Let me begin by saying here that I've only asked out a handful of girls on my lifetime, I'm trying to start doing it more, Improve my game and my social skills in general.
It's been a long time since i had a date until now. To be honest I am unsure if I'm satisfied with how my date went, but here goes.
I asked her out in class by simply going up to her after class and telling her she was pretty cute and I want to get to know her better. We set up a date for next week. (this week now)
We met up in the morning on campus, meeting before classes wasn't ideal but it was all we were both available for this week. We got some coffee at a small coffee shop on campus then walked over to the gardens. We asked eachother questions to get to know each other like what carreer you want to be. And some of the questions from this thread.
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After that we walked around a little more and sat in a comfortable place. I tried to Kino throughout this time but it was a bit difficult. It doesn't seem that she dislikes me or anything but she seems generally reserved about touching.
Eventually we went to go get lunch and by the time we got our food it was time to head to class.
I'm a little disappointed at how little I got to escalate, but I just felt that this girl is one i should go a little slower with, I'm not sure if I made the right call.
So pros and cons here would be this
+I got to know her better.
+solid eye contact
+went to multiple venues
+ possibility of a second date seems high
-did not get to escalate much
-no holding hands
-no first date kiss
I'm not sure if i can consider this date a success or what, because i seems that i built up attraction, and she seemed interested the whole time. I am disappointed by the underwhelming amount of physical escalation I accomplished. I suppose i shouldn't meat myself up about it too much because at least actually going on a date is an improvement.
So what do you think, i would like to hear ideas for what I did wrong or right, and also tips for the next time I'm on a date.
The most frustrating thing was that i could not seem to find a good way to initiate holding her hand, perhaps i missed an opportunity, but I couldn't seem to find an opening, and I was keeping an eye open for one.
I guess even a minimal date like this is a step in the right direction though.
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