How can I transform myself into a powerful alpha man? Any ideas, any good books? I read John Alexander's How to be an Alpha Male. It talks about dating mostly and the power behind alpha male is not that strong. I need to be a strong man in my life, what can I do? Not a lot of guys were fortunate to have a powerful alpha dad, so we need training. Any alphas out here, who would really like to teach me how to be one?

I am not an Alph but im working on it with you. I have been reading the 48 laws of power by Robert Greene. You might also want to look for his Art of Suduction as well. Thats what I have been working with so give it a read.
Hope for the best plan for the worst.
Naithiz

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watch some alpha male movies , try to gain their attitude.

A big example as known in the community is james bond, brad bitt (fight club).

try watching their movies and gaining their attitudes.

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I would also suggest the Robert Greene books..

Yes, good suggesstions. But how to develop a mindset and attitude that, I don't fear anyone, regardless of their title or rank. Currently I am on a mindset that I don't give a fuck about anyone, so I say stuffs over my professor and other students to be assertive and state my values and opinions. But I need a stronger attitude, that no matter what or who the person is I just don't give him or her a shit. Any ideas?

Start with accepting yourself with your flaws, give yourself permission to be flawed. Then you start working on your insecurities.

Most people know what an alpha male does, he walks in like he owns the place. You could do that too. The only thing holding you back is that you think that nobody will buy it. That people will know that you dont deserve to have that kind of behavior. Well, guess what, nobody is gonna tell you that it is ok to do stuff, you wont get anybodys permission. The one who has to give you permission is you yourself.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

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You seem to be so caught up with the fact you want to be "Alpha Male" and that is the thing you strive for.

While i may be wrong, i don't think it alpha to disrespect your teacher and elders. Surely an Alpha respects people when needed. (Just from what I've read in you 3 topics)If you were in my class at school, uni or college I would think your a dick, not "That guy is cool"" which I think real alphas are.

The "I don't give a shit about anything or anyone" is good. TO A CERTAIN POINT. You should give a fuck about some people, if you don't give a fuck about anyone, they won't give a fuck about you = Loner with no friends or women. Being assertive is good and stating your mind, but with-in reason , listen to people and there views.

Alpha Males have women and other males around him and wanting to be around them, They make them feel good about themselves, Alphas are secure with-in themselves and do not have worries.

Are you like this, It sounds as if you disrespect everyone, and I don't believe women would want to be around you. Try being Nicer to people and respecting people.

That is my view and I'm trying to help you.


Happy Gaming!

Well I don't want to insult people, for no reason, I want to build friendships, romance, and I want to be viewed as a cool person. But, the reason, why I said, I don't give a fuck about anyone, is my defense mechanism. I don't let anyone to run over me under any circumstances. But, if any who is appreciative of my personality or says hello to me, I would definitely reply back. If anyone congratulates me, I would say thank you.

I think the most important attitude that I need to develop is letting go of fear or developing a defense mechanism that will keep me on top of everyone at all times. I want to show my assertiveness, dominate others. Maybe, I am looking at things in a wrong way, and I need help from guys like you, to show me things in the right way.

So basically what you are saying is that people are fine as long as they support your delusional self image as an alpha male. And if they dont bow down to your highness, you run away and find someone who will believe that you are awesome.

Developing a self defense mechanism isnt gonna get you anywhere, it will only give you another thing to hide behind. Not awesome. It is only gonna make matters worse.

Your attitude is holding you back, an alpha male doesnt want to be on top all the time, he welcomes people who are awesome and stronger than him because it is very rare. You wanna show people your superiority and dominate them? Not cool.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

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You are just shitting on me man. You aren't helping a bit. I don't run away from people who don't respect me. I don't know what else to say. Just tell me what to do. I am pretty sure you weren't born as a alpha man, maybe your dad taught you some. Well I didn't grow up with my dad. I never even seen him in my life, so no strong male influence. I have to work my way up from the very bottom. At least you can be supportive and teach me what I should do. Your advice is good, but they are not subtle. I need instructions.

There are no instructions, no step by step guide. Ezo gave you the basics, now you just have to gradually instill that attitude. Problems that take years to develop take years to reverse.

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Yansaccnt, There is no pussyfooting around some stuff, Ezo is just being honest. As Ezo said Alpha's know how to act with-in a social environment, By the sounds of it you don't i'm afraid.....

Instead of trying to be alpha straight of the bat.

Loner(You said it yourself in a previous topic ----> Alpha.

Try being social first, saying Hi to classmates, see how they are, being "Nice" to your professores/ Teachers. Remember to smile.

I would imagine this will help and classmates will start seeing you in a different light.

Also, Stop making so many topics about different things you want advice on, You won't be able to absorb all the advice and help, You can't change yourself in 1 DAY.....

Happy Gaming!

Ezo did help you your problem is your attitude and what you think is alpha.
No you just want to insult them and fight them.
Guess what there are none. And no one can hold your hand and show you the way either.

You've already developed a mindset and attitude, and it is not one of an alpha male, and it is not one that is going to be very rewarding. It is far more likely to be punitive, especially in the social arena.

I couldn't agree more with Naithiz, The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene is a great book. Keep in mind, the author never uses the phrase "alpha male" so you might not be ready for it yet. It's not a step-by-step guide or self improvement book by any means, but it uses many examples from history about people who followed these rules, those who didn't, and what happened to them both. Honestly, from what you've said here, I don't think you would ever finish this book because it will not give you "attitude," and being an alpha male is more complicated than that. It's a complex state of being and knowing when to act, when to keep your mouth shut, how to treat different kinds of people, and respond to different kinds of situations. You seem to have your finger stuck on the "be an A-hole" button all the time.
An alpha male is a leader, and nobody will follow you if they think you don't care about them. An alpha male doesn't automatically give people crap just to be assertive. When you act like that, no matter how tough you think it makes you look, society immediately rescinds any offer of alpha male status and forcibly assigns you the title of A-hole.

Aint shitting on anyone here.

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Read these posts.

You are trying to fake your way into alpha maleness, to pretend and hope that people will just accept that you are an alpha male because you say it. It doesnt work that way. Alpha males wont just welcome you to their club and accept you as a brother (at least not weak alpha males which is what the world has to offer normally), they are gonna try to keep you down.

I have no good relation to my father either man, not even close so if you are trying to make me feel sorry for you because your father wasnt there, think again. Man I wish my father had been absent from my life, I truly do, that would have been better. I do have a very very dark past so dont pull that BS on me.

To give you an example of who I used to be.
I was the nerdy little kid, shorter than others, with glasses, of a different "race" if you want, not appreciating sports (not a teamplayer), hating cars and guns, had my first drink at the age of 17 and my first girl at the age of 19. Basically I was the farthest away from being an alpha male that would even be possible to imagine.

What I did have was a choice.

I had a choice to either keep being a total loser for the rest of my life, or to change my life for the better. I chose the latter.

I realized that nobody is gonna do anything for me and if anyone will make a change it is gonna be up to me. It pissed me off. So I decided to for the first time in my life play with open cards and since I was playing myself, it was pretty painful. I went through my personality and watched as my illusions crashed and burned in front of me and I saw my self as the wreck and the little whiny coward I was. All my life I have been blaming others, circumstances and whatnot for my shortcomings and I thought that life had treated me unfairly, making me walk the earth as a loser. Guess when it turned around for me? When I accepted the fact that it was freakin MY OWN FAULT!
Circumstances shift and people are egoists but it is the same for everybody! You cant blame your absent father or your friends or racists or your cool brother or your teacher or your friends. The only one who has any kind of responsibility is you!

Those posts are part of what I have used to become who I am today. I have gone through every possible stage in between. I have been angry, I have been sad, I have been self-loathing, I have been an egoist, I have been too proud, I have been arrogant. Now I am only me, I have thrown away the tools I needed to get past those stages and what is left is basically the same guy that I used to be, but as he was intended to be. Confident, mature, kind, caring and above all, a human being who doesnt apologize for who he is.

Now, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get to work.

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