First post on this forum, have used other forums but needed something new. This might be a tad long but would love to hear whether this is worth my trouble. Sort of new to the PUA scene, had a few bad scenarios in the last year or two, trying to overcome.

So basically all I want to know is whether to let this one go. I work with her once a week (diff departments). She was really into me and I didn't really even notice her at first, but she was persistent lol. Started to finally notice her, joked and had tons of fun at work, tons of IOIs, flirting, all that good stuff, I can just tell she liked me.

Anyways this went on for a few months, never really thought about actually doing anything with her as I really just had other options and was busy and she is maybe a HB6-7, but with a good personality, someone I gel with. One night a couple weeks ago after chatting for a bit at work I was just like "lets hang out next week whats your number", and got it. Texted once in a while back and forth but I am a busy person (like Im talkin not many texts, a couple every couple days, the ones that were sent were all DHV, negging, some roleplay, good openers and building comfort,freezing her out for suspense).

The next week we work together, same shit, super chill at work, (same old flirty self, constantly trying to get my attention if a walk by waving or making some kind of noise). That night she wants to go out during the shift and smoke a joint (i work at an arena thats never busy, no big deal) but I decline since this guy i work with is totally against that and thats fine by me. At the end of the night I had to wait for a friend, so I was like come have coffee with me but she had to stay there. I just didnt go over and stayed there with the guy I work with.

More texting that week, same type of shit super spaced. Get to work today, shes there, again same old stuff, and again she wants to go out and smoke a joint at work, so I say what about after work she says her roommate is waiting for her to get home (I smell flake). Asked her what her schedules like this week, told me I could come down to her place to smoke a j this week (really at this point thats not really what Im after but might be good to just get there and try and escalate) if I feel like driving to her place (like 35 mins away or so, shes moving way closed in a couple weeks or someting).

We left and now Im wondering if I should even bother with this? I havent been AFC at all or atleast super little. She was the one trying to qualify for me at first, now it looks like its switched? Im a little confused on what to do. Im not a pro PUA so Im still kinda new at it, but I seriously actually tried on this one hahaha. Did I waste too much time since I really couldn't go see her the last 2 weeks (work and plans already made like sending friend off to Korea)?

So yea lol should I just drop this one or if I should keep going and am not LJBF zoned, just strike up conversation in text and say what?

ANY help appreciated guys!

Also: Not sure if this is relevant to anything here but she knows I plan on moving overseas later this year and have talked about this before (not in great detail, she asked me once when I am moving to europe, told her later this year most likely, thats it). Could this have some reason. Probably shouldnt have said it.

Honestly, you just shouldn't shit where you eat. Seriously though, I never, ever, date girls that I work with. I realize you only see her once a week or so, but it can still be annoying as hell. On the flip side, if you think its worth it for an HB6-7, I'd give it a shot, just don't try too hard. However, on the side that is neither flipped nor unflipped... if you're gunna go for it, I'd probably bail on the meet up, and see how she responds. Try to get things back the way they were, you know?

Cheers,
-GA

Thanks for the quick response man.

I hear ya. Basically like I said earlier, I didnt even really notice her before. I mean she worked there but it wasnt until I actually really talked to her that I even thought about giving this a go. Great personality, we really do click, so its not all about looks on this one (although she is pretty good looking). That and the fact my job is the most whack job in the world, I really couldnt care less about it, and my boss is a womanizer so thats fine lol.

Ill just wait a couple days and text her. All her texts are high investment texts, which is a good sign. I can tell there is something still there just not sure at what level it is at. Not sure if shes playing hard to get either, but I would rather just go out for a drink or something or do something fun/go to mall/etc than just go smoke a joint, not sure if asking for to do anything else would be outta the question, you see what Im sayin?

No problem mate. Yeah I know what you mean, I've been in a similar situation. Sounds like this girl could actually be relationship material? If that's what you are considering than I think your plan is a good one. Make her wait for it, who knows, maybe she'll text you first. I would also keep it casual, like what you were thinking. Since you haven't really hung out with this girl outside of work, the whole dynamic between you might seem a "bit" off outside of your job. Good luck buddy, hope it works out!

Cheers,
GA

Thanks man. Will keep people updated.

Would still love to hear anyone else opinion of course.

Any reason you are only texting back every few days?

Any reason you aren't picking up the phone and calling her?

I bet she has no idea your interested in her "more than a friend"

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I figured that might be the case too.

Im not only texting her back every few days, mightve said it a little wrong. Basically meant Im not sending a million texts, one after the other. If she sends a reply Ill whenever I got a chance. Im not free 100% of the time, but didnt think texting was a problem SPAM. Any ideas of what I should do for this?

As for calling, I hadnt thought about it but since I wasnt really planning on seeing her the last 2 weeks (as I said I really didnt have any free time to), but not as busy these next 2 weeks yet so was gonna try then, but as GrandArchitect mentioned maybe I should lay off for a week. Or should I just call this week? What to do!? lol.

This is about where my problems are.

What should I do to get her interested in more than friends? I know kino and all that, but cant do that at work as she literally cant leave a wooden box in a lobby with people for 8 hours, so I need to get her out. Take her up on the hang out and try and show more? Or what do you guys think? How to go from this part, to more than friends. Something tells me I friendzoned HER. lol

Got some advice saying move into qualification, good idea?

Anyone?

I can't really tell you what to do - but I would agree, I bet she has no clue you like her.

Yup, agreed. Why now really why why why did you not go blaze with her durring work? Cuz mr womanizer boss doesn't like that? Haha what boss would? The whole point is that she is isolated with you and you could spit GAME. She gave you more then enough opportunities for you to k close or f close at work. She noticed you are not ALPHA, what female wants to reproduce with a BETA? You want to take her to a show? The mall? Wtf. She wants to blaze a joint. I would rather go smoke with a hb behind the dumpster then be ANYWHERE ELSE. You text her every few days? No escalation? You have to close that shit. Say you got some fire and you wanna smoke a blunt with her. But I digress, that's what I would have done a long time ago. You are just a freind my freind. Just a freind.

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Totally agree with you for the most part.

Still not out though I dont think.

Didnt say anywhere about a movie, though the mall was a good place to kino, and didnt blaze with her because the guy I am working with is like huge lamo, didnt need him ratting me (yea my boss is a womanizer, but hes totally against drugs, its not the same guy i work with), and even if that didnt show ALPHA, figured it would be fine since it was at work..show that im not gonna lose my job for this chick and do whatever she wants, Either way, it looks like now thats one place i fucked up.

So basically I should hit her up this week and get out to her place, bring some weed, get stoned, escalate? What do you guys think I should do?

I really think my problem was the fact I've been friendzoned a bunch of times not too long ago and tried to avoid it like the plague here, being way too distant almost like I didnt care. Tried hard to not get AFC. Especially with the texts, I dont even think about it sometimes and just want to text, but tell myself no. Last text she sent she said "why arent you at work to check things with me.." and i didnt reply. I need to work on this shit asap.

That's a good sign.

You have to meet up with her and escalate just as you said. I've noticed women decide if you are a suitable sexual partner the first few seconds they meet you do if your in the freind zone already your fucked. So the only way to find out is to chill with her and escalate. Again this is why I don't GAME chicks I work with cuz I love money more then pussy. But that's a whole different subject. You have to let her know indirectly/directly that you want to stick your penis in her pussy. Flirt. Get her wet. Don't worry about your boss and co workers if you wanna bang this chick. Just remember you will be working with her...

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thanks for the help again man, gonna try this out.

Get back to us and let us know how it went

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