Time is ticking. Month after month, year after year - the fact remains that I've never had sex without paying for it. All the equipment's working, I'm fairly proficient in bed, but I've only ever had sex with prostitutes. For over a year now I've been going out nearly every weekend tomcatting to no avail. On the rare occasion I do an approach and feel like I'm maybe making progress towards my goal, but more often than not I don't do anything / nothing eventuates and to top it off I usually can't give up and go home without visiting the brothel.

It's quite a frustrating situation to be in and I really do hope that I get an unpaid root soon. But due to the length of time in which I haven't had any success I sometimes get the feeling that - despite my best effort and intentions - that I will never get an unpaid for root.

What mostly fuels this feeling is procrastination. As in, I tend to procrastinate with making progress. I go out, see a chick that might be good to approach but I don't approach - thinking I'm not in the right mindset or whatever - but moreover there's this faith that I will eventually accomplish my objectives. And it's this faith that screws with me I think. What I think is at some point, sometime (and maybe not so far off into the distant future) I will just approach a chick and pick her up just like that.

Problem is, I don't really know what to do. I can go out to a club with a lot of hope beforehand but when I get there it just sucks. Sometimes I think the chicks aren't hot enough to get me interested in approaching them (despite the fact being in bed with an average chick would still be awesome - it's not like I screw prostitutes who are ultra hot 10s all the time). Sometimes I think I'm too tired - yawning away. Sometimes I don't find any opportunities or women I find approachable (lone wolfs are my prime targets although there isn't many). But even when I do get an opportunity I rarely take it with open hands (i.e. approach).

Another possible problem I have is conflict of pick-up styles. But I think the main mindset I have is 'that I just want to get an unpaid root damn it! Just once in my fucking life! I've come close before (and even was basically successful at getting laid once or twice before despite not actually doing so - many years ago now unfortunately).

I feel like I need a kick in backside or something as time just goes on an on and on. Monday to Friday - stuck in an office - go out on a Friday or Saturday night but rarely do anything.

And even when I do do something, because I haven't been successful yet, it still perpetuates the feeling of never accomplishing the objective.

It's not like I get into serious states of depression or anything, I live a fairly happy life regardless of this stuff (I get better at coping over time). But still it's something I've had on my to-do list for a while which has never got done.

Do your homework, you will develop your own style as you go.

Stop having sex with prostitutes, that's unsafe.

Do nothing, get nothing.

Do something, get something.

Your choice.

Trying going out with friends, it is waaaaayyy easier to approach a 2-set with a friend than to go after a lone wolf yourself.

Also I'd get involved in some activities such as taking a language class, going to a wine tasting or book signing, anything related to something you are interested in, you may meet women there and just hit it off, not all girlfriends come from bars you know.