I've recently met this cute girl on the most bizarre way ever, but I'm not gonna spill to much detail on that. We took of really well and went on a day 2 which was a great ''break-through'' from my side, it went extremely well and our connection became much stronger. She texted me afterwards saying she had a really good time and described it as ''a perfect day''. Attraction is there, for sure!I escalated really well, used kino, teased her a little and made her laugh quite alot.

The only thing that bothers me is that in my culture, texting & facebook overshines social contact, planning a day 2 with a girl is really.. really hard, I was lucky to have really hit the spot as the week before, she denied because she didn't knew me well enough.

People often use texting / facebook to build up comfort, and forming a relationship based on that, takes quite a long time. Girls are uncertain and definatly wanna get to know you very well before more steps are taken.

I'm generally a very straight-forward guy and I often say what I think, I do have basic rules as not complimenting to much, but keeping those moments to reward her. I do however feel the need to text/ be on facebook, and this certainly takes away alot that could potentially build more attraction. I aswell feel that the vibe changes if I wouldn't text her for a few days.

How do I keep her feelings consistent, and keep building attraction without falling into the friendzone? It's the only hinderness that keeps me from fully going for it.

We have 2 weeks off soon, so I'm pretty sure I'll be able to set more dates with her, when I mentioned going to the movies on our first date, she really liked the idea of going with me.. so yeh!

Advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hmz...

I dis-agree with your post,

planning a day 2 with a girl is not hard, and does not require alot of time and rapport, it just requires the right girl and the rewards for meeting you outweigh the risks

girls flaking is more of a sign in either her not feeling comfortable with meeting you (risks outweigh the rewards), or she doesn't like you very much (some girls fake interest for attention, when they are realistically not interested just to keep you around for other purposes)

you are comming into these interactions with the idea that you are not attractive, you don't have to ''build attraction'' or continue ''building attraction'', to accomplish anything, it is not a long process, if you are speaking in mystery method terms, you just try to show the girl you are not a loser, before you proceed to hit on her (qualify her, in MM terms)

it can be as simple as a few dhv stories, they are completely unessicary, you can just start off by just hitting on the girl, it is easier and cuts out the bullshit

how do you keep her feelings consistant?, stop doubting yourself is how, her feelings most likely are consistant and it is your insecurity that causes you to believe they wouldn't be, or that you have to keep her in some sort of constant state of emotional stimulation/entertainment, for her to like you,

why don't you spend less time trying to get her to like you, and more time seeing if she is someone you like, she is just a person and chances are if she went out with you, she already likes you, all you could do to ruin that is stop being who you are, or allow things to remain stagnant (don't move them forward romantically)

stop trying to impress her, and give her the chance to impress you, then let her know you are impressed, then fuck her

you should kiss her, and stop worrying so much and overthinking this, if she didn't like you, she would not come out with you, she would not talk to you, and she would not want you to touch her in a meaningful way

express how you feel about her with your words and actions, and stop worrying about what she will think about you for doing so, assume the best always, her actions will tell you if she is not interested, and if she isn't, don't try to own her or cling to the idea of getting her with some magical trick, it won't work out for you, just keep in contact, and stop pursueing her, if she changes her mind she will make it easy for you and come back around

GOOD LUCK

I wanna thank you for your advice,

Your absolutely right, I'm trying my best way to much for her to appreciate me, She has told me alot of times that she's utterly impressed and that I'm a very nice guy to be with, she loves our talks.

It's been about 6 years before I've actually dated a girl from my culture, I recently broke up from a LDR and I think I'm too used to the old way of interaction - meetings etc. When your young, setting up a day 2 is genuinely harder then when your older and wiser (My theory).

Another problem is that I reflect myself to much towards the other person, I'm someone who doesn't like routines and just normal stuff, I'm very adventerous aswell so I'm not the type to sit at home and chill every weekend. So it's probably because of that that I feel the need to keep surprising her all the time, cause I'm afraid attraction will fail. It's hard not to know anything different if you are not used to it, it still is hard actually.

I did a good job hiding my ''Insecurities'' because I started off with the mind-set of, fuck it, if i lose here, there's plenty more to come so I basically showed her ALOT of confidence and anything but neediness and she started getting really interested. I just have the problem once a sort of oneitis joins in that I start getting insecure & wanna play completely safe which obviously feels unnatural as I'm also thinking about what I say more often.

Anyway, thanks for making me realise... Appreciated!

Best of luck to you.