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in a nutshell, i’m looking for someone else in London who’s up for going out once a week to practise picking up women. I don’t mind whether this person is much better than me, on a par, or worse than me. But I simply want to designate an evening to getting better, with mutual encouragement etc.
I’ll try and give you an idea of my situation….i'm going to try and be as concise as possible.. i've always been pretty great at making people in general like me, but terrible at making girls want me.. i really have never had any game, only jokes.. and when things have gone badly with girls, in general, i've tended to gravitate to spending time with friends more, enjoying making people laugh, and being hedonistic in other ways.. I can be funny and interesting to the girls I want to get with, but not in a way that makes them want me, and I watch as they go and get with people who are less funny, less interesting. I make friends, good friends, quickly, but watch the girls pass by, one after another.
i'm 23 now and i've had enough of this.. about 3 years ago i read the game over the space of a few days, but that, if anything, actually made it worse. because i didn't suddenly start going out and trying to learn new skills and practise and push myself like PUAs do... instead i just took on board the gist of the information without applying any of it, and became even more self-conscious due to fully realising that when i'm with women there's a right way and a wrong way, and i consistently do things the wrong way..
i have a very active social life. I barely have time to juggle my friends with my job and my interests... in social circles i'm often the centre of attention, loud, but essentially a bit of a clown.. I consistently hear from male and female friends and acquaintances alike that they’re surprised that I don’t do well with girls, and this is because they witness my non-sexual confidence a lot more than they witness my lac k of social sexual confidence with women. Once more, this lack of social sexual confidence with women isn’t as dramatic as it is with some guys. A lot of PUAs I’ve heard about started at a level where they could barely look or talk to them… I’ve never been like that, but instead I sabotage myself with jokes and humour etc…I get nervous so try and make them like me the way I make male friends like me – with laughter. I tell stories, talk too much, and come off seeming as if I need approval.
Basically, I want to push myself out of the comfort zone. With women, I need to take a good few steps back and start with the absolute basics. My natural instincts of what to say have failed me all my life so far, and it’s time to regularly start forcing myself out of that comfort zone, and try something new.. I want to go out and practise meeting women PUA style..
I don’t want to do this with any existing friends who already have existing expectations of me. Rather, I’d like to join up with someone here, and hopefully form a new friendship on the basis of this common interest… of taking actions when things aren’t right, pursuing what we want in life, becoming better people, and generally having a lot of fun.
I’ve probably said enough now!
Let me know if anyone’s interested.. like i said.. if you're experienced and better than me and can teach me things, great (i can teach you other things too, like how to give a professional standard full body thai massage etc). if you're not experienced and on a par or worse than me, also great, it doesn't matter, we'll find our way..
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