lol nothing else has happened since.. well, yeah something did..kinda.. the day or 2 after I got the e-mail...she called me. I didn't answer the phone though since I was at work, and have a strict "no phone" policy. Anyway, I thought it was weird that she e-mailed me..then ended up calling me..No voicemail or text or anything. So later that day I talked to my mom and mentioned the e-mail and her calling me...And she told me she had received a phone call from my ex as well. She called me first, but since I didn't answer, she called my mom..all upset about some shit, as far as I know..someone claimed her on taxes, so the money she was supposed to get, she is no longer getting. That's all I was told, anyway.. I didn't call her back, e-mail or text her..so I don't know whats really going on.

Looks like you've moved on dude.. Thats great, don't even worry about it.

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I've been trying...to be honest, between quitting smoking cigarettes after about 10 years, and having no contact with that girl after 3...I find the no contact part to be twice as hard lol I'm slowly getting back on my feet though..so that's mainly what I focus on..working and saving money, and planning what to do next

You doing great motown! I'm happy for you and proud to see you coming along so well...Keep it up man Big Big Big things are ahead for you.

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Thanks brother..I appreciate the help, advice, and positive encouragement

You got it bro.. If you ever need anything, email me at eddieFews@wayoftheplayer.com

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Sticky?

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might as well be sticky....seen so many dudes come and go asking about the same stuff in this thread....Theres a lot of gems in this thread, and lots to learn for guys who are going thru the same shit..If they knew this thread was here, they would probably learn the answers they seek lol

Fuze, check your PM haha

I'm in a similar situation, dated a girl for 3.5 years, broke up a month ago. It was a mutual break-up, but it was initiated by her because she said she wasn't happy anymore. Mainly due to lack of sex, and I think she wants to see if the grass is greener.

My situation is a little different though, we have a dog together and live 4 houses away from each other. She said she wanted to remain friends, but I said I couldn't do that. Then she tried texting me asking me how my day was, or that her car passed inspection, until the point where I told her unless she wants to talk about us, don't bother texting me. Then the other day she texted me something about my old college, and I ignored it. Later on I went over to her house to get the dog, and she brought it up. I just said I was busy, and left it at that. Then I see her out yesterday and didn't even know she was there until I walked by. She grabbed my face, and I just smiled and walked away. Later on her friends and her were hovering around where I was outside, and kept walking back and forth between bars and standing outside. I told everyone I was with that I didn't want to talk to her, and thankfully we left and went to another bar...

How should I handle this knowing I will have to have limited contact because of the dog? I can't give up the dog, and this is the best scenario for him until my roommates and I can find a house with a fenced in yard. Any advice is appreciated, thanks.

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Make a new thread dude, this isn't the post for that.

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So since I've been working a lot with my new job, and I did still owe my ex some money, I felt it was the right thing to do to give her a call today and let her know that I've got half of the money, and I'm on my way to grab some food and can drop it off on my way..

She was VERY EXCITED to hear that I got a job (even tho its been over a month since I've had it, I have not talked to her so she had no idea)

I pulled up to where she's staying, and called her again for her to come outside...So here she comes, looking all nervous/anxious, kinda tucked into herself somewhat like a turtle, ya know? haha

We shoot the shit for a few minutes, vaguely fill her in on my work situation..She asked like 3 times what I do...where I work...etc.. So I just told her what I actually do, shipping/receiving in a warehouse. Didn't tell her where I work or anything, tried to keep things kinda broad.

After a few minutes her posture kinda straightened up, and she started to open up a little more about herself, and just lit up a little..Started playing with her hair, talking with her hands, etc.


It was rather strange to an extent.. I haven't seen her since like October.. Haven't talked to her since about November I think....Despite her attempts to call/text/e-mail a few times.

There were some "pauses" in our conversation where I was looking at her, and she just seemed like she wanted to say something...So I called her out on it.."Is there something you wana say, or something?"

She said, "No....I mean, not to sound like a dick, theres just a bunch of shit going on blah blah blah"

I'm still sitting in my car during all of this...with the window rolled all the way down talking to her.. There was one bit of the convo that went like this:

HER: So how have you been?
ME: I've been fuckin great...things are going well for me, everything is good
HER: ....that's good..
ME: Hells yeah....how about you? How's everything?
HER: ....good
ME: Just....good?
HER: ehh yeah..I'm stressed with school. I have so much homework that I can't seem to ever finish since I'm either at school or at work..by the time I get home I don't feel like doing anything..
ME: *smiling and pointing my finger in a joking manner* Homework should be your first priority, missy! But anyway, sounds like you're doing alright...thats cool
HER: Yeah, its nice to see you...
ME: Yeah, you'll see me again soon (only paid her half the money I owe her...I would have spent it otherwise)
HER: Well text or call me whenever..I don't really have a life anymore..
ME: *laugh* alright...well have fun at work..I'll see ya around


She thanked me again for not forgetting the money thing, and for actually doing the right thing by calling her and attempting to pay her back (something I feel lots of people told her I would never do)...Then said it was nice to see me again..

So I was like, yeah....no problem..Reached my hand out the window to give her a HIGH FIVE..

She was like "What is this? a high five?? *smile lit up*
Instead of giving me a high five, she actually interlocked her fingers with mine and held my hand for like 3-4 seconds before I was like alright...gotta go, have a nice evening at work.. Then once again, she said "Thanks again, it was great seeing you..have fun with your food"


Then I drove off...whole thing was kinda weird...Not in a bad way, but then again, I guess thats how these things feel like after so much time has gone by

Look at you handling the situation like a player... So you still want her huh?

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I feel like I handled it pretty well...I took it upon myself to pay her back..which if anyone gets into a situation like that, I do suggest paying the other person back..Hopefully none of you guys lose your jobs or have difficulty finding one, to the point where you have to borrow money...but if it does happen, its only right you pay back when/what you can... With that said, the whole interaction/conversation we had..I feel, again, that I handled it very well... I didn't display that I was trying to get anything from her, wasn't displaying being needy or any of that type of shit....She actually picked up on the fact that despite my lack of luck with other girls at the moment haha I am actually doing very well for myself. Got new clothes, got my car fixed and back on the road, got a job I really enjoy, and she saw that I am out doing my own thing, living it up, happily, without her. She realizes that the decision(s) she made, may not have worked out the way she planned, and I feel like she really wanted to/had to say something, but was just too nervous to do so, given the fact that its been so long since we saw eachother/talked...But its whatever. I just wanted to update the thread since there was a new interaction between us...I'll probably get up with her again this weekend when I get paid to pay her back the rest of the money I owe her

This thread is inspiring. Having somewhat similar issues myself. Goodluck Motown.

Fuze you give great advice as well. I'm trying to take it all in.

So, I went to the bank to deposit my check, and kept some money in the pocket to pay her back... I call her up..

HER: Hello..
ME: hey, whats goin on?
HER: not much, just woke up a little while ago, now im reading *some book*
ME: you totally sound like you're reading...you sound half dead haha
HER: *laughs* what are u up to?
ME: I just left the bank, guna stop by the house and see my cousin for a bit, then grab some food..and I got a few dollars that I owe you as well, was going to drop it off
HER: Oh..thats cool..I'm hungry too, where you going?
ME: was going to *place*...would you like to join?
HER: when? I mean..yeah, but I have to take a shower..
ME: Well go wash that stench off of ya and I'll get up with ya a lil later..peace
HER: haha alright, bye


So about an hour or so later, my cousin left so I hit her up sayin I'm on my way..

We go to this small diner place that has awesome lunch sandwiches and shoot the shit for a while..

She comments that my shoes are really nice...everyone says that..I love my new shoes haha

But I guess we just had normal talk considering its been like 6 months since we've really talked, let alone even see eachother..

She had made a comment about not knowing what to do the rest of the day after we were done our meal...I had plans to goto the music store and buy a piece of equipment, she wanted to tag along..so I said it was cool if she came along there too.

The ride to and from were alright...lots of banter..then she started pushing me and hitting my arm calling me an asshole, dickhead, etc., etc...I guess in a playful way

When we got to the music store, it was like, just 1 store out of many...kinda like a flea market...so we walked the whole store looking at all the cool stuff..making jokes, having fun, etc.

there were a few times she'd mention different boys she's talked to....I just brushed that shit off cuz I don't give a fuck about any of the chodes she associates with...No reaction, no emotion, just kept with the flow of things and directed conversations elsewhere..

shit basically played out like that the rest of the time...the ride home same shit..just talking about random shit, making eachother laugh

One point of the car convo went like this..

HER: *hits me on the arm* You're a shit dick..
ME: Well its better than being a shitty vag..
HER: Not if you're small...
ME: You never complained when happily taking it in..
HER: *shocked look* I wasn't directing that to you..it wasnt supposed to sound like I was saying you have a small dick
ME: Oh no worries, I wasn't saying you had a rotten smelly vag either..it just came out that way, don't sweat it
HER: *Real shocked look*.....*pushes me on the arm* youre a dick *laughs*


Thought that was pretty funny lol


But got back to her house to drop her off.....we're sitting in the drive way and she says
HER: Well....thank you.
ME: For what?
HER: Taking me out to eat, and spending the day with me and chilling
ME: Yeah what was I thinking?
HER: hah you're crazy...well, I'll see ya around
ME: Maybe.....I'll talk to ya



Then when I got half way home...I'm like damn...I didn't even give her the money I told her I had.

So I call her back

ME: Hey, I just realized that I didn't give you the money I owe you
HER: Shit...I forgot about that too!
ME: Yeah, well I have it...but I'm not going to give it to you..
HER: *pauses* uhh...what, why?
ME: Well, I thought about it, was going to turn around..but I'll just wait till another time.. It would make me feel like I paid you to hang out with me, and that's not the case at all.
HER: haha makes sense
ME: Yeah, but I'll hit ya up sometime..just wanted you to know I didnt forget, I do have it..I just...I don't really see you as a prostitute, so I'm not going to pay you today...


And that was about it....I don't know what I was thinking