Right so i had a story with this girl i been casually seeing for a month but she wanted some time and space when she found out about her ex of 3 years seeing someone else. She told me that she really likes me but needs time to sort her head out, so i agreed. A few days after that we spoke normally then the week after i thought things went a bit weird, so i tried to ring her a few times but she wouldn't answer so we texted instead. She told me that why i was being like that, and that i was too keen and clingy and she didn't like it and for that reason she just wants to be friends.....

So to be honest i am extremely annoyed as i really like this girl, im going to see her at our friend's birthday party next week, so i don't know how things will be, and how i should react? i don't want things to be awkward and i just want her to realise that it's her loss and make her beg back for me. So what should i do? yeah this part of me still wants her, im not going to lie but i just want to know have i totally fucked it up now? or is there still a chance for things to be sorted? bare in mind i went on the no contact for over a week now....

It's good that you stopped contact. It's also good that you're able to reflect on your mistakes so you can learn from this in the future. Being clingy is extremely unattractive and these are the repercussions of it.

Take a step back and re-focus. You need to change your disposition toward her completely. Mentally prepare yourself for the party. Your goal is to be the cool, calm, socially successful guy who everyone wants to talk to. Be funny, be interesting, be charming. Do not ignore her or be mean to her, but do not give her more attention than anyone else there. This will hopefully cause her to see you in a new light and possibly give you a second chance. There's no guarantee it will work, but that's how it's done.

I'm starting to think this is the new friendzone speech lol...
Basically this; be a alpha at the party and look like your having a better time than anyone else. Although to be different from the post above I would ignore her just a LITTLE more than other people, if she says "hi" wait a second or two, look over and say "oh sorry i didn't hear you, hi" - you want the right balance of 'being over her' and 'still cool'; but don't be a asshole that ignores her completely.

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I'm new to this forum, but if I was in your situation, ideally,

I would just apologize to her for being/appearing clingy, and being honest to her about my feelings. If she rejects me, I can then say that it is her loss.

However, I will also be respectful of her feelings about her ex and her feelings towards I.

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Omg please don't...

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First of all thank you guys for your time to reply, i really appreciate it.
So do you think that i've totally messed up the whole situation? like a game over kind of thing? I never was clingy with her at all, it was only that one day when i thought there was something wrong and i tried to ring her a few times.. Also what are the chances that she'll try and avoid me on that night?
Basically this; be a alpha at the party and look like your having a better time than anyone else. Although to be different from the post above I would ignore her just a LITTLE more than other people, if she says "hi" wait a second or two, look over and say "oh sorry i didn't hear you, hi" - you want the right balance of 'being over her' and 'still cool'; but don't be a asshole that ignores her completely.[/quote]

It's been over a week now and i had a number of chances to speak to her on facebook and that but i refused, i promised myself never to text her again until she does, no matter how long it takes. I just need to know how to react when i approach her and the group when i come and say hi, shall i just be very casual 'Hi, how are you? hug' and move to the next person? i want her to think that i am no longer interested in her and want her to be the one coming to me to intiate conversations. How do i change all of that and make it my way???
Thank you for the comment pal but even i would tell you that saying this to a girl would just make things even worse and will make her full of herself, and i want to bring her self confidence down and make her beg me back.[/quote]

Yep, never lay it all out there like that...you will fail 99% of the time, and that 1% will involve you being the bitch in the relationship for a few months before she cheats on you. It's simple math.

Close another girl at the party.

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