Good evening gentlemen. This is my first real post so I figured I'd detail an interesting situation I've come to find my self in as of late. (short version) It seems unique and I figure you guys would appreciate it.

I've been in the PUA community for 8 years now. I've worked through several inner game and confidence issues. I'm happy to report that the knowledge I've gained even got me laid for the first time. Since then I've been dating pretty regularly and seem to be doing well.

Four years ago this girl came to work at the restaurant in which I was the head Chef. Cute as a button 4'10" not too skinny, very punk rock with tattoos and piercings and the most adorable northern accent. I immediately decided I was going to date her. I asked her out on a beer date that went well and we planned to hang out again. I didn't get a kiss close or anything but the date went well.

I got busy with a wine dinner soon after and didn't have time to take her out again for a while. She was moved to night shifts were she started dating one of the cooks. I was fine with this as I had not become too terribly attached to her. Plus he was a good friend of mine so I felt happy for him.

Last May she came to my birthday party. Everything was fine til she asked me to walk her out to her car. At that point she started kissing my heavily and asked if she could stay the night. Remember her BF was a close friend of mine. I told her no and slapped her on the ass, she walked off looking a little down.

Fast forward to September and I get a phone call from her telling me she broke up with her BF. I was kind of excited but bummed for my friend at the same time. He even left the state so I figured it wouldn't hurt to make my move. It turns out she moved in with another guy and was now dating him...2 days after leaving this other dude.

I kind of put it in the back of my mind and met another girl whom I dated for a few months. Around January the punk rock girl starts Facebook messaging me almost daily. We hang out one time at my place and she tells me how bad she fucked up by getting with this other guy. He's abusive and generally just an asshole. I play it cool and don't attack him, I even defend some of his actions (except for the abuse). One week later she comes over to my house and asks me if she can move in with me, after which she crawls on top of me and kisses me, but hops off and almost starts crying.

WTF??? I was taken a bit by surprise. I told her I had to think about it. I really wanted this girl but it seemed like a huge leap. The next week she was supposed to come over and talk about it. She never showed up...I figured it was nothing personal and went to bed.

The next morning I check FB and see she has posted that she is moving back to her home state 450 miles away. What's worse is she took her abusive BF with her. Since then she has been in contact with me through text, phone and FB every day. It might sound crazy but I told her she could come back here to me. She said she would after she took care of some things up there.

It's been 4 weeks since that talk. She's still there, still with him, still miserable. She's even started drinking heavily to cope. All of this is hurting me pretty bad. She still talks to me, but it's always negative. She needs to shit or get off the pot.

I've decided to take this approach. I am going to break contact, if she calls i will answer and be nice...but i won't be here emotional tampon. If she doesn't call i will know she doesn't really feel the way she says she does and just needs me to be the "good boyfriend" while the asshole get's all of the physical perks.

The plan went in to effect today. So far no contact from her. I'll keep you posted.

I know this is classic oneitis. I really want to give this a chance. I am still dating other women BTW.

LOL man...thanks for finishing that novel. Believe me I have thought about running. Something keeps me in it though, I feel like it has to do with having to prove that I can have her. I'm definitely not going the prince charming route. If this freeze out doesn't work i will be moving on.

Just like Tony King I read it all, seems like you are being used for her emotional outbursts. My advice is the brutal honest truth: Move on. When she answers you be honest with her, be the MAN.
Example:
"Girl (I dont know her name), let me just lay out some ground rules when you call me. We can talk about your day, the weather, sports, anything but not about your problems. Especially if you already asked me for help and I offered advice. If you dont listen to my advice then I am wasting my breath. Ok? Now how about them 49ers?"

Basically let her know that you are setting the frame. Dont become her doormat, regain control of your balls.

Agreed, in fact this is just the conversation I am going to have with her when next she calls. I am going to tell her no more negativity...I have given advice take it or leave it. Also I'm going to tell her to shit or get off the pot. No more counseling sessions from me.

She's got abandonment issues, jumping relationship to relationship.

She's bad news, not good gf material.

Glad I could help. PM me if you wanna just talk game I recently got into it but Ive created my own routines and whatnot which has shown GREAT results in field

Glad I could help. PM me if you wanna just talk game I recently got into it but Ive created my own routines and whatnot which has shown GREAT results in field

Got a text from her today asking how I am and generally describing how her day went. She also mentioned her BF's name so I will continue with no contact. I spent the day with an ex of mine and had a great time.

oh come on...

take a good cold shower and ask yourself if she is gf material, if you answer that with yes, then you are the problem and not her..