Brothers - thanks for taking the time to help me out.

So I'm in my early 30's, tall, in shape, professional. My game has historically been a bit cocky and also heavily focused on humor.

Anyway, I met this hb9 Latina stripper last Friday night. I truthfully don't go to strip club much and don't really fall for strippers, waitresses, etc because I know their goal is to make you feel good

So I get a few dances from this chick and she ends up sitting and talking with me for a while. During the convo, I slightly neg her a few times - about how she's not that tall (5'7) and how I date a lot of model types (5'11). I also negged her by telling her how I've been all over the world traveling because I knew she had never been on a plane. I let her subtly know that I had my shit together but didn't flaunt it.

However, in general I kept the nice guy, but confident and not intoxicated by stripper (afc) vibe. I figured I shouldnt be too cocky because she's probably tired of dealing with wall street assholes.

Anyway, she basically offered her number and also asked if I come to these types of clubs a lot. I told her I was just showing my friend a good time, which she thought was sweet and we talked about checking out this bar on Monday's where my friend dj's


On Saturday I text her saying it was nice to meet her and I'd call her tomorrow (Sunday) to discuss Mondays plans. She responded late that night with "aww, it was nice to meet you too "

On Sunday evening I ring her but she doesn't answer so I leave a voicemail and then text her saying that I tried her cell but to give me a call to discuss plans for tomorrow (Monday).

She called back 10 minutes later and we had a nice conversation where she asked about my weekend, told me she was going to school, told me her real name and asked about the party (eg was it ok to wear jeans, what kind of party was it, what time, etc). I told her I was planning wed go to dinner from 9-11 and then we could go check out the bar. I said Id be happy to pick her up or meet up. She said she had to go eat dinner but would get back to me and asked whether she should call me back or text. I said I liked talking to her and I'd be up so phone was fine.

So I never heard from her Sunday night. Monday I didn't hear from her, so I rang her around 6pm, but the phone only rang twice...sounds like she sent it to voicemail.

I then texted her and asked her when /where I should pick her up for dinner and to give me some lead time because it would take me a while to get out where she lived.

No response.

It's now Wednesday and I pretty bummed. I could have handled if she didn't give me her number, gave me a fake number, didn't text me back etc. but the fact that she called back and then goes radio silent is mind boggling and tough to swallow.

Is this a lost cause? Did I mess up somehow? Please shed some wisdom brothers as I really want to fclose this baby.


Thank you

First, welcome!

From what I can tell, you didn't do anything wrong. The problem is, she gamed you hard. That phone conversation you had with her was pretty much her way of seducing you into coming back to see her at work. She ended the conversation with a very likely lie, then cut all communication. At this point, she either expects you to give up (that's fine with her since she's played her side of the game to the best of her abilities without sacrificing business-related efficiency) or come see her at work to ask what happened.

If you go see her, she'll apologize and call you all kinds of sweet names, then get you to give her more money.

Don't be bummed, just make sure you go after a..."normal" girl next time. It's much easier. Women are kind of a pain in the ass to game to begin with, and to stack the stripper title on top of that is just turning the difficulty up to the absolute max.