So I thought everything was cool...Monday we hung out during the night...She got me revved up, but oddly she got a call from her sister and has to go and pick her up, but she gave me a nice handjay and kissed my $hit before she left...Was a bit dissapointed, but I'm feeling her, so it was whatever...

mardi gras was tuesday and we were tentatively supposed to hangout...We texted a couple of times in the day...

My Text: I Had self-control I didn't touch myself....psyche!

Her Text: haha Breaking news

Her Text: On my way to the city, where you at?

My Text: Chillen with some of my people on so and so street...

Since Tuesday at like noon, I haven't spoken to her since...Called her once more like 9 o'clock that night, so when she didn't answer I went into radio silence until right now...

Monday we had just talked about how we were gonna answer each others calls, and that we'd even stop texting so much, and call each other more...So obviously I don't get why she hasn't called back...

I don't wanna lose anymore ground on this $hit, because it's clear at this point I'm chasing her...I even went on a token date with another female this week just to throw it in her face if need be as to say I have options baby...

It's just weird because when we're together it like the greatest $hit...I mean she is so into me mentally and physically...But when we're not together it's this no response phone game $hit and I'm annoyed...

So what should I do next and if I am to phone or text her and get her on the line what should be my course of action? play it mad, nonchalant? tell her this is really pi$$ing me off? Tell her i don't care cause she's missing out on dates I'm having with other women? I'm 32, she's 22 so I think that's a component, but still, we're on the same mental level with alot of things...

And on the flip side what if she doesn't answer are we through just like that? I got to flip this scenario somehow, but it's just so strange because when she's with me in the flesh, I'm killing it with her (sexually and personality wise)...

Well I guess I'm just gonna call her and be direct...Tell her this $hit is annoying...But God help her if she doesn't answer because that might be the end of what was really nice hookup...

Woah there tiger!!!


Step away from the phone.... DO NOT do a thing in this mood...

Have you read text and phone game by Braddock?

Are you a PUA or an average Joe?
You are giving this girl the power... you HAVE to take control..
never get emotional..

In plain speak, do not act/react/text/or call bothered..

Honestly kidder... read up about text and phone game and pick up the basics on playing short/medium/long fuses!!

Otherwise you'll blow this girl and it's back to the start...


PS - What the hell does this mean?
'she gave me a nice handjay and kissed my $hit'

Furreal homey? She jerked him off, then teased him with a kiss instead of a suck.

To OP: Cool it bro. How about you take a week break from her and explore other options? Set up a back up plan in case this one falls through. After you have your back up ready, call her to have a friendly conversation. Don't mention the time spent away from each other.

Thank god for that....

Why not just say job instead of jay?

and at least it wasn't some weird fetish for kissing some guys poo....!! ha ha..

Well I did just call and got no answer (LOL, are we through now?)...I'm very confused...I do have other options, but I do want this chick the most...We've been having an incredible time together in person, but this phone $hit is just killing me...I know, I've read Mystery, Neil Strauss and others...I know not to go insane on the phone or text, but I was about to be like fugit...

So It's been 5 days and I finally called and got no answer, was thinking of one final text, but I know that might look too desperate....

Honestly there's nothing I can think of that I did wrong...I don't know, maybe she's scared of my Penis size (Kind of wrecked her a little), or thinks all I want is sex from her since we've already had essentially 4 dates and banged twice...She's slept over by my house 4 times already, spooning and hugging the $hit out of me every sleepover, and just when I'm starting to really feel her, she breaks off all communication...I don't wanna look like a chump obviously, but when is there a point in a man's life when you stop caring about all the game$hit and just don't want a chick to get away...

I mean 5 days without communicating when we talked about answering each others' calls just last Monday...I admit it, she's got me fucked up right now...

Yeah, I think you hit the nail on the head. She's afraid of your penis size.

Your neediness is bleeding through the fibers of the internet and is terribly obvious to anyone reading your post. With that said, I'm almost positive it's even more obvious to her. Work on that for next time. You need to develop an "I don't give a fuck" attitude.

In another day or two, give her one final call. If she doesn't return it, press on and find someone else, because she's not interested.

That hurts, but I did have to stop several times because I was hurting her (I mean honestly I'm big)...Then this past time after getting me revved up she's like I have to pickup my sister (That's why I was kind of thinking it was my size, because I did nothing to turn her off, I think she just got scared)...She's even apologized to me several times about her V being too tight to hit properly (And I let her think that it might be her fault just to keep her a little off balance about it)...Then she textes me playfully the next day on how she's gonna make up for giving me a massive boner...That's why I'm confused bro whether you see me as needy or not (which I may be in your eyes)...

But srsly, I haven't been showing her the "neediness" (in person) I've been showing you online, so it's kinda weird, but yeah it sucks...If I'm so needy why is she's jumping on me while I'm sleeping on the couch licking the inside of my ear unprovoked?

She's giving me every fucking sign she wants to be with me, even from an emotional standpoint where she clutches me like I'm her long lost dad, it's just the phone and text $hit where it's so uneven...

I mean far be it from me to question the PUA's who get snatch like it ain't nothing, but in-person I promise you I'm not coming off as needy to her...If anything she comes off needy because in public she always wants to hold my hand, hold my shoulder, comfort me in front other women...that's why it's so confusing when she goes into this non communication mode...I think she might be scared or something or maybe someone is pupputeering her on phone etiquette.. I don't know, that's why I'm asking...

I understand that a true playa wouldn't be caring about all this, but I'm not that..I'm just a guy who follows a bit of this and that to get a$$...And then sometimes you find a girl you like for real...It is what it is...

(Not enough foreplay)

^Don't rush it. Sex can sometimes be rough and fast the first time due to passion, but if it's a slow start, enjoy the whole experience. It's not meant to be launched full speed right away.

Basically any neediness is too much neediness. You don't know what she's going through right now, but for whatever reason, she needs her space. It doesn't mean she's going to stop liking you forever. In fact, she'll start liking you a lot more if you interpret her signals correctly.

Just leave her alone man, come back when she's ready.

Thanx Slip n Slide, I think I will just leave her alone...However in terms of foreplay, that's like all we do...We will kiss and make out, and slurp and jerk for hrs before we do the deed...We makeout like teens in the 60's @ Duckpond Lake or something most times...I just don't get it...I'd think she was in the hospital or something if she didn't pull this phone $hit before...

But your right, Snarg is prolly right too, but I just don't see it...Who knows, but yeah I'm gonna chill for another few days, go out with my backup plan, and maybe call or text her near the end of the week... After that if it's over it's over...Just so puzzling, such are chicks...

Picking up from where this thread ended..I was right, she got scared and thinks all i want from her is sex, and sense I'm kinda big for her she's a little petrified (she's half Asian-half Latin, but I guess her Asian side can't take it,lol)...

She told me that she had to stop all communications with me to sort things out because she likes me, but she doesn't just wanna feel like everytime we hang out it's just about sex (But she's the one always rubbing my inner thighs when we're at the movies, licking food off my fingertips, etc., jesus)...She said she services me in other ways but feels bad afterwards sometimes (shakes head)...

So 2moro she's coming over to cook for me..I told her we're just gonna chill and watch TV, but in my mind I still want to get up in there (her uneasiness towards me hitting again, is making her even more attractive to me)...
So I wanna ask how should I play things 2moro night? I want this girl to know I like her for more than her body, but i still want to have sex with her if that smooth possibility exists...

ANy advice to that end would be helpful, but also if you think I should just cool off (because I'm really into the chick mentally aswell), what techniques can I use to show her I'm the guy she should be with without losing value? Thnx

This little chick is driving me nuts...

it sounds like you arent running any comfort.

thank you, Basically any neediness is too much neediness. You don't know what she's going through right now, but for whatever reason, she needs her space. It doesn't mean she's going to stop liking you forever. In fact, she'll start liking you a lot more if you interpret her signals correctly.

i feel ya...anything more tangible? Like some comforting tips based on the situation?

You're getting closer to the solution but I am going to help you refine it.

Call up and say, "Listen, all these games are a waste of time. If you want to continue our interaction, come to place x at y time. Otherwise, it was a pleasure knowing you, (her name)."

This busts through any bullshit out there, it doesn't look needy either. Real men put the period at the end of their sentence. Take this girl as far as you can and stop dicking around. Two outcomes. You fuck her, or you don't. That's it, end of story. You find a new girl after that. It's all about being efficient with your sex life. I've made many situations like yours and after a while I realized that no girl is really that special. Focus on your WANT. What do you do if someone gives you vanilla but you only like chocolate? You simply don't eat it. But you can be flexible and try the vanilla out (plowing through the girl). You fuck girls, you SCREEN them. Learn to adopt the mindset that if this girl doesn't give you what you want, you lost interest in her.

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