down, you're toasted. Cause if you don't think you're gonna seduce her, whats the point in approaching anyway? You're sure-fired to fuck up, and the expected negative outcome you put on yourself in the first place will breed more negative thoughts and negative outcome.
All this shit I'm wiring now sounds like some cheer-leader be happy be positive dont worry cliché romantic story crap but that is the truth.
You gotta make yourself feel not good, but extra, and you gotta believe. You want to be daring because you know you have "the tools" to achieve certain things with women. After this it's just learning and time and building experience and getting better at it. Like practicing to play a guitar, more time you devote to it you are just getting better and better and you're more enjoying in reaping off the yield of your hard work.
For the exact approach I liked the most and proved useful the most for me when approaching a two set is one i read for david deangelo, and it went something like this...
"I assume you are probably shy because you get no attention from men whatsoever, so I thought I am gonna be nice and come and pay attention to you..."
Then you start teasing one or both of them, and having fun.
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