Hi guys.

I hope I'm not making a fool of myself by posting on this forum (and who knows...Maybe my post will be deleted by moderators caus it's not exactly valid). But it's anonymous so whatever!
So...I'm a girl turning 20, and currently in a relationship of 2½ years with my boyfriend. I'm a submissive anti-feminist kind of girl. I adore my bf and would never cheat on him etc etc. I'm very devoted and quite old fashioned in that sense. Expect when it comes to sex, I'm great in bed pfft. (I just thought those might be points relevant to guys...)

I have a few questions for guys in general, and I find that I might actually be able to get some HONEST answers from the kind of guys that I hope to answer.

Firstly, as a female, should I worry about my boyfriend's loyalty? Are ALL guys swines? Lately I've actually started realizing how perverted ALL guys seem to be. This forum is just another piece of evidence. The "problem" is that I even find bad thoughts cheating and I'm worried that I'm not going to be enough for my boyfriend in the long run. Is there some way to prevent that from happening? QUESTION IS: Is it even possible to satisfy my boyfriend so that he wont ever have to look at other women?! As in...Even if I give anal sex, titfucks, am sweet, cook great food, am wife-material, but still have brains and am presentable etc, will he still drool at other women from time to time? Is true love even a possible feeling for sexual guys?

It might sound like my bf is a jerk, but he's not actually. I shouldn't have to worry, but sometimes forums like these make me lol. I wonder if he's just like all the other guys after all..? He says he's really committed though, we're moving in right now and he says he wants to have my kids someday lol. But these questions bug me regarless lol.


This post is getting long so I'll stop here. But I wonder...Wouldn't all you guys be a lot better off asking all this girl-advice from women? Not other men? (I feel like I could answer a lot of women questions here a lot more accurately than many men do haha) Pfft.

I applaud your courage to even post on the site.
But realistically, if you've been dating for 2 1/2 years you should be over the "cheating phase" in general. Its understandable to have those thoughts after a few months or so, but if still have those feeling after that long, then i feel as if they'll never disappear. You guys should both be in the relationship for the long run and if your as good in bed as you say, there wont be a time when your BF is vulnerable to fall for quickies because you satisfy him. The only way he'll cheat is by actually contemplating the pros and cons of it. If he does after that, then he doesn't deserve a relationship.

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agreed^ after 2 1/2 years of being with someone is usually when they get married (where i am) not when they start cheating.
Sadly though no to the satisfaction, it's mostly based on looks for us, if a girl is hotter than you i'm going to check her out no matter what we've done

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I think Supple that woman can't answer a lot of these questions because what you will say is what you think woman want to hear. When really it isn't.

Men and woman will never fully understand each others intentions, and I'm often asking my female friends for advice with girls. Truth is about seduction, most girls don't have a clue. Girls are hit on many many times a month, and see it as guys hitting on them. Seduction counter attacks this so the woman isn't pressured. She feels comfitable, and she has a good time. Anything wrong with that... not at all. Some people do it naturally. Here people learn to do it like a man should.

I look into all this stuff because I want a girl friend. I want to find that special someone, and this community has helped me get he competance that I need in order to do this. A lot of girls don't realise that men have emotions as well, and share the same experiences where this helps where most woman can't.

If your bf is talking about having kids with you then there is no way he's cheating. IMHO. He sees you as not only his lover but also the woman hes going to reproduce with.

I know there are a lot of bad guys out there, however, recently, iv found girls ALOT worse. The difference is, you find out about what guys get up to, but not what the majority of girls get up to.

Be faithful, trust him, have fun.

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Hehe, thanks.

Well, truthfully, I don't have a reason to suspect him for cheating. I don't think he'd necessarily physically cheat. And he's told me that he'd have to think of the pros and cons and there's definitely more cons so he'd never do it. He thinks it'd just be so stupid since he'd lose me. But like Charblad said...I don't want him checking other women just because they might be hotter in some aspect I think I'm pretty good looking, and my bf tells me so too, but obviously I can't be perfect in every area. Meh....Stressful.

When i was just with my cheating ex gf. I would always check girls out tbh. I would look at them, maybe out of habit... and think shes a pretty girl etc... but then the next thought would be... yeah shes good looking, but my gf is good looking and makes me feel amazing, iv got a connection which no looks can beat.

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out of interest, why do you hang out on this forum? :p lols

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Don't stress over this one... Guys are ALWAYS going to check out other women. It doesn't mean we're going to have sex with them. No matter how good you look, how good in bed you are etc. we will always check out other women. It doesn't even mean she's hotter than you. This behavior is very normal. I just hope he's not gawking at other women while you are out together .

Haha, he's not gawking at other women. In fact, he claims to be such a saint I can't believe it. Well, I don't, because I know he used to watch a lot of porn and so on (after 2 years, after telling me things he thought I wanted to hear, he finally came pretty clean about it and now he's been trying to quit it for good for my sake). But he doesn't do any of that stuff in my presence.

Meh, that's pretty depressing! It's quite distressing and hard to accept imo. But I guess I have no other option hehe. I know I worry too much.

Lately I've realized that there's a whole other world to what men REALLY think, opposed to what they let women know. I find it fascinating. And I hope that this forum will let me dig a little deeper into that and get honest answers. That's why I'm here.

Hey Supple --

So, I'm going to look at this from a more grandiose, Surival of the Species sort of perspective. This isn't a dig at you, or your boyfriend, or anyone. It's just supposed to be an explanation, because I take offense when a woman says "All Men are Pigs".

Men are always going to look at other women, and it has nothing to do with you. It's a biological imperative. In the Animal Kingdom, the man wants to spread his seed to as many women as possible. From a "Preservation of the Species" sort of framework, this comes from -- the more offspring a man has with different people, the more likely to have a child with some sort of genetic mutation (consider having a child like rolling a pair of dice. If you want doubles, a mutation, you simply roll the dice more to increase your odds of getting them.) -- resistant to a particular type of virus, or faster at running, or some other mild tweak.

If that child then mates with a bunch of people, that resistance or mutation will be passed on in greater and greater quantities to subsequent generations. From a "Survival of the Species" sense, that's where men come from. All men aren't pigs, it's just the way we are hard wired -- we want to mate. We don't know why, but for the betterment of our species, it makes sense from a Darwinian standpoint.

Women are the exact opposite -- you want a man who will not philander around. Not so much for yourself, but for any children you would have with him. You see other women as competition for your man, and if hes out mating with other women, he won't be spending time with you, and if he grows infatuated with that other woman, he could have kids with her and suddenly, all those resources that you thought he had that he could provide for you and your children suddenly fly out the window, putting your childrens livelihood in jeopardy. So, both of our genders are looking out for the species -- Women in the desire to keep the very next generation preserved, but with men looking to provide a betterment several generations out.

So, Men aren't pigs. Agreed?

TL;DR? Men fuck around because it helps the species in 200 years, women don't fuck around because it helps the species in 20 years.

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wow how'd you know I didn't read it all? XD

@OP -
I'd be more worried if your BF didn't check out other women; then he'd be obsessing over you and you don't want a guy to do that.
And truthfully, other than when we're gaming a woman guys are pretty straightforward about what they 'really' like - the difference is women all have different opinions on love, and how to 'game' because they base it on their feelings and experiences; but guys agree on all the basics and can put those understandings into words.
Most girls have seen to many movies - Casanova comes into the scene on a beach with the sun setting in the background, birds and the wind blowing through your hair; just as the sun sets you embrace and fanfare plays. (did i just write a porn novel?)
Guys have experience - walk up to a girl in a bar, say hi, do some wordplay, get the number or a kiss, day2 (or 1 night) - no BS'in around, but girls like it 'fancied' up so i'm usually not that blunt with them.
And don't be stressed about it, it will strain your relationship if he feels like you can't trust/accept him for who he is

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I have too bad of a headache to read all the replies so far, so I apologize if I'm repeating what has already been said.

I would just like to say that not all men are as you think they are. Personally, when I'm in a relationship, I kind of turn semi-homosexual (har har, that's funny) in that I no longer see other women as sexual beings, only as potential friends. I feel like any female I've built a relationship with deserves that much from me. That's not to say I won't go out with some male friends and comment on other women, but the thought of actually getting up and gaming them never even crosses my mind.

You're 2.5 years into a relationship. You shouldn't even be thinking about this issue at this point. He's not going to cheat on you unless you're being a total bitch, depriving him of sex for weeks on end, or have some strange flaw like a tail growing out of your ass.

If someone strays, they're going to stray often irrespective of what you do. Just enjoy each day with that person for what it's worth, for tomorrow is never guaranteed.