Hello PUA, I am a young man of nineteen. I am fairly confident in my skills with woman. I haven't really been single in over eight years, always courted some one/been in relationship since Jr. High. I realize that through this behavior I haven't found what I really wanted but always bent to what the relationship called for. I don't want to be that guy anymore.

I am here to learn how to become more influential in a conversation. Hopefully through my experience here I will gain a foundation for an easy, natural game.

For anyone who could point me in the right direction it would be much obliged.
-Tertius

Tertius,

How's your own confidence level? I don't me that in a bad way, but in a factual way... Are you confident in talking? Are you the A-personality? Can you engage the whole room and not fluster yourself?

If not, seek that confidence before anything...

You'll look at yourself now and again when you're 25 and see two totally different people. Use what you learn now to improve the YOU you will be later...

One of the advantages being my age is that when (if) I enter a relationship - there are certain things I simply refuse to bend on - they're the deal-breakers. Identify them early. If you know one is there, address it. YOU set the ground rules for your own relationship. If I'm going to close shop and date ONE person only... she'd better be worth it. If she's not on board with my own program, I'm wasting time. I compromise the small, inane stuff... I don't compromise my deal-breakers.

I am not very confident at all. I didn't interpret it badly. No, I'm pretty nervous when I talk. I tend to fall back on sarcasm way too much, and can get extremely embarrassed, easily.

I'll search the forum for so pointers.

I can understand the the deal breaker. I always waited until deal breaker was breached before bringing it up. In this last relationship I learned that you need to establish ground rules/ foundation in order to understand if it would work from the beginning.

Oh, just turned 20. And I don't know if it matters but I don't think I look bad, actually i think I'm a pretty good looking man with some improvements needed but nothing working out wont fix. My issue is I lack the confidence in my wit. I not "light on my toes" or no quick wit, I tend to over think.

Thank you very much for your reply.