At the beginning of march a new girl started working in my local petrol/gas station. The first time I saw her it was her first day on the job and was still trying to figure out how to work the till. We had some friendly chat and when she went to tear the receipt off, she pulled the whole roll out the till and basically broke the machine LOL!! She got a bit flustered and embarrassed but we both had a good laugh about it. So straight away she remembers me as the guy who she screwed up infront of lol!!

This was about 3-4 weeks ago and I hadn't seen her since, but I went in yesterday and she was there. I wasn't sure if it was definitely her but when she started trying to work the till it was obvious she still hadn't a clue lol!! I said "are you the girl that destroyed the till the last time?" and she replied "OMG was that you!?!?! Hahaha I've been waiting for you to come back again!!" again we had some friendly chat and I paid and on my way out she shouted "see you later" in a happy sort of voice. She is a very cute girl and I'm not usually very confident when it comes to girls, but I think that because she embarrassed herself that time makes me a little more at ease with her.

The only problem is that I don't know a thing about her! I don't know her name, where she lives, how old she is (although she is roughly my age) and most importantly if she has a boyfriend. The one thing I know is that her younger brother also works there and I see him alot more often than her. So what should I do now? Anyone got any good lines or conversations? Should I just ask her out the next time or continue chatting with her for a while to build up a rapport with her. The only problem is the gas station round the corner has cheaper petrol so I usually go there instead. I just don't have the money to continuously go to her station. So I may not see her for another 3-4 weeks again. I can't stop thinking about her and it's driving me crazy!!! Any help much appreciated. Thanks guys.

Wow. This is a hard one. I wish Heywood Jablowme's around or maybe SexAddict911. Let me think about this. I'll get back to you within the next 24 hours.

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What about this. I'll ask her how she is and if she did anything at the weekend, she'll then go on to tell me and then ask me what I got up to. I'll tell her that my friend set me up on a "blind date" but it didn't work out, she just wasn't my type. This will let her know that A) I'm single B) that I'm looking for a girlfriend. Ideally if she looks interested and asks what my usual type is I could go on to describe her but chances are she won't ask this. Also during the conversation about what she did at the weekend, if she has a boyfriend it's safe to assume she did something with him. So if there's no mention of a bf then I can assume she's single.

That's the best I could come up with lol!!

if you want to take her out, why not just speak your mind, you wrote down what you want in your post, now just tell her what you told us

let her know that you know it is sort of out of the blue, but you think she is really cute, and remembered her from when you first met, you really want to get to know her, but you don't even know where to start

introduce yourself, get to know her, get all the questions you have in your thread answered, and ask her out

you really have nothing to lose, she is either interested or not, and if she is not, you will be in the same place you are if you don't go speak your mind, nothing will be lost, you only have something to gain, and if it is not meant to be then it will be easier for you to strike her from your mind and you will feel relieved you expressed yourself as a man

GOOD LUCK

Thanks for your reply. Surely though it would be better to talk a few more times to allow her time to build an attraction for me too. Yeah I want to ask her out but I would have thought that the chances of her saying yes would be far greater if I gave her time to feel an attraction to me, IF she is going to feel one that is. What do you think? Also I was at the gas station again today and she wasn't there it's killing me only being able to see her once every few weeks I really don't know why I'm feeling this way. You know that feeling when you were still a kid in school and you had a massive crush on someone and you couldn't stop thinking about them, that's exactly how I'm feeling now!!! Lol!!

you are coming into this with the assumption that she does not already find you attractive, believe in yourself, all you are trying to figure out is if she is available for you and thinks that the benefits of meeting you would outweigh the risks, just tell her what is on your mind and believe in yourself, you wanted to know those things about her from your post, find them out, and ask her out, the worst case scenario you will know it is time to move onto other girls, best case scenario you have a date

5 minutes is really all you need, from meet to setting up a date, you don't want to get needy and find yourself stuck on one girl, or you will start playing to not lose, as apposed to playing to win, because you will become needy, this is how guys spend months and months on the same girl who is not interested and waste their time because they want to ''not blow it'' when they never really had it to begin with, just get in there, and get out what you want to say, take pride in your courage to express yourself, rather then expecting some sort of result

invest as little of yourself into women as you can, until they invest into you, don't make a huge deal of this girl, just meeting you once to hang out and talk cause you express that you are attracted to her and interested in getting to know her, is a relatively small investment on her end, if she won't do something on that small of a scale it is not worth your time

the results will come as a by-product of your belief in yourself, don't ever assume you are not good enough, go take what you want, and make sure it is what you want

If you need more information to feel confident enough to initiate with her. I suggest you talk to her little brother, ask him her name, age, boyfriend situation. If you get all the answers you need to proceed. You can either, leave a note with him to give her. Saying something like. Hi this is xxxx I came by to see you at work but you were not here. I find you very interesting and attractive. I'm the guy that you chatted with about blah blah blah. I would very much like to hear from you. Here's my digits. Gimme a text when you get a chance. Sincerely, xxxx.

Be cool and fun with the little brother, the more he likes you the more enthusiastic he will be about giving her the note.

If you decide you don't want to do the letter, then just go in another time. There is a good chance her brother will have told her about your visit so the next time you approach her, she will be aware of your interest. This next approach, should be much more telling. Generally if she smiles and seems a little nervous as you walk up, it will be a good sign. Tell her you came by to see her but talked to her brother, tell her you wanted to know her name. Then say, I don't have much time but you would love to talk with her again. Then ask for her digit's and offer her yours. Tell her you will text her soon, or if she is bored at work, tell her to text you. If texting gets initiated, tell her that you have been thinking about her ever since that day she screwed up the receipt, tell her it was super cute.

Good luck.

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Thanks for the replies.

@pumpington - You make a good point here, I could be feeling this way for months unless I act on my feelings now. Next time I see her I'll try and number close or try and get a date as "friends" You're right about me not believing in myself, I have had alot of confidence issues but I think I'll try and over come them for this girl. Thanks for the advice, much appreciated.

@SexAddict911 - I wouldn't go through her brother mainly because it's proof that I don't have the confidence to talk to her myself. I think that a girl would respect me more if I asked her directly. That idea almost sounds like the old school ritual, getting your friend to ask her out for you whilst you go hide in a corner lol!! If I'm gonna do anything it will be direct contact with her. I do know what you mean though. I'll be nice to her brother when I see him and try and be friends with him too. He looks a year or two younger than me and seems quite quiet and shy, never says much. So thanks for your reply

If she remembered you and had a good laugh about it, chances are you've got a +1 there with her already. If she's already screwed up in front of you, she might feel a little more at ease, seeing as she already has done before, and won't feel like you'll critique her too harshly on it.

Maybe building a bit of a rapport with the brother wouldn't go down too badly, so he doesn't get too protective over his big sis. If you don't go with the note idea, at least talk to the brother about her, find out a bit more about her through him. He'll let her know that you've been asking about her, which shows her she's been on your mind.

Yeah the more I think about it, it sounds like a good idea to ask her brother about her, nothing too personal, just her name and what days she works there so I know when to go there. And like you say, if he mentions to his sis that someone was asking after her then she might get the hint that I like her. Thanks.

With pumpington's and SexAddict911's inputs, I think you now have the best advices you can get in this forum. But of course, I know you'll want options so you can choose the one approach that you're most comfortable with.

You: You're SO fun.
Her: Thank you.
You: You're just like my (friend's, if you don't have a sister) sister. Hey, I want to surprise her with a FUN gift on her birthday. Can you help me out SHOP for a fun gift on your free time?
Her: Sure.
You: Give me your number so we can schedule. After SHOPPING, I'll bring you to a place where the best burgers are made. They're worth dying for.

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Explanation

Girls love to shop. When you shop, bounce from one shop to another. The more shops you go around with her, the better. Pull her arm, tap her shoulder, hold her finger, get closer, and so on. You don't have to buy the gift yet, since you're still evaluating your options. But ask her opinion on what she thinks is the best one.

The "sister" is a trigger word to gauge her attraction to you. If she's attracted to you, she'll make moves to prove to you that she can be more than a sister.

Shopping is a non-date activity that allows you to bounce to many places. Going from one place to another simulates familiarity between two long time friends. You'll also get excellent opportunities to escalate your kino under the radar. When you do take her out to lunch or dinner after shopping, take her to a fun place that she'll remember. Something that she'll remember as a fun memory.

Give women fun memories and you'll get their pants.

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Don't worry so much about what she may or may not think of your effort. The fact still remains, that you are progressing. You will be mentioning that you passed by to see her, but she wasn't there. So as far as appearing confident, I think it will show in the words of the note. It would be different if you saw her every day, but that is not the case. The simple fact is, you are not being efficient with your time. By writing a note and talking to the brother, you will be progressing, whether or not she is into it and you is irrelevant. You must be proactive always.

In my younger days, I had similar situations, where I was into a girl, but kept hesitating, when i finally made the effort, it was too late. One particular time, the girl even said to me....I wish you would of did this two weeks earlier, I just started dating someone. With this in mind, always cease the moment. Go with your instincts, if you are into a girl, any girl you encounter, make an immediate effort. Do this often and it will become habit.

The worst that can happen is far better then the torment of wondering what could of been.

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Thanks again for your advice.

I think if I'm going to go with the note idea I'd probably wait until I've seen her in person once more, because the last time she didn't recognise ME, she only remembered me once she knew I was the guy she embarrassed herself in front of lol!! If I gave her a note chances are she may not no who I am. If she recognises my face the next time then I would use a note. At least then she knows who is sending it to her.

Quick update. I've been in every day since then (Sunday, Monday, and today (Tuesday)) and she hasn't been there and I know she doesn't work Wednesday's. So I'm assuming that she is only there on Saturday's which is a bit of a nightmare. So if I want to ask her out id need to chat for longer when I DO see her there. I haven't seen her brother either. Ah well for now it's a waiting game until I see one of them again I'll be sure to keep you all updated if there's any progress.

I think you've missed an important point in my last post. ( being proactive and acting right away) If you see her again you will not need the note. Just stick around and talk to her. See if she is conveying interest in return. If you are getting a good vibe from her. Ask her for her number. Or simply suggest you both hang out sometime. Just wait till it feels right, she may even hint at it herself.

The note suggestion and talking to her brother, was based on you never seeing her there.

It's really quite simple, if you see her, show your interest, she's either gonna be interested or not interested. Go in with the frame of mind that these are the only two outcomes, and it doesn't matter either way.

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Yeah I see your point, no point waiting around for something that was never there in the first place. I was there again today and she wasn't there so I'm pretty sure she only works saturdays. I'll be going there again on Saturday to see her and hope she is there. I haven't seen her brother in about a week either.