I know this is really pussy of me, I'll give a little rundown.

1. We were both sort of friends.

2. Made out at a party after both getting wasted, me being an idiot didn't lay her
because I live with my parents and didn't know how to get her to go to her place. Totally fucked me over for a little while. To be honest the only reason we kissed probably was because I knew she wanted to, I was so drunk it sort of just happened. I always think to myself if I just layed her that night all this bullshit wouldn't have occured afterwards.

3. Time went by, we become really good friends but I don't feel any sexuality anymore really as she is occupied with another BF. There was no "shrinking" going on though cause I wanted to keep potential.

4. We hang out one night and clicked really well (post-BF), end of the night we were just sitting on couch and she was comfortable, it got really late though and I had to leave since I worked early. I wanted to kiss her, but we were watching TV and she didn't turn her head at all so I couldn't find any opportunities to do anything. (I've honestly never kissed a girl from "out of the blue" I can't figure out how to get the eye contact and sexual tension there so I can go in for it.)

5. She starts getting flirty again after that night, I flirt back, I figure now its my time to make my move and committed myself to kissing her the next night we hang out, so I arrange us to get together.

6. We hang out, flirty again, I slap her ass, we're touchy, but again, ends up on couch, I dont know HOW THE FUCK TO GET HER ATTENTION to kiss her when watching TV. Run out of time as the alcohol makes us both tired as hell, we retire to her bed (completely nonsexual, both just tired and pass out fast)

This is the point I feel I'm fucked because I ran out of time to make something happen even though I was planning on it. I knew that basically that since nothing happened after that "good night" that happened before that I was pretty much boned for not making a move.

7. Next time we hang out still flirting going on, I think I might be alright.

8. She calls me up drunk one night pretty much begging me to come over, I feel like I'm good for gold. I don't act super excited about it, just say I'll be over in a bit. But this night I end up feeling like a shrink as soon as we get to her place.. WTF was not expecting that. She's super wasted.

9. The next day she's more flirty as she's ever been and I'm finally able to reciprocate that flirtyness. This is where I'm at now. But she asks me if I'm a virgin (oh shit, I am, but lie and say I'm not).


I don't know what the fuck is going on. It's been months since that first time we kissed (as she had another BF and that friendship went on between then). I keep feeling like I have a prime night set up to kiss her, but it never ends up happening, when on the couch she never turns her head.

I don't know if we're friends or if she still has something for me because of all the flirtyness.
I feel like if she would just give me "the look" once after establishing a bit of comfort with each other after some kino, I would be golden to go for it, just walking up to her one day and kissing her seems impossible to me and can't picture it working without a bit of kino first.

FML, thanks in advance guys.

you should have just told her you were a virgin, she possbily would have just made it easier on you

here is a little game plan for you, this could help make this easy for you
next time you have her alone, stop worrying about this like it is a big deal, she likes you, she has kissed you before, really good chance judging by that virgin comment she wants to fuck you but is getting annoyed that you are not doing anything

-get her alone

-when on the couch, just look at her and say hey, come closer (if she say no, just say 'ok' and wait her out, if she gives you some sort of test or trys to act weird just say, don't be so weird it's a movie/tv show, come closer *if no back to the previous option, ok and wait*)

-get comfortable and cuddle up, massage is optional but if you are going to, don't pay too much attention to her, just watch tv while you massage her

-when you want to kiss her from this point, just look at her and say you know what I noticed?, when she looks just slowly go in while looking at her lips and just go for it, if you are nervous the biggest thing is just take your time, if she turns her head or stops you, just giggle and try again later


next time if she asks you if you're a virgin, just say yes, maybe she will de-virginize you and escalate for you knowing that you don't know what to do

Dang, kinda wish I said I was then lol. I had a feeling it might have been something like that, but at that exact moment I took it as a detrimental thing.

I also heard that you should never admit to being a virgin due to DLV or something.

Fortunately the virgin comment sparked a bit of anger at myself in me, so I stepped out for a second, went back to her with a fire inside me and managed to get really playful kino going. Maybe I can use that again, the anger at my virginity haha

I swear to God if I could just get a kiss in I could EASILY transition to a lay, the night at the party I could touch any part of her body I wanted, I just couldn't go back to my place.