OK guys I need some advice on what I can do or advice I can pass on to her family.

She is 19 lives at home with her mum (who is ill) Her 14 year old brother and her 11 year old brother.

Her 14 year old brother is a big kid physically. He is twice her size and pushes her about. I don't think he hits the mother but I know he doesn't listen to her. He constantly disobeys and there is nothing they can really do about it.

I don't think he is genuinely a bad kid I just think he needs a father figure in his life and the family has always been shat on every-time the mother gets a guy coz she chooses the wrong men.

Lately he has been swearing at his mum and when my gf confronted him he beat her up and cut all her head open. I want to march up there and kick his ass but he's 14 so I can't really do that, and considering I've never met her mum (due to her depression) It wouldn't come across as me doing a favour.

I've never come across anything like this before so I have no idea how to help. I don't think kicking him out is an option due to his age but the family really can't carry on like this. I am afraid for my gf's safety and not doing anything is not an option either.

Can anyone give me ideas?

Are you bigger than the kid? Who cares if he's 14. If he wants to be a big man and hit women, especially your girlfriend, he should face the consequences.

At the very least you should confront him, and tell him if he touches her again, you'll be paying him a visit.

I'm not sure if he is bigger than me. I've never met him. I've only met the younger one once. He looks pretty big and I am short and 'average'.

I'm not afraid to confront him though, the only problem is I'll need to keep my cool.
Anyone else and he'd have the shit kicked out of him but If I get too heavy with it her mother and possibly her will never forgive me.

If I was to write a threat to him how would you word it? I'd also have to explain to the mother what I am trying to do so I could say something along the lines of what you said. That If he wants to be a big man and hit women or talk to his mother like crap, especially her, I will be teaching him a lesson.

I'll also give him a speach on how it's pathetic that a so called man is hitting women etc.

Thanks

You won't be a hero. They are being abused. So tell the girl that and say you'll go with her to report it to the police. If she refuses, that's her choice. It's teh wrong choice, but arguing with her will only cause her to side with family. So put the naive idea of saving her aside.

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These hos ain't loyal

Inform the police and let them take care of it. You beating up the 14yr can land you in jail among having various charges against you.

I know that most people won't agree with me, but here's my 2 cent.

Ironically, I've been, and still am, in a situation that is pretty similar, only, I'm the younger brother.

Before reporting it to the police or trying to do anything to beat him up, you should keep some things in mind. 1- The gravity of the situation? Does he actually beat her up really hard? Punch her or etc, or he *only* pushes around?

You should always keep in mind that your girlfriend will not always tell you the real story and that you will let your emotion control you since she is the person that you love.

Personally, my sister and I been arguing for years, and she's been doing everything she possibly could to make my life miserable but I just don't play her game. However, sometimes things can get a little bit heated and we'll have *physical* confrontation. Let's keep in mind that I've been doing MMA, boxing and am probably twice her size so I would never hurt her... But the fact is that she is often the one initiating violence, by running into me and such. One day, when she was really mad at me, she started trowing heavy things at me, she then proceeded to hit me with an object. I don't think it would be smart to let her beat me up like that so I then stopped her by using wrists control so she couldn't hit me. She starting biting me so I ran away. The next day, she told her boyfriend I was beating her up... While it was actually a ton of bullshit.

Last time, she tried to break into my room, and as I was keeping the door closed, she had the bright idea to put her arm on the door and I closed the door.

The next day, her boyfriend called me, told me he saw a mark on her arm and started threatening me ( Even if he is much weaker than me and wouldn't have a chance against me) and he was 100% sure that I was beating her up. She made up stories and told him bullshit. I would never hurt a women. But sometimes you have to protect yourself. She has a knife in her room, and if she even try to stab me, I will not just let her injure me without doing anything...

Anyways, I just wanted to show you that there is often two side of the same story. Don't fall for everything she tells you. She might as well be the agitator and manipulates you just like my older sister's does.

So before you do anything, make sure this is not some BS story. However, if it's not and this is a serious situation when her health is actually in danger, you should do something about it.

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