i'm a complete beginner but feel that everything is just too much. i want to work out because i'm an ecto and that isnt attractive for hookups. if i could get them without that i wouldnt care. i do want to work out for me also, but its time consuming and it will break my bank. but if that alone isnt enough, paying for a 30 dollar haircut? buying some big time cologne? buying expensive clothes? i guess i might as well say i'm not good enough to be a pua, but am i not good enough for decent looking dtf women either if i can't do all that?


whats even worse is i don't want to let this guy down who his brother in law i'm friends with has been trying to help me out and suggested we hang out and meet girls. while the guy has some low self esteem with women, he doesnt with guys so how the heck do i be able to click with this guy when i don't meet his critera other than having trouble with women. and he wears suits to go out, likes to go bowling, cares deeply about his family, three years younger, has all his hair. i'm the complete opposite.

Do you want a box of tissues and hug?

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Go buy the book Serious Strength Training, by Tudor Bompa. I got it and I'm a giant among men. Really though, ectos look best for bodybuilding as they have longer muscles and are able to stay lean easier, it just looks more attractive.

i don't disagree there, thats the number 1 priority, but after that comes my hair, my scents, my attire and all. i wonder if those spring break girls that come to fl are easy enough that they wouldnt care what i look like as long as i was outgoing.

no i do not, i just want more money in my life to help me better. no plasma centers down here and don't have a degree or diploma for sperm donation.

Dude take a step back. Your post is so gay I don't even know why I'm replying but I guess we're here to help each other.

When you first start surfing you don't go and buy a great surfboard, amazing board wax, a super strong leash and an award winning wet suit.

A step at a time. My haircut costs 10 euros every 3 weeks and it suits me and looks good.

Gym - it takes time so no point losing sleep over it. Go to the gym for a few weeks, get fit, see when the gyms busy and think of what kind of things you wanna do. Find some sample routines online. Eat right. Google 'iamalpham', he's an image consulter and charges $7 a month but his routines are great plus you can get style advice. E-mail him with a question and I guarantee you he'll answer it for you.

My cologne? Costs about 50 euros. Barely wear it tbh, I forget. This is not going to decide if a girl fucks you or not.

Expensive clothes? Ha.

Re-read what PUA is all about. It's not about being super attractive with looks, it's mainly about your personality. Looks play a part but don't freak out that much.

go to the "get laid in 7 days" thread on the attractive lifestyle folder. someone else suggested this. and then they also bought up cologne. there are some people on here saying you need to go the whole nine yards and others saying just look presentable and be yourself.

You may not understand this but I hope you do..

If you want more money, its as simple as just having it.. You don't have to think about it, be it, live it and be thankful for it..

Are you looking for someone here to send you a million dollar check or something? I don't see the point of this post other than to moan and groan about how ungrateful you are for what you already have.

Read your post over again and tell me what you think about the guy that wrote, its sad and won't land you anywhere but further back.

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Fuze has you right, man. Complaining about money is the loser's path. If you want more money, identify the work you need to do to get there, and get in the game for the long haul. This doesn't change over night, so be prepared to invest some effort in making your life better.

If you don't like that guy, you shouldn't go gaming with him. Game by yourself, if you don't have better options. If you meet guys on a night out, maybe you'll end up friends.

i want to like this guy, i see a lot of me in him based on being kind of different i guess. we both love sports, he loves football and so do i, he likes racing, i want to not watch as much but i do follow it. but he has lifestyle too that i don't have. however i believe i could be a big help to him in approaching women. even though i have never done it in a long while, i have read a lot on these boards on seduction and everything and know i have to implement my own game. the lay reports i have also looked closely at at how the intros got started and all. i may be a natural who knows, i havent went out there looking my best though yet. a decent haircut/concealed could probably do wonders and then maybe i would have something appealing.

not sure what you bolded that for.

Dude wtf? If you can't afford a 20 Dollar haircut you need to stop worrying about getting girls and focus on getting a job. You depressing bastards sit around whining and crying about how shitty your lives are and wonder why women run from you like the plague. People can sense negativity by looking at you.

Get your shit together and stop spending all your energy on getting pussy. The pussy will come once you actually enjoy your own company.

dude try believing in your self first. then if you think you have at least a drop of confidence take the next step. its all in the mind.

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because i worry about time and all. i hear those people say that life is short live each day like its your last. also, i guess i believe i'm sinning against non-denomination, but want some fun. but the biggest problem i have is a overbearing mother who is the reason why i'm strapped. i make under $700/mo but let someone talk me into staying in a overcharged efficiency. i was paying $500, now i'm paying $550. here's the problem, in order to find myself i need that through support and self improvement, which is where working out comes in and improving my looks and also breaking free from my mother. also, i don't want to be looked at as the old guy. i'm 30, but in my mind i am 21. i have that mindset.