Okay, so Saterdaynight in my local bar there was this group of girls I approached. I knew one of them already but I talked to three of them. I think I had my value raised by some other girls (standing around the pool table) that I know that touch me when I speak to them. The best looking one is forbidden terrain for me cause my mate been in love with her.

I was waiting for my mate to play cause he was in a conversation. To not lower my value I asked the girls in the group if they wanted to play instead of him after saying hi to the one I knew. One of them, really the best looking one said she wanted to learn playing but didn't want the embarrasment of doing it in front of the other people! (omg) I Didn't say much to her and didn't ask her to date because we had just spoken these two lines and hadn't even introduced yet but it was obvious we were both thinking about it. She made eyecontact with a big smile three times after that when I was playing with my mate.

Later on the night I saw her again in the bar next to the one we met and she came up to me saying she was going to add me on facebook because she had asked some other girl my name. At this time I said her I'd teach her how to pool but I also told her that she needed to add me on facebook. (Like I wasn't going to add her.)
We introduced ourselves and she spelled her name.(!) At this point we were standing against each other and she was holding my finger in her hand against her upper body (kinda weird but very sexual). I gave her 3 kisses and told her she's a sweet girl and then I hugged her.

I went home and I'm still waiting for her to add me...


I know I did alot wrong but I don't know what to do now. I don't think I'm gonna see her soon again in this bar.

i dont think uve done too much wrong apart from maybe be a bit too forward but in this situation it seemed to have paid off .. as far as the waiting for her to add you or whatever on facebook . forget that .. move to the next girl maybe she will add you maybe she wont oh well? if u see her again then punish her for her misleading if she doesnt

I don't seem to get this situation. So let me see... If I'm correct, this is what happened: You found a hot chick, who was giving you IOIs and did sexual things to you, and you gave her 3 kisses and went home and waited for her to add you on facebook.

So... now I'm just asking one question. What kept you from fucking her that night, instead of this facebook crap?

She was digging you, I bet she was like soaking wet when you were touching her "upper body" whatever that's supposed to mean. And you just leave her with 3 kisses, and tell her this BS "you're a sweet girl". This is the problem. This is what you did wrong.

@shes_tripped I don't know what are you talking about. What too forward? 3 kisses and a hug. If that's too forward at one night, then how long should we wait with sex, like erm... months? or...how about a year? Wait no...I've got it. Till marriage. Yep.

Also why should he punish her again? Like he demonstrated 0 balls, and now it's the girl's fault she doesn't want him anymore. How about instead of punishing her, just ignore this whole facebook bullshit as it is, and next time go for what he really wants like real man do?

EDIT: Sorry for being harsh, but from time to time I get tired of this. People go out, show a pretty good game, and then they just leave. And they don't close. And I don't understand because the whole point of the game is to close. It's hard for me to get it, because even when I was an AFC and started studying pick-up this was pretty much the first thing I learned and understood. If you don't try to close, you will not close, in which case you will be stuck at where you've been all along. If you try to close, you will fail, and succeed. You will learn, and select. You will get better, and better.

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shes_tripped,
Thanks for telling me to punish her. Somehow something unbelievalble happened. The girl is at the same school as I am and I ran into her four times today. First I had never seen her there before! Anyway, so I really don't know why she didn't add me on facebook but I told her that the longer she would wait the bigger I would punish her and walked away. She asked me to wait, she hadn't found my profile... (yeah right) so I took her pen and wrote my name down. She added me with her phone minutes later.

MynameisFIsher,
I didn't want to come off to needy. I have a reputation in my small town. When I'm really drunk I try to kiss alot of random girls on the cheeks. (really bad for my value and self esteem) I'm being ignored by some girls. Besides, I live with my mom. Couldn't have take her home and I think it really was too soon to kiss her on the lips. I didn't know anything about her, not her age, nothing at all. What I think I should have done was to get her number but I'm still learning about what to do with a number once I got it. What's the best program to learn about texting in your opinion? Anyway, thanks for your advice from another angle, this exites me.

Oh, sorry. How old are you mate? Perhaps I was too lucky with my mom when she let me bring girls home It didn't really come off as needy, it just seems like you didn't want to take the risk. You thought it was too soon to kiss her... Was it though? How could you know if you hadn't tried it? Believe me this: you should have tried to kiss her, and even if she rejected you, saying it was too soon, it would have been far far away from a lost case, as long as you handled the rejection with cool. (eg. something like, "okay... I just thought you were up to something ")

Now other things. You didn't know her age, or anything about her. What were you talking about then, if you don't know anything about her?

Text game. I can't really say much about this. I rarely do any text game, because usually I just use the number to fix a Day 2. Probably I send her something funny that happened with me or just something that will get me in her head for a few hours. Best if related to something that I used to build some connection. For example I like to make up funny nicknames(of course not overdoing it, and only if she seems to like it. not every girl is into this...also...not cheesy, but funny nicks) and I call them that way in my text. To give you a clear example:

Situation: girl with santa hat. K-closed, after that #closed, gave her the nick 'Santa'.

First Text I sent(if I remember right 2 days later): "Hey Santa, I really hope my presents are on their way..."
She replied: "Haha no way I'm giving you anything. Only good guys get presents"(shit test)
Me: "Sweet. I'm free on the weekend, I was planning to go play pool. You should come too."(ignoring shit test completely, and getting to the point)

After this we fixed a date I fucked her, but we couldn't really connect so it was over at that point, really nothing complicated. I'm still in a good relation with her, maybe I'd even bang her sometimes if I didn't have a girlfriend at the moment

See the point here. I was playful, not needy, but I was moving things forward. Of course I'm not some pick-up genius and I fuck up regularly too. But that's why it is important to not get stuck with one girl. As long as you're not in a committed relationship, you should NEVER focus on only one girl.

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I'm 27 and I'm not allowed to bring gils home cause I did it too often. (girlfriends that dump me after 3 months) Okay, so maybe I should have tried to kiss her, to let even more emotions loose but it seemed to me there were enough already or maybe I didn't dare to. Probably both.

Anyway, I hooked up with her just now but it wasn't succesfull. Told her I was gonna pick her up from school to have a beer. She was okay with it but on the way there she texted me she would bring two classmates with her. So there I sat with three girls. There were awkward silences and no IOI's. She seemed kinda shy and even told me she was very tipsy on the saterday(!) I didn't had much hooks from the saterday to continue on about becouse we really hadn't talked about anything. Just some words about pool and facebook. She bailed out by saing she had alot of homework to do and I was stupid to say okay I'll buy you a beer some other time (she payed for mine couse that's how I got her to hook up. Told her she needed to buy me a drink couse we met that often. There's this slang in Holland "3e keer trakteren hè!"it means you have to give a treat if you meet each other 3 times in a row on one day.) I shouldn't have given her the comfort of the idea that a date was going to happen if it was up to me.

I don't know what to text her now. I want to make it more playfull cause the conversation was mostly serious and about school. Should I at least say thanks for the beer? I can't think of anything though.

Edit: her age is 19yrs.

One thing I can tell. There was not enough emotion going on there, otherwise she wouldn't have come with two friends and would have actually given IOIs.
I think if you text her just now it would come off needy, independently from whatever you're texting her. In my opinion you should focus on other women right at the moment. Before you fall into some one-itis crap and/or screw this one up even more.

Oh...just... one more thing. You mentioned you were from Holland. Now I don't know whether you or this girl do things like this or not...But. You know what's legal in Holland which is also an aphrodisiac?

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Yeah, anyway I'm sure to see her at school now so your'e probably right I should leave her for a while. Thanks mate, and lol about the weed. xD It's terrible for my game. I overanalyse stuff even more when I'm stoned. It's nice when u have a gf or something. She told me she stopped smokig too.