That's got to be your basic attitude. But, not one of arrogance, rather one of confidence. There IS a difference between the two.

Arrogance: offensive display of superiority or self-importance; overbearing pride.

Confidence: belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: His lack of confidence defeated him.

So, you've got to be confident that you're the man. This is an inner game issue. Which is also the core of your game overall, including your outer game. It's something that you can literally feel within yourself. The confidence, the comfort, of knowing who you really are, and being OK with that.

I know I am, but thanks for the confirmation.

LMAO, no problem saq. Glad I could help.

I personally believe this is the most important thing to attain when advancing your skills as a PUA.

Knowing that you are cool, and fun, and funny, and interesting, and that you do have something to contribute to your fellow homo-sapiens. You learn this through repetition and practice. I always like to use Vin Diesel's quote from Knockaround Guys


It's about fighting, but it pertains to PUA too...keep at it, and one day you'll be it

Most of you new guys today need to learn confidence and in doing so, make sure you know the difference between confidence and arrogance.

It will serve you well in all of life, not just picking up girls.

Defiantly bro...past few days i've been in a state of mind that i maybe had once in a blue moon but now i know it's going to stick, i'm sure everyone has an off day but i mean the majority of my way of being.

What defiantly helps is not just saying "i'm interesting" but actually BE interesting..have shit to say...opinions(even if they conflict with other person's...people say it's bad to do this b/c it kills the "vibe"...but i rather just be honest if i don't agree with what someone is saying). Read shit...pay attention to what people say...sometimes i even take someone else's little success joke...people copy lingo all the time so i don't see the harm.

Trying to keep the mindset of "i own this room, and all eyes are on me" defiantly feels powerful. I don't know how i ever lived by "blending" in...i figured someone worth knowing would SPOT me and initiate.....but that's not how things work. Maybe sometimes, but very rare.

Something that helped me....i stutter so that usually consumed my mind. Now i just concentrate on that actual interaction..the present(or so i try).

What do you guys think about this....i'm not going to say always because that's impossible...but try to constantly have sexual thoughts of you and this girl as you guys are talking. Sounds like it fits with whoever said it "i'm not going to be ashamed of being a man and my desires" so yeah. Seems to help with confidence too, as you can see yourself railing her ..pulling her hair...etc.

Most important thing about confidence is to always be confident and not "appear" confident...quote from knockaround guys fits this completely...the goal in my mind is to no longer think "look alpha/confident" but just BE it and make it become my subconscious so i can spend my day thinking about more pleasurable things.

slyder, you are so right that we need to BE confident. Of course, if we have to act it until we ARE, then that's the training wheels part of things.

Also, good point you made that we shouldn't JUST agree to fuel the vibe. LOL, quite the opposite actually. The vibe will be fueled if we are just HONEST even if we don't agree, because on certain things, if we don't agree, the girl will be shocked and we will be able to start a whole negging, teasing thing from that one point. Which of course FUELS the vibe. And, the girl will usually be more impressed by a guy that has the balls to stand up for what he thinks, instead of just agreeing to whatever she says.