Last night was out with my friend psychologist who told me a golden story which opened my eyes when it comes to facing yourself and facing someones opinions of you.


This could be strongly related to Kasabi's topic about ,,Not giving a shit vs giving a shit''.
Both of those states are useful from time to time, but by combining them you make a perfect technique which is:
1st stage:Preparation
1)Get out on the street
2)Try to focus on your present STATE (mostly try to be happy, since this is hard to maintain ..if you get what i mean)
3)Walk and welcome random strangers by saying: Hi, hello or Good Day ONLY when looking them directly in the eyes( depends on you and the age of that person)
4) After few ,,Hi's'' try to feel the new state you are in

Yes, that was the simple part.

2nd stage: Goal
1)You should be in the same STATE when you started your ,,Journey''
2)These few approaches should not have affected you at all since these people don't know anything about you and you don't really care if they like you or not
3)After few of these you will feel so free and so relaxed,since i find it easier to talk to strangers when you have a story or an excuse for what you are doing...i found this practice much harder than it should be

My experience: First time i had to change my pants.I was hell scared even if i usually have no problems approaching people on street. I was so quiet and shy, i just couldn't do it.
Then my friend showed me how it's done: She was smiling and welcoming everyone...
2 cases: People would or Ignore her or just say Hi and smile back...that's it

Another story related to getting rid of ego is to bare the though of people thinking your are stupid. Let me say this once more.
BARE THE THOUGHT THAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU ARE STUPID...fucking hard,
go into butcher shop and ask(completely serious since that is the rule): Can you copy me these papers, i am in a hurry...or something out of context pretending you mean it

Beauty in this practice is that it so simple but it's so hard to start with it.
I just couldn't do it first few times, i like people to like me, not think i am stupid.
Don't we all right?

I know here are people who probably did this already so i would like to hear experiences. What was the funniest thing that happened to you? How did you feel first few times,etc. ?
And for those who didn't i guarantee that this will help you get over AA and love yourself more. Good Luck everyone

This is a really helpful post for getting rid of AA but I must correct you on something. It's not about feeling stupid that gets one into that powerful state but rather doing something unusual. The reason that guys have AA is because they feel bound to social norms. Meaning when they see everybody else not just approaching random girls they feel they also can;t approach random girls. They're binding themselves to the social norms and therefore feel part of that group. Once they do something out of social norms they feel like they don't belong to that group anymore and therefore can do anything they feel like that's out of social norms and still feel good about it. Just like you gave an example where a guy goes into a butcher shop and asks to copy some papers. Sometimes to get into state I do pushups in public places like on the subway or in a mall. This get's me out of all that clutter of social norms. Look if you are crazy enough to do pushups in the middle of the street wouldn't you be able to approach girls which is less crazier.

- Amazing Art -

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Yeah, that's sounds interesting, reminds me of ,,Simple Pickup'' , they do push-ups when one refuses to approach a girl. I must try that!
Anyhow you nailed it, it is really about doing something unusual which doesn't fit into behavioral teachings we were taught in school.

In books I've read about popular playboys and lovers is that they weren't afraid to be themselves at all times. They didn't care about social norms, and that is why they had people chase them on different levels (from jealous husbands to angry police officers).