So normally I'd say "she's incentivized to be friendly! I should see nothing into it"

But my analysis is that she is either insanely good at her job, or likes me.

So there's this restaurant a few miles from work, I've gone there four times as of today. Three of the times, she has been working.

Anyway, she has been VERY friendly. Like, over the top, I was surprised at how friendly she was. I stupidly gave her a tip the first time (I know, I know, but it was good service and I tip for good service). Anyway, the next time I went in there, she seemed to remember me, was friendly, called me by name, offered me a seat (I always get carry-out), etc, smiled, seemed to look me right in the eyes.

Anyway, I went in today, she remembered what I ordered before, she remembered my name (even my nickname, which I don't remember giving to her!), remembered I wanted it with no dressing.

She has me take a seat again, brings out my food and says "here's your food, hun".

Should I take this as her flirting, or just trying to get a tip? These were all carry out orders - she never waited on me in a traditional sense.

She survives on tips.


Are you by any chance this guy?



And is the restaurant by any chance called "Raisins"?


I swear as I read your post it was in Butter's voice.

You should just jump over the counter a fuck (Not Rape) her... Who cares if there is people there. Ask if they want to join in (Potential orgy (Y) )

On a serious Note, Without knowing the whole extent of the situation, I would say she is just being friendly, She remembered you because you've been in there a few times and you've tipped well (You should continue to tip good service, Whoever it is)
I wouldn't think anything off this, some women say "Hun" and "Sweetie" all the time to anyone.

See how she acts around other customers, Flirt with her, tease her a little about how she knows your nickname for some reason or anything she says... Good Luck Dude!

Happy Gaming!

Cognizant1 There is no need to be a dick about it.... He is asking for advice, Not to be mocked. Don't post if you aren't going to try and help....

Happy Gaming!

lighten up clown.

Yes, but that doesn't specifically mean she's not flirting, either. Hell, that's how my sister's boyfriend got her, she was a waitress and he flirted with her.

If you're only reading a desire for tips, that's fine and why I'm skeptical and posting on here, simply because normally I DO discount friendliness from waitresses, hers just seemed over the top.

Also, this isn't like a super hot bar girl, just a local coney island (diner type) girl who is cuteish.

Haha, Your soo funny...

I swear as I read your Post it was A complete Douche's Voice

It's "you're", not "your"

As in YOU'RE (a contraction for YOU ARE) irrelevant!

Bye

The hun was new, for today. She hasn't called me hun as of before, so it was a bit surprising.

I was thinking I'll try to make more conversation next time.

How often do you think I should go in there? I'm in a weightloss phase currently, and so eating salads (what I get there) is the best way to lose weight, and I'd normally do it everyday, but that would seem creepy.

Instead of dicking around with all this mental masterbation and moving at a snail's pace because of your fear of rejection, why dont you grab the bull by the horns and ask her out.

Honestly, if most guys just ignored their fear and asked girls out they'd have way more opportunity. Most girls dont want to see you fail, they aren't out to kill your ego. They are much easier to get out than you think, all you gotta do is escalate things rather than sitting on idle as most guys do.

You are Alpha, just naturally assume she wants your attention. Waitresses get hit on ALL the time, and of course they are fishing for tips, BUT they are still girls! When she brings you order, I would turn just your head to her, call her by name (on her tag likely) and say " I'd like a girls opinion, what do you think about body spray? I know this dude that smells like he used the whole can". then neg her a little "you would look cute with your hair down/up/long short", (opposite of how ever it is). you will have her attention!

Hope this helps!

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Ya, be indirect and 'insult' her...

Another Neil Strauss brainwashed sucker.


Dude, get real, be direct, ask her out, end of story none of this bullshit about negging and using indirect tactics which only make you ironically look beta.


A true alpha male would see no utility in negging, nor would he be so indirect to engage her on an opinion. Think about this...if the guy was a true alpha why would he need someone else's validation to his opinion? An Alpha knows what he likes, knows what he wants, and goes out into the world and gets it. He'd make a B line right for it having no time for bs games and tactics. An Alpha male is confidant, he does not let his inner voice of "You aren't good enough, smart enough, good looking enough..." rule him. The crap Neil Strauss, Mystery, and others espouse is full of Beta whackness.

Oh I agree, I haven't been alpha enough lately (probably for a month or two). Have to get myself in the mindset again.

Being alpha isn't a mindset, nor a mask you put on and take off at a whim.

Being alpha means creating an alpha life style and actually living as an Alpha. You can't simply get yourself into that mindset. You're overthinking you need to stop being such a pussy. Knowing you you'll finally muster the nerve to get her number and she'll already have a boyfriend, or you'll get her out and wont know how to escalate. Focus on improving yourself not for a woman, but for yourself and the reset will follow.

Cognizant1.... You need to stop hating on Other people's advice, Different people use different techniques, Some use Direct, Some use Indirect, BUT they both work if you do it right.

Pikeman85.... You go in there everyday, So you have time, instead off a one off meeting. Have a conversation with her, like normal for a couple of days, get to know her a little, Then see if she wants to hang out Because you and your friends are going out and wondered if she wanted to come along.. Something casual, then game from there.

Cognizant1 Thanks for the English Lesson, Same time next week?