Okay guys I thought this would be a very good post about helping one acquire self-esteem. This is an answer I gave to someone that asked me about low self-esteem.

Question:

hello.. im new here.

i've been suffering from social anxiety through out my all teenage years (since about 14, im 19 now).
I been going to like 5-6 psychologists and cognitive therapists but none of them realy helped me that much.
my condition did get a bit better this year since i met some other people who suffer from social anxiety so i got me some bddies and we somtimes meet up and go drink a beer or somthing.
anyway after years of trying to fight it and all my teens being wasted i turn to pickup as my last resort.
when it comes to females im a fucking cunt.. im scared of them in a fucked up ways.. i think maybe like 50% of the girls i studied with in my highschool class i never spoke a word with.. if they would see me today in the street they would'nt even know who am i.
any tips on how to get started? i went out the other day and decied to ask some girls what time is it.. i managed to ask some but i got realy anxious with the good looking ones and didnt approach them.
i realy have no idea where to start.. help me Razz thx


Answer:

Ramb your doing a good job already. Your problem is you have low self-esteem SO we need to raise your self-esteem. Right now you think that by coming up and chatting to girls your doing them a favor because they're better than you. The problem with that it's not true. Until you actually find out about the girl you have no idea whether she is better or worse than you. But your self-esteem is pretty low and therefore you perceive it that way. Well let's fix that. The number one thing you have to do in order to fix it is realize that your not perfect and no one is perfect. You are not good at everything but there are things your good at. Take a pen and paper and write a list of things your good at and the things you accomplished in your life. When you finished writing that sheet read it to yourself a few times. At first you might feel sad when reading the sheet but after reading it a few times this feeling will go away. Spend a few minutes every day reading and recognizing your accomplishments. Keep this sheet close to you and if possible when you read this sheet read it out loud. The second thing you should do is, whenever negative thoughts about yourself come into your head repel them. If they tell you you cant do something tell yourself you can. And whenever you accomplish something reward yourself. For example if you lost 5 pounds and this was your goal reward yourself. All of the above things will dramatically improve your self-esteem. All this techniques are not artificial or false or imaginary but rather they're the truth that you don't think about. Good luck!

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thas some good advice, to evertyone reading this, I would take it. what i also do to try blok out negative self talk is a use rubber bands. one on each wrist, so whenever i tihnk poorly of my self, i snap the band.