So during the course of my days, I occasionally see a girl I'd like to approach. I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone and actually do it though now. I want to do it with no friends around, no alcohol...just from pure me.

I saw a girl at the gym today who was standing and chatting with her friend and I wanted to go up there and start talkin but with places like this, I have a last-minute fear not necessarily of rejection itself but I think "Crap, if this doesn't go well, it's going to be awkward if I see her at the gym in the future." Basically, I'm more hesitant to approach a girl at a place I frequent because I apparently fear seeing girls who reject me in the future there or having them say things about me. But the kicker is that places I frequent are where I see most of the girls I want to approach because... well... I frequent them.

Any tips on overcoming this? Should I just not care?

A little background about me... I've made some HUGE improvements lately and I know that I am capable of getting with hot girls. I dated some EXTREMELY attractive girls when I was younger (I'm 23 now... That was back in high school) but I've been a bit rusty because I was in a relationship. I also know how important "inner game" is. However, what I am writing about here is the "last hurrah" for me... I've always wanted to just go up to a completely strange attractive girl and make her laugh/get her number.

I've watched some Simple Pickup videos on YouTube which have really helped me see how easy it is... These videos do a great job of displaying how in reality, it's not about WHAT you say but your ENERGY LEVEL and CONFIDENCE. And I've seen these things time and time again in real life so I know this is true. But as I said, I have last-minute fear because I feel like I may see girls around that have turned me down or that they may tell other people or tell security at the place or something.

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Have you tried Streetgame? Stopping girls in the street.

If you're going places you frequent, then probably best to go in Indirect for a few minutes, if it goes well then switch into flirting

"having a good session?"

or you could try something more flirty like "What? get out of here! you're making me look fat and podgy. did you not eat at christmas?" Its not direct but you can see where it leads.

Im in the same boat as you really, im just starting to get into proper interactions in my Cold Approaches.

Also you could try a trick i sorta had myself but developed and confirmed it from TD which is to Eyeball every girl you see ANYWHERE and smile, a seductive smile if you can. You have to have piercing eye contact, noticing the colours of their eyes etc. Never breaking EC with any that catch it. After a few months you'll be getting girls come up to you

No I haven't tried streetgame either yet. I've been on walks and stuff but haven't seen any girls I'd like to approach yet. Plus, I feel like in some cases, a girl may be more defensive on the sidewalk because it's a bit more vulnerable.

But anyway, thanks for the tip.

The eyeball thing, I got a question for you. What's the difference between doing that and being creepy? I have no problem looking into a girl's eyes but how do I do it in a non-creepy way?

Last but not least... I've actually been wanting to try some directs. The reason being, I've done indirects many times before and I tend to do something like this:

Me: "Hey, do you have the time?"

Girl: "Yes, it's 2:00"

Me: "Ok thanks."

And then that's that. I like how Simple Pickup does it where they do this sorta thing:

"Hey, do you have the time?"

Girl: "Yes, it's 2:00"

"Ok, I didn't actually want the time. I thought you were cute/interesting/whatever and wanted to talk to you"

It gets the girl off her guard but then gets to the point too.

I actually have quite a bit of experience small-talking and indirecting hot girls but I hardly ever move in that way. I was planning on trying out something like the above method. Keep in mind I won't necessarily say all of those things word-for-word but you get the idea.

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You sound like me, using an indirect opener and not knowing how to get passed it.

I want direct too and i thought the "oh you're actually really cute" line after Indirect too.

No, streetgame is great. I mean I'm only a newbie to it but ive done a solid 200approaches on one of the busiest (2nd busiest maybe) streets in England and I generally get great reactions but i always compliment then BAIL! too nervous, no state.

I'm starting to think girls love being opened on the street, they may be going somewhere and thats fine but It's just a place they never expect to get picked up.

I guess the streets i game in are so busy that they feel completely safe, so i don't know about quiet streets, try it

Interesting. The eyeball thing, I got a question for you. What's the difference between doing that and being creepy? I have no problem looking into a girl's eyes but how do I do it in a non-creepy way?

Also, I've noticed that when I'm out and about though... I'm not really in a pickup mood because I'm often in a rush. Like today, I went to Wal-Mart and there were actually a lot of hot girls there (yes, even at Wal-Mart haha) but I was totally engulfed in running around the store and buying stuff so I wasn't smiling, I wasn't in the "pick up mood" if that makes sense... But that's how I pretty much always am when I'm out. I'm usually focused on what I'm doing. What should I do? Go out specifically to talk to girls?

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I dont know how to do it non-creepy. Some girls might think you're creepy but most won't. Leering is bad, the deadpan face and lingering eyes but a smile and EC and holding it until they turn away is just a normal glance during your day.

I know exactly what you mean about mood and time.

You have to kick yourself into mood which is done by EC and approaching.

As for time, leave 15-30minutes earlier than you have to maybe so you can do a few approaches during your day. Its what i do.


And you need to have a few days a week where you sarge - go out with the sole intent to meet women. This is like being in the gym, you do these 'sessions' so you get better in your general life

Or at least this is what i do. I think the heavy EC thing though is a very overlooked thing that can do wonders for you

Try the Yad approach. You can find it on youtube, or just go to daygame.com Andy and Yad have great stuff on there. I suggest going direct during the day, it tends to work better.
I tend to not open girls in the gm either, just because when I'm at the gym, I'm there to work out, lol. Open girls on the street though, or if you see them even right outside the gym. The Yad approach works pretty much 100% of the time if you do it correctly.

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