SO I've been seeing this girl for about 2 1/2 months now (I'm 32, she's 22) and we go at it pretty hard...First in another thread I opened she complained that I was being too aggressive toward her on the sex tip, so I chilled out and told her always tell me if you have a problem, so after we hooked up again we preceded to have sex 7 times (!) in one weekend...The next weekend she spends by my house we have sex 4-5 times in the course of a 1 day and a half...

SO I go back to being I guess overtly sexual with her with texts and wordplay when we're on the phone (What she complained about earlier), so now she's jumping down my throat talking about I'm a sex-monkey and I have no self control (Which is bull$hit because she always gets me horney by massaging my inner-thighs and touching my manhood at random)...

She says on the phone today that she's starting to just see me in that light and it's overshadowing all the things we have in common that sparked us to go out in the first place...

Now I think she's just trying to test me, because she knows she likes sex..Now truth is she can't take me and apparently I'm beating her $hit up (Keep in mind she's a petite mostly asian chick), and I've read enuff magical whatever books to know to judge a girl by what she does never by what she says, so i feel like she's just trying to justify having so much sex with me by making it all about me...I flipped it back on her and said she's at fault for all the damn foreplay she does to rev me up..

Anyways, we're going on a date 2moro and I'm curious how I should approach her moving forward...I think she might want me to do something more romantic or something maybe..Truth is I think I'm falling for the chick, but I am holding it back a bit to keep her somewhat confused about my total motives...I think her claims are full of $hit, but what say you?

Don't get pissed at her about her "jumping down your throat". In fact if calling you a "sex monkey" were her exact words that's fucking hilarious! I'm not even sure she meant that seriously. Just tell her (calmly and with a smile) that you're a sexually charged guy, if she's not okay with that then you can either tell her she'll have to deal with it (Nicely) or you can offer to try to hold back a little. But make sure that she knows they'll always be there.

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It's one of those situations where she's playing but she's serious...She left my house the exact same way she did the first time she accused me of making her uncomfortable with my sexual demands (She does this $hit where she quietly gathers her things and just leaves out of the blue without any discussion)...

WE certainly laffed at what she accused me of, but I could tell deeper in the conversation she wanted to make a point of it, but with that said you don't just give it up 7 times, 5 times in a weekend and not want it ( and honestly I'm killing it although it helps she can't take me for $hit)...So I was thinking of a more romantic gesture just to appease her a bit, but I think telling her what you just said in addition to that gesture might be a win-win...

Please anyone else chime in aswell, cuz I could be off with this...

what a fucking weirdo, what's her hangup on sexting?

She may be testing you, or she genuinely doesn't like it for some odd reason. Question is, does eliminating the sexting bother you to the point of sacrificing getting sex from this girl anymore?

Whatever way you answer, your solution will be right before you.

just keep blaming her, she is trying to absolve herself of responsibility and seem pure, but you are past that, you are who you are, accept it, if she can't, then she is not a good match for you, just speak the truth, and the truth is, she makes you horny so too bad.... maybe she shouldn't be so sexy and strutting around touching you, if she doesn't want to turn you on (and you can just let her know that cause if you are just being you, you are obviously going to continue)

+1 on pumpington's reply.

Personally, I dated a woman like that in grad school. When it came time to break up (my idea) she totally flaked out and said the sex was all my idea, and she blamed me for her dumping her friends (which she did so she could have more sex with me. I even told her at the time such a thing was not cool). So if you choose to continue the relationship, just be careful, because you will probably not be dealing with a rational person. If she was a rational and well-adjusted person, she wouldn't be acting like this in the first place.

dude, I had a similar problem with a girlfriend. The chick was a total sex machine but she blamed it all on me. we would be on the train and she's put my coat over her and start blowing me. I'd visit her at her dorm and she'd close the doors and jump me. one time she came over and we were supposed to go out but she just totally attacked me and we fucked like crazy. then she'd complain that all we ever do is have sex and she needs more than that... I'm like wtf you initiate it as much as I do!! and she was like I know I can't help myself I'm really attracted to you but I need more than just sex... it was always a roller coaster with her and we eventually broke up and then for a while she would just come visit me and we'd fuck like rabbits.

I THINK the real situation is that some girls have issues and half of them loves getting guys off and being dirty and whatnot but then the other half of them that's socially programmed to be ashamed of being a slut is embarrassed about this behavior so they try to rationalize it and blame the guy etc etc...

the other irony is that this chick was a staunch feminist but NEEDED to be dominated in bed.

Blame it on her. It's her fault for turning you on so much. Next time you're with her, ATTEMPT to make a move on her but then resist yourself just short of it.

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Naithiz here. I think Chris2K10 is right. Show her what being a good boy is. tease her make her beg for it and just keep telling her "I dont want to be a sex monkey."
On one hand she will get worked up and beg you for it.
On the other It might just be embarised about everything being about sex rather then the game of suduction. (I mean wooing her, and making her feel like she is on top of the world.)
Then again im new to this shit and this is only my idea. if its wrong someone please tell me why so i can fix my mind

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ok, first of all, if you've already fucked a girl more than a couple of times AND you're fucking her well, then you have all the power in the 'relationship'. its important that you keep that in mind and let that one principle guide all your interactions with her.

i only say that because when guys get into relationships like the one you have they get all carried away, catch feelings, get all lovey-dovey, start spending way too much time with her and then turn into a major pussy and give away all their power. then the attraction slowly fades on her end. dont be that guy. continue to be a challenge, be too cool for her (i.e., have the frame that youre a cool adult male and that shes just a cute little girl who currently and only temporarily has your attention), and dont be so available. you know, all the stuff that got her attracted to you in the first place.

sorry about that little rant. anyway, onto your issue...

i think a lot of this boils down to her wanting to know that you like her for more than just sex. your age difference is probably a big reason. lets be honest theres usually only one reason a guy your age would be interested in a girl her age. so decide what you want. if its a traditional comitted relationship with her, then by all means give in and do some romantic stuff like taking her on a date. just keep in mind that a committed relationship is exactly where you figure to end up if you do this type of thing. so only do it if youre sure thats what you want.

what you should probably do (which you wont, because guys almost never do this) is just back away and become less available. you really shouldnt be rewarding her for playing these games. im not saying freeze her out or cut off communication, just dont respond to that nonsense. if she starts, just ignore it/her. 'punish' her by withdrawing some of your affection. like i said, if you're fucking her well, then she'll fall in line and give you what you want without all the games and bullshit. but you have to be strong and play it correctly.

Damn, this is alot of good advice...She'll be over today...

I'm currently assessing the options...

dude honestly when they start with the passive aggressive shit i just lose respect/interest and move on

i once heard that the man who does best with the hoes is the one who does just fine without them. now im not quite at the point where im actually fine without them, and i think that whoever said that was probably a bit drunk and exaggerating and he meant something more like "the guy who does best with girls is the guy who doesn't need them". or the guy who can drop a bitch when he sees she's full of shit

anyway my point is, if a girls being full of shit like this one is, it means a few things;

1 - she's lost her elegance. passive aggression is what the jealous girls do in high school.

2 - she's not a strong person (this is her problem and you can't fix it for her by helping her)

3 - she isn't a good communicator (major turn off because that means she isn't sexually open and you will never get to any decent level of bedroom depravity with her)

my advice - stop drop and roll lol aka gtfo of it/bounce from her to a friend of hers if that works with your morals or lack of morals lol

do your fellow man a favor and put her in her place so she knows. it's better for all of us if we don't let each other sit on pedestals. so tune her something like "listen. your whole story about me being sex crazed is irritating to me. it's judgemental and i don't appreciate that kind of passive aggressive input. rather go find a more loserish guy who's gonna be prepared to deal with this kind of sideways crap."

i like to make the final statements harsh so that they don't think they can call me/come visit etc which would interfere with my life and also because i think it's kindof fun. at the end of the day don't feel bad because she'll bounce back, and because of you she'll understand a bit more about how men really work so she won't f*ck up the same with her next guy (which might even be you just in a new way), kindof a tough love thing.

anyway peace love and a sexually emancipated free market

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Let me offer a slightly different piece of advice than what's been presented already: take this girl on a date during which there is zero chance for anything sexual to happen. Make a point out of NOT sleeping with her, but don't specifically draw attention to it.

This will demonstrate that you are interested in more than just her body, which could be all she is looking for when she 'criticizes' you for being too sexual.

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I forgot a piece before. When I first started dating girls, I would let them have the sexual power because I didn't know any better. A woman will use her pussy to control you and manipulate you if she can. The easiest way to fix this is to hold out on them. Don't go for sex for a few days. When she tries to seduce you act uninterested. If you have a really shitty weak relationship this may just break it up but if you have any kind of relationship built up what will happen is the chick will freak out and be blown away that you rejected her advances. After you do this, the situation totally flips and the chick will never complain about too much sex or any similar phrasing again, in my experience.

Keep in mind I had already done this prior to posting this...I did this exact scenario after taking her to a clipper game...I made a purpose of telling her (Like Tidy said) that I'm a sexually charged person, but I can hold it back and that's not what I'm all about...That night was great, we connected and later on just slept (no sex) with each other that night...

Now moving on to today and yesterday...The plan went sour...She came over and cooked for me...We ate, enjoyed ourselves then layed on the couch and started marathoning a show...I started to initiate teasing (so that I could cut her off!), but she was cutting me off a bit...We'd makeout a little and there was maybe one time where I cut her off, but she didn't try hard to reinitiate...We rubbed on each other interlocked legs, crap like that, but she began to get tired and so she went to sleep in my bed...

I was pi$$ed off and didn't even wanna hug with her in the bed, but she latched on to me so it felt alright...the next morning I started initiating more kissing and stuff, then I finally asked her if something was wrong...She was like nothing is wrong she's just tired in the morning (This is the same girl who has blessed me, sexed me, and jacked me in the morning in previous weekends)..

I finally snatched my arms from around her and said "Your killing me..."She was all like because you can't have sex? So I was like because you really don't seem engaged as much this weekend...I'mma grown man, and I know what I want..I'm pretty affectionate and if I'm only gonna see I girl I'm dating pretty seriously just 1-2 times a week I wanna be that way with them...

She came back to hug and kiss me, but everything felt $hitty and fake up until she abruptly left for her aunt's birthday which wasn't for a few more hrs, so she didn't have to leave...

So I don't know where I stand..Cleary I fucked up somewhere in here...Please critique me (helpfully^^) and give me options moving forward (should I call or text her with something?)...I'm thinking of just falling back hard for like 4-5 days, but I don't know, because up until I called her on the sex, we seemed to be having a great connection that night (which made the lack of sex evenmore frustrating)...

I thought chilling out hard on clipper game night would get me highly rewarded yesterday, but it was evenmore puzzling...