Ohai.

I started liking this girl around Valentine's day. I was recently informed by one of her friends that she's gotten back together with her ex. Do I keep pursuing or do I let it rock? I'm thinking of just putting all the beans on the table tomorrow and saying something like:


"Why's such a beautiful woman here by her lonesome? You've gotta have someone...Who's the lucky guy"?

After finding out who the dude is and joking around for a bit, I'll pull a YOLO (you only live once) and say everything on my mind in hopes that some of it sinks in.

What should I do here folks? Thanks.

You won't succeed if you're that direct since there's no attraction built and you'll be removing all the challenge. Do yourself a favor and pretend she didn't actually get back with her ex and game her like normal. If you let it get to your head, it'll fuck up your confidence toward the situation very badly.

Thanks Snarg. I'll see how things play out.

i think you're best of intentionally getting into the friend zone, but with a bit of attraction, and just hope you can win her over or be there when she eventually breaks up with him. you could game her like normal as stated above.. but if she cheats on him for you, she'll do the same thing to you later on.

I used to think that way. But the thing is, women are always seeking out the next big upgrade when it comes to guys. If they find someone who is better than the one they're with, they'll eventually make the jump to the bigger and better person. It might take awhile, but it will happen. Be that upgrade and provide things for her that she will be hard-pressed to find anywhere else.

Pretty much this.

Also, the Straw Man technique: 1-vt43374.html?start=0

I don't bother reading all the other replies...I just don't care. My mission is to answer the OP and his question. So what I say very well may have already been said.

Okay having said that, you are showing way too much interest by being that direct. It is just going to come off as creepy and invasive to her. If you want to attract her then you have to build tension right away by NOT showing her interest.

Demonstrate a shit-load of value. What do you have to offer to the her? What do you have to offer to the world that her boyfriend doesn't? Provide her with an EXPERIENCE unlike anything she has every received from any other interaction. And all the while make it evident that she has no power over you. You get approached by tons of beautiful women. SHE has to work to earn YOUR attention. This is the frame you need to have.

Best of luck to you brother. If you have any other questions feel free to shoot me a PM. That goes for anyone else. I'm here to help.

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I think you more or less share the same thoughts i do.. just kind of said it differently. the point is exactly that, to win her over. make her need to leave him for you. this can't be done quickly though, as you said.

i'm in the same situation as well, so keep the replies coming.