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What's up guys this post is coming from about a months worth of observations in the game. I go to a school with alot of frat parties dancing in the dark that whole thing. I'm well like i have alot of friends and a few girls but none that are HB9's or or anything. I was awesome at getting girls in high school but college has been a struggle cause I get scared going up to girls and my "asshole" side comes off too strong sometimes. I cant really find the balance of negs and nice.Anyway I'm gonna start a list now.
1.Introduction. I'm always meeting new people hi im anthony hi im lisa and i shake their hand and thats it its fucking awkward weird idk what to do or how to change it but it isnt good. sometimes ill rub their back for a second i think thats better but any ideas on improving that would help
2.Mid Game. After this introduction maybe a hey how do you like the party whatever i draw a black it sucks and then it goes bad so im like ookay i guess i should walk away now before she does and i walk away. I don't know what do or say when that moment comes up.
3. Close. I see people talking on here all the time about how their making out wiht girls in 2 minutes. When i do talk to girls I NEVER just end up making out with them i just talk to them sometimes it goes good i try and flirt but kissing always seems like its so far out of reach.
4.When I go into a party my main thing is smiling I love that I own the room before it owns me but when i talk to girls sometimes I think i talk to fast and come on too strong im a loud talkative opinionated person. Is it better to like sit back and act more relaxed and cool?
Any post you guys give me back is greatly appreciated thanks guys. Fuck bitches get money.
Here's my advice to you. You just need more experience. There are tons of materials online for you to fall back on if you need to keep the conversation from dying out. It seems you're over your AA enough to approach girls, which is a huge step! Now you just gotta get the snowball going. Follow the basic principles that are outlined in the attraction process. If you have to, start with an opinion opener. They sound lame when you read them online, but they work like a charm in a frat house or a bar. The gay opener is gold for me (Does this outfit make me look gay? I swear I've been hit on by like 4 guys tonight). After you use an opener, just try to talk to them. Keep the conversation going somewhere. If you draw a blank, have a couple of DHV's on the back burner. False time constraint may or may not be appropriate, depending on if you're in the bar or frat house or what have you. Use your judgement. If you think you're talking too fast, you probably are. People talk faster to someone they are scared of or greatly respect, because they want to get their point across before that person can stop listening. Try articulating and slowing down your words, while being slightly louder. This combined with proper body language will command her attention.
Best of luck!
-Ruggedized
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