Greetings guys,

I'm honestly frustrated and furious about my current situation, I'm usually very optimistic but I'm very unsure on how to deal with this.

I started going to college again and I started off really well, dhv'd myself, showed uber-confidence and people respected me alot, girls cant stop saying how much the other girls love me and that I'm like the player of school (I never talked about PUA). I appreciated to hear all this but I think they said to much.

I began to really focus on being the ALPHA, and to be honest, I'm unsure on how I can define ALPHA nowadays. I used to be a good listener, someone good to talk with and I was the ideal friendzone material but now I'm different.

The girls adore me, they like to be around me, But I think i'm to obsessed with being Alpha, I set myself up defence and I dont go out giving compliments, or talking positive about them, It's always like, I'm tha man! Not like i'm telling people I am, I just act that way, It's like.. My entire system is build around it.
I honestly cba listening to people's lifestories and being like yeah I feel ya blablabla just to satisfy them, but that's exactly what they wanna hear.
There's so much against my moral right now, that it's starting to clash, and I'm just unsure of what I should be doing. Should I go back to the guy you can talk shit too whenever you want, or should I stay the way I am and strive for my own goals? It feels like I got these girls under my sleeve, they keep expressing IoI's, asking to walk me to the busstop, giving me rides home, even buying me drinks and shit, But I just dont escale it in a friendly way.

An example is this:

Agreed to go out for a drink with a girl because we can talk very well, she's interested in me, and she gave me a ride home, we had a very good conversation, she's awesome, but she's not my type, and because of that, I pretty much ignore her the next day because I didn't feel interested.

Is this seriously a bad sign, am i being a retarded prick, or am I just being honest?

Time to find a balance within. The mentality needs to be fixed in a way to your liking. You should be humble to have these benefits when other men would kill to be in your shoes. Don't take these women for granted and cool it with the alpha. Unless it needs to be used, then save the alpha for a time when it needs to come out(say when a girl gets TOO comfortable with you or another alpha fool tries to challenge you). It releases a lot of unneeded tension.


I learned that once I already established my alpha frame, there is no point in needing to keep it up constantly. The girls feel more relaxed and they act their quirky selves or who they really are. It's really refreshing too. Once they try to test you, just put them back into their place. It won't be too hard to calibrate it once you get use to it. Girls will adapt to your frame.