Lately I've found im constantly negging girls or being mean to them. Everytime I think about being nice I always think shel see me as a nice guy or a loser and she can walk over me. So my question is is it alright to compliment girls and say stuff like your nice looking or you look nice today or will this make me look like a loser also should you compliment girls a lot more than you neg them?

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Negs are something Mystery thought up to break down bitch shields on super-models. They work best on high status girls who have a lot guys constantly sucking up to them. Furthermore, they are designed to be backhanded COMPLIMENTS ("you're cute, too bad your not my type"), or at worst, ambiguous (*picking lint off a girl*). They are not mean to be mean. Personally, I don't use them at all anymore.

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So would you advise giving girls compliments when I'm out with them or talking to them cause I'm always scared if I do they'll think I'm after them and will no longer want me

Being mean is not the point of negs. They are only used in case someone is having a too high opinion of herself and needs to be reminded that you dont buy her shit.

A neg is like karate or bad breath, used only for self-defense.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Which then begs the question...why even put up with that and associate with someone like that?

Honestly, it depends on the situation. I don't really compliment. In a lot of my interactions, I treat girls like their 5 years old and keep the interaction very playful. I tease, tell entertaining stories, tell her she smells funny (again, as if you were talking to a five year old), make funny faces at her.. whatever.

In other situations I'll go a bit more sexual.. I'll ask her about previous relationships, I'll tell funny/terribly dating stories.. I'll rant about how all guys are relationship impaired (except me, of course). I'll explain "freaks, hoes, and good girls" theory. If it's a first date then, I'll screen for sexual adventurousness by telling her stories about swingers parties I've been to or how I think the whole monogamous relationship dynamic is broken.

I usually only compliment to reward good behavior. Then I'll say, "Shhh.. but don't tell anybody I say that. I don't want to ruin my image." Heh.

Okay, now that I think about it.. I do use compliments as a forum of push/pull. I'll say something nice and then say something like "too bad we'd make a terrible couple." (like the neg example I gave in the last post). However, when I say stuff like that, it's meant to be a tease.. the delivery has to be very playful.

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Very good point. People frequently search so hard to find the Batcave that they dont realize that they have nothing to gain from talking to SPAM, he is the lamest superhero you can imagine and they would better spend their time searching for someone who is bearable to be around.

Basically, people would be better off not giving so much value to sex with girls and start giving more value to having sex with girls they actually like.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

there is nothing wrong in complimenting girls but make sure to say it at the right time. those women that thinks that a man is a loser if he compliment her are the types that needs some negging.

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I'm going to have to disagree with you a kajillion % on the whole SPAM being the lamest super hero thing... Are you mad?

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Who says that there are only option a - neg them or option b - give them compliments? There is option c - don't give compliments and do nt neg.

Ha ha, I knew you would love that one. I stand corrected, Aquaman is the lamest one ever. I just used SPAM because he is the only one with a Batcave.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

OH I KNOW YOU DID NOT JUST SAY THAT SHIT ABOUT SPAM...

as for your question a-team, imagine the rolls were reversed, and girls approached guys, and guys thought their cocks were super special, because all the girls wanted to suck on them and steal our baby gravy,

now you would have tons of girls sucking up to you if you were a really cute guy, they would say all sorts of nice things to get their greedy little hands on your baby gravy (if you are a supermodel or something), so after a while you get sick of every girl being a suck up to you, for obvious reasons, you just start to think that everyone will like you no matter how you act or what you do, as a side effect you may start treating girls like shit, just because you can, and suck ups annoy you

now the goal of a neg, is to show, that you are not that impressed by how hot she is, and you are not trying to suck up to her, you are challenging her ego, in order to get her attention

the goal however is not, to insult her, and make her feel bad, this actually leads the resentment, and chances are, this will put you in a worse position than being ''nice'', you want to be a cool guy, not a mean guy, and not an ass kisser, not a clown or an entertainer, just normal, and cool to hang out with

being rude will get you just about as far with girls, as being an ass kisser, the only difference is being rude will make girls hate you and not want to be around you, and being a nice ass kisser will get you the friend zone, and they will just walk all over you cause they know they can have you any time they want and you are not a challenge,

instead of being either, I suggest you be yourself, and don't pay attention to how ''you'' should act, but rather the way you want ''them'' to treat you, if a girl is not treating you well, then stop giving her attention, if a girl is treating you well, give her attention, pretty much that easy,

don't worry about getting her to like you, worry about if you like her (beyond her looks, cause if she treats you like garbage and you are cool with that, then chances are you are desperate or don't have standards)