Hey people, this is my first relationship with a girl ever and I want to ask you guys for advice.

This girl I'm about to write about is my first kiss and first girl that I've ever dated. We made out and I fingered her when she was drunk, she claimed that she blacked out. After that night, she pushed me away saying it was a one time thing so I told her I like her and that's when we sat down and she told me she likes me too. I tried to kiss her but she backed away saying she only kiss when she's in a relationship.

That confused me a little bit...but that didn't deter me, I took out her out on a date. I don't think I kissed her that night but eventually one time after we hung out I went in to kiss her good night, she backed away and I asked why, she gave some bullshit excuse, I called her out on it and she finally let me kiss her. She returned my kiss pretty passionately too.

Apparently she was in a relationship for over a year which broke off at the end of last summer and she needs some time. I told her I can wait but I'm not going to wait forever. So now we're just dating but not in a relationship. But every time I try to kiss her, she always try to back away. I don't understand this at all, at first she claims that she doesn't like public display of affection but when I try to do it when we're alone she still doesn't want to kiss. The only time she would ever let me kiss her is when we finish hanging out or after a date.

I feel that she doesn't put any effort into advancing in our "dating" and that I'm the one that tries to escalate and she stops me most of the time from doing so.

Then why keep dating her? Or if you do, date other girls also. If a girl doesn't give you what you want, then she isn't for you. You are letting her drag you along for her own validation. I suggest going out with her on another date and at the beginning of it start dropping things like not putting up with those who aren't on your level. Maybe not in those words but along those lines stretched out. Then drop it and have a great time. And then, at the very end of the night (or maybe sooner if necessary) go in for the kiss. If she still resists then just something like "well as much as I like you doll, I can't continue to torture myself with your lack of interaction". When you go to walk away and she stops you (and she will) give the chance to make up for it but be sure you get what you want if not, then it might be time to move on bro and find someone that fits your interests closer. Of course this is only my opinion but I hope it offered some perspective and helps. You are a man, act like one.

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