Hey,

I'm 21 (british), my super hot hairdresser gave me her facebook at my haircut today (lol, easy 10). However, I am having difficulties deciding on how to go about organising a meeting/ date.

We go clubbing in the same area, so I was thinking of dropping her a private message on fb or something? To just organise going to the same club on the same night (very casual, not much pressure). However I am tempted to just ask her out for dinner hah. I don't want to scare her off by being too full on. What do you think? What do you think I should write in the message? Should I leave her my number?

Dont want to fuck this one up.

I'm not used to using facebook for pickup. I much prefer phone/ txting.

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Lenko

is just facebook, don't get to excited. If she was into you, she would have gave u her number.

fb is a joke girls give it to guys they dont want calling them

If she gave you her facebook that does mean she's interested.

Otherwise, why the fuck would she do that? The only exception to this is if you were directly asking her for her number and instead she gave you her fb. THEN, that's an indicator of disinterest and she's just trying to be nice.

Anyways, just be casual...use plausible deniability. You guys go clubbing in the same area? Perfect!

Shoot her a very brief and to-the-point message.

"Hey thanks for the add...just promise not to stalk me too much *some sort of playful neg for flavoring*

So I'm hitting up [some club] this friday...come along and (blah blah blah)"

You get the picture. It's VERY casual and laid back. You are her friend and want to let her in on the fun you're going to have. That's it. Do NOT ask her out on a date or to dinner. I guarantee you will lose her this way (if she accepts it would be out of niceness or she's friend zoning you).

Wish you all the best brother. If you have any other questions just PM me.

SEP

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A lot of people just want thousands of friends to look amazingly popular.

Hey, thanks for the input.

Just to clarify, I did not ask for her number (or any other contact details). At the end, she just came up to me with a piece of paper with her name on it and told me to add her.

We share a lot of common interests, so It wasn't really a problem running game as most of it was done for me.

Cheers for the help, Sep. I will let you know how things progress.

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Lenko

Very good, and I didn't think you did. Sounds like you're doing very well so far. Next step is to establish more value and qualify her. Looking forward to hearing about your progress.

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Ok, not feeling stoked right now, hah. Been txting hb10 for a good week (she initiates the txting) and all was good (too good). Saw her at a nightclub the other night, she was with her mates and me with mine. I don't really know how to feel about the night to be honest. It either went ok, or horrifically wrong.

She was surrounded by her gay mates all night, who were difficult to deal with. Anyway, we were on the dance floor (I hate dance floor), but get on with it due to social constructs.. her gay friends would not leave us alone, even when I took her outside. They followed behind. So basically, I wanted to have pulled her by the end of the night. But with the outside parties, it became difficult. I got really angry about the mate who was following us around, and at the end of night, I said to the hb10 something like (with him standing right next to us); 'I would like to see you again, next time just you and me (looked at the friend)'. He took the hint finally left us for about two minutes. She smiled, told me to txt her and got a standard hug n a kiss on the cheek. I don't know what to make of this. I think its shit.

I feel completely deflated about the whole night. I have not txt her today, will probably txt her tomorrow but I don't know what to say. I need to see her out again to put right what was a terrible night. Thoughts?

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I don't think that went poorly at all. The only remotely negative thing that really happened there was when you glared at her friend and made him go away, since I have a feeling you said it in a way that made you sound insecure or jealous. If I'm wrong about that, great. If I'm right...well, still great, since it really sounds like everything is fine.

Well, I left it a day, then txt her basically saying it was nice seeing her the other night. No response after 2 days! Fail. I'm not going to pester her anymore. I think i'll just have to take it on the chin and walk away. Pretty gutted, hah.

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What a great attitude buddy! Some guys find it hard to let go especially if the girl is really hot. Personally to me if anythin went wrong that night is probably her thinking you did't like her matesm and you know how girls are like. They say if you don't like their friends then it's like you don't care about them :S girls are fucked up these days and just mess us guys around. Anyways as you said, take it up on the chin and move on. Girls come and go

Cheers, dude. I did not get on well with her mates, which pretty much set it in stone. Win the friends over, you'll get the girl. Her mates were out to get me from the start, hah. Being as hot as she is, it was always going to be difficult. Was so close to getting a hb10 though! Next time i'll get it right. At least I have learned what not to do, eh (the list expands).

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