| IMO depends on what you are calling out, and how it relates to you,
if it is related to something that is not your problem, but rather her problem (flaking)
then you don't have to call it out at all, but if you feel it will be an issue in the future you can pro-actively assert a dis-like for the behavior before it occurs, rather then passively aggressively get butthurt after it occurs, no use crying over spilled milk, it is her issue not yours, and once you make it yours, you are trying to force something from her, for your gain, and that shit is needy
it is better to just move onto someone that does not have this problem, and if the person with the problem returns, proactively prevent the problem, before it re-occurs
if something effects you, directly, and you do not wish it to continue, you can proactively call it out, if someone is being rude to you, you can corfront them, start a pissing contest, make what they are saying seem ridiculous, and proactively make it stop, you can stand up for yourself, but realistically as a man, you should control your emotions and do so with a level head, be respectful to those that show you respect, but always respect yourself first
but as soon as you find you are addressing problems that are not your problems, but rather other peoples problems, the neediness will come through
you need that person more then they need you, or you would just ignore them and find someone that did not have these problems if they bother you so much
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