i like to talk to girls. i like to talk to girls by texting and online aswell.

although, say for stuck social groups i.e school, i want to add a girl on facebook. i litterally have NO social proof on facebook at all...its a giant cock fest, even then, i barley have anyone on facebook..these girls have like 1000 friends, i have 60.

if i add them, im thinking they'll flake
its happened before to a random girl i messaged on facebook. i decided to add her straight off the bat. things went well, couple days passed, she flaked.

a genuine 10 i met on facebook, i decided to inbox her only,we met and kissed. she had 2000 friends.

how do i handle this, because i have no girls on my facebook as much as i want them..i keep coming across this shitty problem

then theres part of me that just thinks its creepy to add a girl who i met at a party anyway...who am i to add her//? i get this feeling of just being awkward and facing rejection

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Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.

SOCIAL PROOF AIN'T SHIT!

I met a girl in a club when i first started pickup and added her on Facebook, she had 3000 friends and too much friends writing on her wall.
I had only 200 friends and my wall was dry.
THIS GIRL WAS MY FIRST SERIOUS GIRLFRIEND. (I'm 17 yo)

If you can challenge a girl, make her emotionly invest in you and show her that her "social proof" has no affect on you she wouldn't care about what her friends/parents say about you.
She wouldn't even care if you were a lonely wierdo who lives in a cabin in the middle of the Forrest.

id say the main thing is to just not give a shit! add them if you want to. and dotn care what they think.. either way, you could try being a bit more 'public' with your interactions, even if they are short. so for example.. post on her wall.. she will post back, then your social proof goes up. even if she stops talking, that post stays on your wall. but it shouldnt be a massive part of game anyway? just a tool to help arrange dates!

all in your head,

you are who you are, she either likes you or doesn't like you, just keep going for it, get more comfortable going for it and dropping all excuses for why you could fail, it is just your ego trying to protect you

it is that little gay boy voice in your head (the one that every guy has), it is saying NO DON'T TRY, JUST PLAY IT SAFE, YOU WILL GET REJECTED, THIS GIRL COULDN'T POSSIBLE LIKE YOU, AHHH SHES NOT PERFECT ENOUGH, 2/10 AT BEST HER ELBOWS ARE TOO POINTY, DON'T TRY TO KISS HER SHE DOESN'T WANT THAT, STICK WITH THIS ONE GIRL THAT TALKS TO YOU IT IS EASIER YEAH SHE FLAKES AND HAS A BOYFRIEND BUT IT IS EASIER THEN MEETING NEW GIRLS AND SHE IS MORE CUTE, NAH DON'T TALK TO THAT NEW GIRL SHE LOOKS BUSY AND WOULDN'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU, I AM BETTER THEN THESE PEOPLE

now you have to recognize when this little gremlin in the back of your head starts taking over, and ignore the fuck out of it, that is your ego stepping in, trying to fuck you right up,

do yourself a huge favor, it is probably not a habit yet for you to cold approach and hit on girls, but for the next two months, absolutely commit to the lifestyle of 1 approach a day, come rain, come shine, if its a shitty day, NO EXCUSES EVER, EVERY SINGLE DAY, there is always time every day, any day to do just 1 approach, chances are if you have an excuse why not to, that is your ego trying to turn you into a loser, listen to that winner voice inside your head saying JUST FUCKING DO IT PUSSY, let that voice be the loudest, just go out until you are used to it, 1 approach, person to person, and in person (not on facebook), and just every day, tell one girl she is cute and tell her you want to get to know her, then start finding out what she is like, work on it, get used to it, and if she stops to actually talk to you, and doesn't have some sort of excuse why she has to leave right away, or doesn't say I HAVE A BOYFRIEND right away, or NOT INTERESTED, or something like that, then just always ask for her phone number and follow up on it that day

make this a habit, and don't listen to that evil little GOLUM VOICE in the back of your head, or you will end up with oneitis time and time again do to lack of options because you don't make the options happen, you wait for them and latch onto the little ones you have, leaving you in a basement somewhere MEEEE WANTS IT ME NEEEDS IT MY....PRECIOUS HSSS HSSSS HSSS

I'm sorry, what's your problem again?

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Don't get on one knee for a girl that won't get on two for you.

i thought your ego is somthing good though? how do you exactly define it?
i went out yesterday and approached two girls, first time i had in months. just went, fuck it, and did it.

cheers for replying

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Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.

social proof on facebook
Kids these days..

By the way if you have 60 its more likely you have people you know in your real life, if she has 1000 more likely most of them are "internet friends" that do not add any value.