Hi!

For some time ago i wrote here a thread about a girl randomly adding me on facebook. I have tried to be as pua as i can be, and that resulted in a "date". So i asked this girl on friday if she wants to take a cup of coffee with me. And she said yes! Hurray! But, coffee doesnt seem to be the brightest biggest idea ever? Im rly verbal and have most my dates at a resturant or coffeeshop so i usually have a good time. Why i chose the coffee thing was because of limited options in the town where i live. And we are 19, and she is 18. There are no activities we can do except bowling, but i think thats somewhat "lame". So how can i spice this "date" up so we have a good time? Im a designer so im thinking of grabbing my portofolio with me, so she can valuate it and help me with some pictures. She likes to draw so i think she will fancy the idea. Or dear community what can you offer me of good ideas?

I would say skip the portfolio, and use that as a method or excuse to get laid. tell her that you want to show her something like your portfolio and when she is with you, show her those photos. eventually you will get laid.

for the date, dont talk about photos, talk about yourself, get to know the person a little more.

Coffee is cool, it sounds like an environment you'll excel in and the caffeine should help things also.

Are you really thinking creatively about other ideas? Coffee or bowling sounds pretty limited. Surely you have more than that you could do? Maybe have something lined up at your place you can bring up over coffee, like a great movie or album or something she'll be interested in, hype it up during the date, then drop the subject. At the end, if you want to try the f close, just be like "I'm off to listen to x album, you coming over?" in a positive, non-needy, assertive way.

Go to the park with a sketchbook and a can of coffee.

Tell her to bring a banana.

Keep your portofolio at home so you'll have plausible deniability.



there's your date.

The thing is, that both of us will work later that day so both of us are limited to move much around.

Sounds like bad logistics! I would perhaps then make this a short and powerful date which is basically setting up a day 3 where you should aim to f-close with more plausible logistics.

Thats what i think aswell, short and powerfull and then maybe ask her home another day and make her dinner. Is that too bad?

Don't seem too needy, I'd pick your opportunity for dinner carefully, gauge her levels of interest properly first, and figure out if she's the kind of girl that would appreciate dinner being cooked for her on a second date.

a dinner is too much. dont have dinner until after you have sex with her.

you guys think WAYYyy too much, no wonder you dont get laid