Hi everybody!
I'm a spanish woman (excuse me if i make any language mistakes) and I've been reading about pick-up artists for a while. I'm not that interested in picking-up guys all the time (i've got nothing against it though) but i find pretty interesting all the mechanisms involved and i use them. In my case it's been more a matter of keeping relationships when they were sort of fading away, or to get someone that i'm already with to get more emotionally involved. It usually works. I guess our goals can be different but we are all capable of using strategy and psychology to understand how these things work. However, every now and then my intuion fails, because i can't totally project my own mechanisms on guys, just because we don't always react the same to similar stimulus and once there i have no clue on how to go on.

My question to all men in here is: what are the main differences between women and men in terms of what makes you more attracted to a woman you are already interested in?, what makes you fall in love fast?, and slow?, what causes your rejection? etc. To set an example and maybe help some of you, if i had to answer myself any of these questions i would say:

- I usually feel more attracted to men just by having a stable sexual relationship with them, and specially if i can find rational reasons to go ahead, such as: he is inteligent, successful, kind, loyal, etc. I tell myself all those things and somehow that makes the emotional and physical attraction grow. All i need is to be able to build a plausible story of what could happen in the future. That might be a great difference between men and women, we tend to anticipate all our damned future, can't help it!

- As much as i hate it, rejection makes me fall in love faster than anything else. But not too much rejection (it can make me run away before i get hurt). I still need to think that the guy is the appropriate one and not feel too rejected because that kills my sexual appetite. It's more a matter of feeling insecure about his feelings for a short period of time (a week? two?) and then i'm in. From that point on he can be as loving as he wants, i'm already there.

- I fall in love slowly and peacefully, in a healthy way, when i find very very communicative guys that are able to share a pretty clinical and cold analysis of their feelings (no romantic blablabla) and how they evolve. Letting me understand what's going on and being able to share my own part, that overdose of information almost shown in a scientific way is the best thing there is. But that might be just me.

- Things or people that cause me rejection: Insecure guys, sad guys, unreliable ones too, people with no sense of humour, mainly. Appart from that, someone who loves me like crazy from day one is not very attractive except for a few who are good enough at having control of the situation and that actually convince me about my own feelings. That happens. Those are very self-confident guys that are capable of building a literary story around me and make me feel i want to be a part of it. But this is definitely risky to try.

If you have any questions on these, please feel free to ask. I would love to know what do you think about these questions.

Keep up the good work, i think a place like this is so important that i can't understand why there isn't another one just like this for women. Don't tell me that we don't have these kind of problems cause we do. I have had lots of those, and i'm a pretty self-confident person physically attractive to most guys, though. Everybody goes through this sometime.

Thanks everybody here!

For me, its a girl who is naturally pretty, gets the make up right. She's not too slutty looking, she looks respectful dresses well.

Then she's fun and is a slut in the bed room.Get that connection in the bedroom.

Maybe, a little tease every now and then

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Law of Attraction

Men have learning curves. If they haven't learned much yet on how to handle relationships, it's pretty primal.

What makes you attracted to a woman you are already interested in?

The best answer is primal. Great curves. Nice boobies. Nice ass. Long legs. Smooth skin.

What makes you fall in love fast?

Not all girls are created equal. But when a man faps or fucks a different woman while thinking more of his love interest, you get the idea. For me, a tight pussy and someone who is capable of multiple, successive orgasms can make my romantic juices fly. It would be great too when she's adept at muscle control.

Slow?

A woman could be sexually attractive but certain red flags kill attraction such as:

(1) Is she a nutcase?

(2) Is she controlling? Does she want to talk to you on the phone everyday and to hell if you have a job and other important things to do.

(3) Is she a nagger?

(4) Does she have a negative outlook in life?

The list is endless. But when a man gets to fuck a woman and she's a great lay, most men tend to be blind with the red flags until they learn their lessons the hard way and adapt.

What causes your rejection?

She can only have one orgasm at a time and I have to wait for an hour or two before I can fuck her again. Of course, different strokes for different folks.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Actually, women have more access to relationship and dating materials in women's magazines. Men, on the other hand, will likely read Playboy or Hustler since we're very visual creatures. Very few men, compared to the world population, will try to learn how to get, much less KEEP the girl.

Pick Up Artistry is just a man's term for getting and/or keeping the woman. PUAs are still a rare breed.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

men are attracted to confidence more than tits, ass, or face. there is nothing sexier than a women who refuses to give a fuck